Estar enamorado de tu pareja no os hace compatibles
Permíteme empezar esto con una pregunta: ¿cuántas veces has estado enamorado hasta el punto de que habrías hecho cualquier cosa para hacer feliz a una persona en particular, pero la relación resultó ser tóxica in the end for the both of you? Too many times, right? That is a truly simple example of the fact that you can be in love with someone even though you’re not compatible.
I have figured this out on my own skin. I wasn’t as heartbroken by the fact that we weren’t meant to be together as I was when I found out that all those dreams I had about the two of us growing old together were going to stay just dreams. I wanted to love him until the end of our times, but we simply weren’t meant to be.
There were very simple differences like the fact that he was a night owl and I was an early bird. Then, there were bigger ones like he didn’t have the need to talk about his feelings nor listen to me talk about mine, because he simply found it to be a boring topic. While I? I can always talk and extend my mind. I can always tell you that the way I feel at any moment is connected to a certain event in the past and that I get triggered by usual, everyday things. Yes. We were that different.
La mayor diferencia entre nosotros era la percepción que teníamos de toda nuestra relación. Permítanme decirles que él era una persona bastante independiente, un solitario dirían algunos, pero yo, en cambio, soy alguien muy extrovertido a quien le encanta pasar el rato con la gente que quiero. Así que, por supuesto, me encantaba salir con él mientras él siempre necesitaba su tiempo a solas.
It the end, it always resulted in fights, me yelling that he doesn’t love me at all and him denying it, telling me that I had gone completely mad. It was obvious to see that our relationship wasn’t going anywhere. When we were breaking up, I was heartbroken to know the real reason—when he came up to me and told me that he loved me to death but we simply weren’t right for each other.
My mind went blank and all I could think about at that time was that he was lying! I told him that we were perfect for each other. I begged him to not do this because things weren’t that bad at all. I said that I loved him, too, so how could we not be compatible? How could I fall in love with someone who wasn’t right for me?
Cuando las cosas empezaron a aclararse en mi cabeza, vi de qué había estado hablando aquel día. Por fin lo vi claro. Siempre que hablábamos, nunca veíamos las cosas desde la misma perspectiva. Yo era demasiado emocional para su racionalidad y él simplemente tenía mayores prioridades than me. But it doesn’t change the fact that my chest still hurts from the mere thought of it.
Quería que se quedara a mi lado. Quería que me hablara. Quería que estuviera a mi lado y quizá él también quería todo eso, pero de una forma completamente distinta. Por esa razón, nos separamos y nunca volvimos a hablar.
That’s why you should never be devastated when you fall in love but you two end up going your separate ways. You shouldn’t be depressed; you shouldn’t be sad. Love simply wasn’t enough for the two of you to stay together. Relationships are hard work, a lot of talking and they are about having a shoulder to cry on. Some people simply can’t give you that in the amount that you would want to have it.
Until you find the man who is perfect for you, meeting your needs and appreciating you fully, don’t just sit around sollozando y llorando, because it’s not something that will help you at all. Justa saber que realmente vendrá, recuerda que te amará completamente y te aceptará plenamente. Serás todo lo que siempre quiso y más. Le amarás y esta vez, tal vez, el amor será suficiente.
