La vida es un lío y estas son 8 razones por las que deberías aceptarla plenamente
La vida real es un caos. Y por mucho que nos esforcemos por llevar una vida perfecta, siempre habrá días buenos y días malos.
You cannot escape the messiness of life no matter how much of a perfectionist you are (trust me, I’ve tried). It’s time to embrace, accept and learn to love the total mess your life can be at times. Why?
Because if you keep striving for perfection, you’re never going to be happy. If you keep looking for that pieza que falta en lugar de vivir tu vida desordenada al máximo, la felicidad pasará de largo.
Libérate de tu necesidad de tener el control y sabe cuándo decir adiós a esos objetivos inalcanzables que te hacen sentir así.
Tu obsesión por la perfección sólo va a deteriorar tu bienestar y te abocará a un fracaso inevitable.
Instead, hear me out when I tell you that embracing life’s messiness is the most gracious thing you can do for yourself. And here’s why!
Obsesionarse con una perfección inalcanzable te hace perder de vista a ti mismo
¿Quién eras antes de que tu necesidad de perfección te venciera y empezara a ser tu guía por la vida?
¿A qué te dedicaste? ¿Pusiste en práctica el autocuidado a diario y tu vida fue desordenada pero mereció totalmente la pena?
Remind yourself of this person! Remind yourself of all the hard work you put into everything that you do. You’re more than your need for perfection.
You’re more than that one unattainable goal that’s been bugging you for years.
Eres perfecto tal y como eres. No le falta nada a tu vida, solo un poco de realidad. You don’t need to be perfect to be amazing.
You don’t have to keep pushing yourself beyond your limits to the point of forgetting to just sit back and enjoy life.
Give yourself a break with everything you’ve done and all you’ve been through. You work hard, take care of your loved ones, put real food on the table and keep a tidy home.
So what if it gets messy sometimes? That’s a sign you’re alive. Fully embrace every part of yourself and love every single flaw that makes you unique.
Trying to be someone you’re not is messy work. Be your unapologetic, authentic self and remind yourself to enjoy the little things.
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The voice telling you that you need to be perfect doesn’t really matter
La perfección es una plaga que ha invadido nuestra sociedad. Los medios de comunicación siguen promoviendo imágenes corporales poco saludables y vidas aparentemente perfectas que en realidad distan mucho de serlo.
Nadie lo tiene todo. Nadie está plenamente satisfecho con todos los aspectos de su vida sin un solo remordimiento. Pero nadie va a escribir sobre eso.
Nobody will tell you that it’s totally okay to be average but happy.
Nobody is going to tell you that leading tidy lives will ultimately keep you wondering what could’ve been if you weren’t so focused on the next thing.
What I’m trying to say is this: That voice that keeps telling you to keep reaching for more and to never settle for less doesn’t carry any significance.
It’s just what the outside world has instilled in you. It’s not real.
It’s countless hours spent looking at Victoria’s Secret supermodels. It’s bingeing TV shows filled with gorgeous girls who seemingly have it all.
It’s your best friend whose body looks smashing no matter how much she eats and her face that could be compared to those of the biggest beauties of today.
Pero tienes que dejar de dejar que estas cosas afecten a tu mentalidad. La vida es un lío. La gente es desordenada. Incluso las personas más ordenadas tienen cosas que les preocupan en el fondo.
Deja de presionarte innecesariamente y, en lugar de fijarte en las supermodelos en bikini, pon Harry Potter y verás lo que es la vida en realidad.
Friendship, overcoming obstacles with the help of your nearest and dearest and being happy just the way you are. Don’t let social media and Facebook groups tell you differently.
La gente feliz está demasiado contenta con su vida como para publicarla en Internet. Piénsalo un segundo.
Your flaws and imperfections are what’s so awesome about you
Deja de fijarte en tus defectos. Deja de pensar que la gente sólo te ve superficialmente. Tú estás más allá de eso. De hecho, las cosas que odias de ti mismo son las que más atraen a los demás.
