¿Volverá a ti si le dejas marchar?

So, there was this great guy you loved more than anyone else in this world… BORING. Let me try again. No, he wasn’t an amazing guy, but he was close to being one.

He was just a regular guy who happened to win your heart at the most inconvenient time for him or you. In your eyes, he was a guy who would do anything for you until you realized that this wasn’t really true.

Sí, te mandaba mensajes y te llamaba con frecuencia, os reíais y os lo pasabais como nunca, y también teníais vuestra buena ración de discusiones y peleas.

De ser un tipo normal que de alguna manera logró ganarse tu corazón, pasó a ser sólo un recuerdo. ¿O no?

He became a person you wish you’d never met because now you have to deal with another set of challenging problems for even the strongest of people: ¿Regresará alguna vez? ¿Debería déjalo ir o seguir enviándole mensajes hasta que decida reconocer mi existencia?

Your friends have always been your biggest support system (especially during tough times), but unfortunately, they can’t help you with this one. But maybe I can.

Here’s the thing, my brave ladies: Los hombres casi siempre vuelven si les dejas espacio suficiente para ello.

¿Volverá a ti si se lo suplicas?

To help you understand why begging is the most toxic thing you could ever do, here’s how your man would see you if you were to beg him to come back to you: OMG, she’s obviously desperate. She doesn’t have her own life, and that’s why she needs me. I don’t want to be with a woman who needs me. Instead, I want her to want me.

Long story short, by begging him to come back to you, you’ll lose him forever and not because you’re not an amazing woman but because you think you’re not.

Self-confident women NEVER BEG for things they don’t have at the moment.

They live their best life and let men know that they don’t need them to make them happy. Begging someone is a strong sign of a lack of self-confidence and self-worth.

I’ll be direct: Fall in love with yourself, and you’ll never have to beg any man to come back to you because they’ll never leave in the first place.

¿Volverá a ti si sigues enviándole mensajes y llamándole?

It’s late at night, and you’re watching a movie or texting with your friends, trying hard not to think of HIM – the person who is the main cause of all your misery at the moment.

Just as you’re about to go to sleep, your mind and effort to resist texting him fail you:

Hi, what’s up?

No hay respuesta.

(Cinco minutos después): ¿Qué has estado haciendo?

No hay respuesta.

(Media hora más tarde): Me preguntaba si podría ayudarme con (algo).

No hay respuesta.

(Dos horas después): I hate you! Why don’t you text me back??

Aún no hay respuesta.

I have a confession to make: If there’s one thing I hate the most in the whole wide world, it is a man’s divine capacidad de ignorar a una mujer.

I’m pretty sure they enjoy this. They probably live for it.

And that’s why, my dear lady, you shouldn’t let him play you. Don’t text him and don’t call him if you want him to come back to you.

Demuéstrale que tienes cosas más importantes que hacer en este momento que enviarle un mensaje de texto (aunque la verdad sea otra).

If you want a man to come back to you, you need to let him know that you’re having the time of your life with or without him. Texting or calling him frequently certainly won’t leave that impression.

¿Volverá a ti si le haces saber que le necesitas?

It’s truly fascinating how our brains work. We convince ourselves that if we let other people know how much power they have over our lives, they will come back and apologize for taking us for granted.

We think that by glorifying them, we are doing ourselves a favor, and they will stick to us like glue. Here’s the “surprising” truth: NO, they won’t.

Si sigues haciéndole saber a tu hombre lo mucho que le necesitas (a través de mensajes de texto, llamadas, acoso, etc.), él estará totalmente desinteresado en volver a estar juntos contigo. ¿Por qué?

Because by doing that, you’re depriving him of his natural instinct, which is to CHASE. Is it possible to chase someone who needs you? I don’t think so. Do the math yourself.

Men chase women who don’t need them. Men want women who don’t need them.

Vuelven con mujeres fuertes, independientes y seguras de sí mismas porque saben que nunca se perdonarían haber perdido para siempre a una mujer así.

Men come back to women who don’t prioritize them but give them space to court them.

¿Volverá a ti si le dejas marchar?

¿Volverá si lo dejas solo?? Aunque no se trata de una fórmula mágica que funcione siempre, tienes más posibilidades de que vuelva si simplemente le dejas marchar.

¿Qué significa dejar ir a un hombre? Significa lo siguiente:

• Nada de mensajes de texto.
• No llamar.
• Nada de hablar de él con sus amigos.
• Sin acoso.
• No se habla de él.
• No pensar en él.

Dejarlo ir significa olvidar que alguna vez existió (o al menos intentarlo) y centrarte en las cosas que suceden en tu vida en este momento.

It means hanging out with your friends without talking about him all the time, going for a walk without imagining that you’ll stumble upon him every second. You get the idea.

Volverá cuando te olvides de él..

And then, one morning, you’ll finally wake up without thinking about him for the first time, and do you know what will happen? He will come back.

Volverá silenciosa y hábilmente como si nunca se hubiera ido.

It’s awe-inspiring how men know when a woman finally succeeds in forgetting about them. It’s like they have this radar that tells them: Oye, esta mujer se olvidó de ti. ¡Deberías volver con ella!

Seriously, it would be funny if it wasn’t true.

Mi opinión personal es que los hombres vuelven cuando te olvidas de ellos porque en secreto han disfrutado viéndote sufrir.

Now that you’re finally feeling good, it’s their holy duty to make you feel miserable again. (Just kidding, but maybe someday I’ll be able to prove my hypothesis true.)

Así que, si le dejas marchar, lo más probable es que vuelva. ¿Por qué? Nadie tiene la respuesta correcta a esa pregunta.

Quizá vuelva porque por fin se ha dado cuenta de lo egoísta que era antes. O porque ha cambiado y ahora quiere impresionarte con sus habilidades de cortejo actualizadas.

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Whatever the reason, just make sure that he’s worthy of coming back into your life.

Don’t pretend that he didn’t hurt you (if he did) or that everything is perfect all of a sudden. Make him work hard to win your heart, love, and trust again.

Don’t serve yourself to him as a dessert that he doesn’t even have to pay for.

Demand that he makes an effort and courts you like you deserve. Demand respect, appreciation, and a promise that he’ll never repeat the same mistakes (if there were any).

Also, promise yourself that you’ll never take yourself for granted again and that you’ll never see his presence as something you can’t live without.

Eres valiente. Eres inteligente. Eres guapa por dentro y por fuera.

Remember: You don’t need a man to make you happy because you can be perfectly happy on your own.

In the end, it doesn’t even matter if he comes back or not. What matters is that you fall in love with yourself and realize that all the love you’ve given will come back to you someday de una forma u otra.