La verdad es que no está emocionalmente roto, sólo es un gilipollas.
La curiosa verdad sobre todas las relaciones humanas es que tenemos tendencia a justificar las acciones de las personas que nos importan profundamente.
Actually, we want to justify to ourself the fact that we love someone who clearly doesn’t deserve our love and who doesn’t deserve a place in our life so we make excuses for that person’s behavior.
We feel humiliated and foolish for caring for someone we know is not good for us and maybe is not even a good person in general but our heart refuses to accept this notion and constantly tries to see what lies behind this person’s behavior toward us.
It’s the same with you and this one guy in your life. From the moment you met him, he made some things clear.
Dejó claro que no es alguien que esté dispuesto a comprometerse y alguien que pueda darte la el amor que mereces.
Aunque probablemente nunca te dijo algo así en voz alta, seguro que te lo demostró con sus acciones.
And ever since you met him, he has done nothing but cause you pain. You suffered a lot because of him and the way he’s been treating you but even all of that didn’t chase you away from him.
So it’s evident you have something that keeps you around this guy.
Por supuesto, es evidente que sientes algo profundo por él. Le quieres y harías cualquier cosa para que él te correspondiera.
But somehow, that isn’t happening, despite all of your efforts.
Aunque este hombre es un capullo contigo la mayor parte del tiempo, cada vez que quieres dejar esta situación, hace algo para que te replantees tu decisión.
He does something which makes you give him another chance, even though he clearly doesn’t deserve it.
Te da un poco de su amor y atención—lo suficiente para mantenerte cerca. Y esto es algo a lo que te aferras durante meses.
After a lot of thought, you’ve reached a conclusion. You’ve come to think that this man is actually emocionalmente dañado y roto y que esta es la causa de todos sus problemas.
Esta es la causa de su comportamiento hacia ti y esto es lo que le ha convertido en el hombre que es hoy.
This is why he doesn’t want to commit and why he doesn’t want to open up to you or show you his life.
Porque es obvio que le han hecho daño en el pasado y no está dispuesto a permitir que vuelva a ocurrir.
Esto es algo que te hace pensar que no es tan malo como parece y esto es algo que te hace justificar su comportamiento hacia ti.
You simply assume that this guy needs your love to change, that he needs your guidance and support through life and that you can’t leave him hanging.
Te ves a ti misma como una supermujer cuya tarea es salvar a este hombre y curar su corazón.
Bueno, odio ser quien te lo diga, pero lo más probable es que este hombre no esté emocionalmente dañado o roto.
Lo más probable es que sólo sea un hombre tóxico que juega juegos mentales sin ninguna razón.
I know you are trying to get to the bottom of his behavior and that you are trying to find the reason for the way he’s been treating you but it’s time to accept that some men do this and there is nothing you can do about it.
I know this is painful for you to hear but I don’t want you to think that this guy loves you somewhere in the depths of his heart and that you just need to try a little bit harder for this love to come to the surface.
I don’t want you to think that he is actually running away from his feelings for you because he is scared of their intensity.
I don’t want you to think that he is petrified that you would hurt him and that this is why he refuses to give himself completely to you.
I don’t want you to think that there is a vulnerable, little boy, waiting to be loved, hidden inside of this man.
Porque nada de eso es cierto.
Este hombre simplemente te ha estado utilizando a ti y a tu amor y bondad todo el tiempo.
Te está utilizando por su ego, por sexo o simplemente porque le gusta que le quieras o tener siempre a alguien a su lado.
En cualquier caso, la cuestión es la misma—deja de justificarlo because it’s about time you look the truth in the eyes.