Tus innumerables pecas, tu personalidad ruidosa, tu forma de decir las cosas como son y tu total franqueza te hacen tan especial.
You might think that these make you less awesome but it’s the opposite. These things make you stand out from the rest.
Every single thing you yearn to change is what someone loves about you. We are our own worst critic and that’s the understatement of the century.
Here’s what I suggest you do. Whenever you start feeling like you’re not enough or like your life is anywhere but where you want it to be, put yourself in your best friend’s shoes.
What would she/he tell you if they were with you right now? And be honest with yourself. You know that they would tell you’re so much more than that dream you still haven’t achieved.
They’d tell you that your flaws are actually cute, peculiar qualities that people find surprisingly adorable. They would never let you be so hard on yourself.
And they’d be right. Everything we want to change about ourself is exactly what makes us so unique. Why would you want to be like someone else anyway?
It’s better to stand out with your uniqueness than to be bland and go with the crowd. You’re too awesome for that anyway.
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La perfección no deja espacio para el crecimiento
Piénsalo. Lo que anhelas tan profundamente es un lugar estancado. No hay otro sitio al que ir que hacia abajo. Una vez alcanzada la perfección, ¿adónde puedes ir después?
Everything that follows will be a massive let-down because in that perfect bubble, there is no room left for you to grow, change and achieve more than you ever could’ve hoped for.
No quedan posibilidades. Así que si lo piensas detenidamente, ¿es realmente tan seductor?
Cometiendo errores y aceptando la noción de que la vida es un líoEn el trabajo, te das constantemente la oportunidad de aprender y mejorar a través de la experiencia.
It’s what grounds you, shapes you and ultimately makes you who you are. Being imperfect means always striving for more but never to the point of being obsessed with something as unattainable as perfection.
Fomenta un entorno que te permita ser quien eres, sin expectativas disparatadas, limitaciones ni restricciones.
For the first time ever, try to see the beauty that lies in all the messiness that’s ahead. Yes, you’ll make mistakes and no, life won’t always be a breeze but that’s okay.
When you go through life with the right, realistic mindset, you’ll see the beauty that lies everywhere around you. Your messy kitchen counter means you’re not hungry.
Your untidy living room means that people live there freely and happily. Your job that you’re not sure you want to keep means that you’ll likely push yourself to find something that fulfills you.
All of these things bring endless possibilities. It’s all about how you choose to see it. Abraza tu vida desordenadasólo tienes una oportunidad.
Embracing life’s messiness means you’re in control of your happiness
Se trata de cuidar de uno mismo y asegurarse de vivir una vida acorde con su expectativas.
You don’t have to please anyone else but your own self. You don’t have to let anyone tell you how to live your life because it’s none of their business!
Don’t let them tell you that you’re not enough. Don’t let them make you feel less worthy because you still haven’t got it all figured out. It’s your life, your rules and your own pace.
Algunas personas saben quiénes son y lo que quieren a los 20 años, mientras que otras tardan décadas en descubrirlo. ¿Y qué?
Life is a marathon, not a sprint. Take your time. Just because things are a bit messy now, it doesn’t mean it’ll be that way forever!
Who gets to tell you how to be happy? Nobody but you. Because you’re the only one who knows what soothes your soul.
You’re the only one who knows what makes your heart sing. So what if you’re still not there? One day, you’ll be just as happy (if not happier) as you wish you were right now.
Maybe you’re currently struggling. Maybe you’ve swerved off the path you want to be taking. Don’t worry about it. We all get lost sometimes sin saber qué hacer con nuestra vida. It’s not the end of the world.
Trust me; when I pictured my life at my current age, I definitely didn’t think things would be the way they are. But I’m still happy.
It doesn’t matter that I had a different vision for where I’d be today. Life had other plans and I’m totally okay with that. Just because you think something will make you happy, it doesn’t necessarily mean that it will.
Ten years ago, I probably would have been shocked and disappointed if I had known that most of the things I’d envisioned for myself wouldn’t have panned out. But today, I’m fulfilled just the way that I am.
La vida tiene una forma curiosa de resolverse de la forma que nunca soñaste que lo haría. Espera.
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Te ayuda a conectar con tu verdadero yo
You have to be honest with yourself; if you’re not, what’s the point? You’re never going to be truly happy. You’re never going to be able to be in touch with your feelings.
But embracing the fact that yeah, life is messy, but it doesn’t mean that you’re doing it wrong will fuel you to keep being true to who you are.
La vida real isn’t all roses and butterflies. It’s every struggle, failure and sadness in-between. It’s every uncomfortable moment that makes you see who your real friends are.
It’s every tear you spilled over someone who didn’t deserve you. It’s giving yourself a break after a long, hard day and choosing not to clean the house because you just don’t have the energy.
That’s life. That’s what’s real. Not pretending to be anything more or less than what you are.
When you’re able to embrace it and be okay with every single part of life, even the most uncomfortable parts, you’ll be your best self.
You’re no good to anyone (especially to yourself) if you keep forcing yourself to be someone you’re not. It’ll keep you perpetually jaded, unfulfilled and miserable.
Mantén la cabeza alta y la barbilla alta. Vendrán cosas buenas. Pero también tienes que aceptar todo lo que ocurra entre medias.
That’s life and that’s the only way to live it. Know that being true to yourself is the only way to go. And if there’s anyone in your life making you feel bad about it, discard them.
Tus emociones desordenadas te traerán revelaciones inesperadas
¿Cuántas veces has pensado que la única forma de que te vean guapa, digna y querible es poniéndote una máscara y negando la verdadera esencia de lo que eres?
How many times have you let yourself believe that in order to live up to someone’s expectations you had to tame some part of yourself?
La verdadera aceptación viene de ser capaz de reconocer que las cosas inesperadas en realidad te aportan una sabiduría infinita.
Cada cosa que te hacía sentir intranquilo e incómodo también te hacía darte cuenta de muchas cosas.
For example, that thing you recently went through; you never would’ve thought that you’d be able to do it, right?
And look at you now, as if it never happened. That’s what usually happens with unexpected, messy hurdles. They bring you new realizations that are inspiring and encouraging.
Cada vez que piensas que algo te destruirá mentalmente, acaba haciéndote más fuerte, más inteligente y más perseverante.
That’s because until you’re in a situation that demands you to do things you never thought you could, you never really know how capable you are.
So embrace your messy emotions. Embrace that rocky path. You have to learn to appreciate every single thing you go through because that’s what makes you so strong in the end.
La vida es un lío and perfection isn’t real. Whoever tells you differently lives in a bubble that’s about to burst.
Let go of your need to censor and control your emotions. Instead, let them rule you and see how better you’ll be for it. The good days are right now. Learn to see them and cherish them.
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Ultimately, accepting life’s messiness feels all kinds of freeing!
As I’ve already established, nobody in this world has it all. Not one person leads a perfect life filled with sunshine and rainbows. So why do you keep expecting to get to a place that doesn’t exist?
Acepta tu vida tal y como es. Desordenada, impredecible, llena de sorpresas inesperadas, pero auténtica y real.
You’re not a robot. Things won’t always automatically be great but that’s okay!
El desorden y los errores son herramientas que te liberan de tu incesante necesidad de hacerlo todo bien. Y sienta muy bien una vez que aprendes a aceptarlo.
So what if things are a bit confusing right now? So what if you’re stuck in a job you don’t like or in a city you want to escape? It’s not going to last forever.
Life has this miraculous way of working itself out in the most unexpected ways. Things rarely pan out exactly the way you envisioned they would. But that’s the beauty of life!
You never really know what you’re getting and it keeps you on your toes every single day. Isn’t that the best way to live?
