No sé qué hacer con mi vida: 30 consejos para cambiar el juego

There’s no human being on earth who never feels lost. We all experience it, and yet somehow, we always forget that…

Being lost has a different meaning for all of us. Perhaps you’ve just finished high school and you think it’s time to finally get a job. Or, perhaps you’re generally stuck in a rut.

Either way, you think ‘’I don’t know what to do with my life… I don’t know who to be.’’

Since I perfectly understand what you’re going through, you will be offered life-changing pieces of advice. Do you want to know what those are? Then, read on and watch how you can tome el control de su vida en poco tiempo!

Is It Okay That I Don’t Know What To Do With My Life?

Absolutamente.

I know it’s hard being uncertain about which step to take next, but that doesn’t say anything about you.

La vida puede ser un lío, pero hay que aceptarlo por frustrante que sea. No es culpa tuya, y estar perdido a veces es perfectamente comprensible.

You aren’t defined by only one thing

Walt Whitman once said: ”Soy grande, contengo multitudes.”

Well, you are indeed large, and not at all defined by your inability to choose a path in life. Rather, think of the paths you’ve already chosen. Acknowledge all you’ve achieved so far. THAT is who you are.

Instead of going on a guilt trip over what you can’t do, look back and celébrate a ti mismo y todas tus victorias, even the ”minor” ones.

This is only a setback and not proof of your failure. Besides, isn’t it more fulfilling to get something you want after really fighting for it?

Others rarely know what they’re doing either

When you feel lost, you often believe that you’re the only one feeling that way. However, there are actually a lot of people who share your sentiments and who struggle daily because they can’t figure out what to do next.

Don’t make things harder by convincing yourself that you’re alone in this. It’s only natural to be confused at times; others just don’t talk about it. They perceive it as a weakness that is not worth sharing the same as you do.

Pero it’s not a weakness. It’s just a normal part of human existence, and you should accept it.

Hazlo a tu ritmo

Sé que desplazarse a través de sus medios de comunicación social y ver a otros alcanzar sus objetivos te hace sentir fatal. Ejerce una enorme presión sobre ti porque estás socialmente condicionado a creer que tienes que conseguir ciertas cosas a cierta edad.

Well, know that you don’t have to. It’s okay if you don’t want a job at this moment. You don’t have to marry before you’re thirty years old. Lo único importante es que hagas lo que te hace feliz regardless of your age or other people’s lives.

Remember – there are no rules; only the ones you make. Your life is your own, so treat it as such. Don’t compare it to anyone else’s.

Sea amable consigo mismo

It’s understandable to be upset if you come to the point where you think ”I don’t know what to do with my life.” Just make sure that you don’t judge yourself para ello.

People will often tell you that self-criticism is the greatest motivation, but what they don’t tell you is lo importante que es para su bienestar sólo sé amable contigo mismo.

Practica la autocrítica para determinar qué aspectos de tu vida necesitas modificar, pero dejar de ser autodespreciativo porque eso le hará más mal que bien. En su lugar, ponga en práctica autocuidado emocional en tu rutina diaria.

¿Cómo sé qué debo hacer con mi vida?

I know that sometimes, you get stuck in one place and you don’t exactly know where to go. You yearn to cambia tu vida, but you don’t even know how.

What’s the right thing to do? What should you be like?

Si esto es lo que está contemplando, he aquí algunos consejos generales:

1. Tómatelo con calma

You don’t have to figure it all out in an instant. Think about it. You only have one life.

¿Quieres elegir un camino sólo por elegir?

Wouldn’t you want to be enthusiastic about it?

Confía en mí, cuando menos te lo esperes, vendrá a ti. Dedica el tiempo necesario a mejorar tu vida, pero retrasa la toma de cualquier decisión importante sólo porque crees que TIENES QUE hacerlo ahora.

Haz pequeños planes, pero también déjate llevar por la corriente.

2. Piensa en quién eres

Sometimes, the people around you will try to convince you that being a doctor is the ideal job while you have a start-up company of your own in mind. Or, they will tell you that it’s time to settle down despite knowing that being single makes you happy.

Probablemente te molesten y los descartes, pero oírlos constantemente te influye. Tus planes se te escapan e inconscientemente empiezas a compartir sus opiniones. Don’t let that happen. Think about who you truly are.

¿Quieres quedarte soltero y, en cambio, dar la vuelta al mundo en solitario?

¿Quieres hacer lo que te gusta a pesar de que no te paguen bien?

Ten en cuenta únicamente TUS deseos porque son los únicos que importan.

3. Think about who you’d like to be

While it’s important to know who you are, you also have to think about what you want to change.

¿Desea mejorar su capacidad de gestión del tiempo?

¿Sueña con ser soltero but you don’t know cómo romper?

Todos tenemos objetivos diferentes, e incluso los aparentemente pequeños nos cambian la vida. Nada carece de importancia si lo deseas lo más mínimo.

4. Encuentra tu inspiración

Isn’t it a great feeling when you find something or someone that inspires you to work hard for your objetivos en la vida? Te pinta el panorama de cómo podría ser tu vida y refuerza la confianza en ti mismo.

Whenever you start thinking ‘’I don’t know what to do with my life,’’ go to the source of your inspiration and don’t abandon it until you feel otherwise.

However, don’t become too immersed in it either. Seeing others living the life that you want can affect you to the extent to where you easily forget about yourself.

Remember – you want motivación y no un escape de tu realidad.

5. Sal de tu zona de confort

I’m sorry to say this, but you can’t have the life you want if you stay where you are comfortable. Sometimes, it’s necessary to get out there and do the thing that terrifies you.

It’s valid to be afraid, but you can’t let it control you. Once you salga de su zona de confort, it’s going to be really hard at first, but eventually, you’ll see that it isn’t so bad.

Si lo es, en cambio, siempre puedes dar un paso atrás y buscar lo que quieres en otra parte. Lo importante es intentarlo.

6. Deja de buscar excusas

A menudo, estamos motivados en un momento y al siguiente encontramos una excusa para abandonar nuestro objetivo. búsqueda de la felicidad. El miedo a probar algo nuevo nos ha abrumado y sólo queremos volver a nuestra burbuja para sentirnos seguros de nuevo.

Stop this. As comforting as it is, your bubble doesn’t let you feel the joy of fulfilling your own wishes. Expand it.

Staying in the same place doesn’t do you any good, and you feeling guilty about it doesn’t change anything. What you should do is convince yourself that whatever you imagine is yours to have because you DESERVE it.

7. Hacer las paces con el posible fracaso

There’s nothing quite like the fear of failure to stop us from reaching our goals. Although this kind of self-sabotage serves as a way to protect us, it actually does the opposite. Don’t let it.

Go out there and fail big if need be. There’s truly nothing shameful about that. It may sound cheesy, but failure really does help you learn.

You can’t always succeed. There are always going to be bumps in the road, but that doesn’t mean you suck at life. The day you realize this will be the day you cambia tu vida del todo.

8. Crear un tablero de visión

There’s nothing more motivating than having all of your life goals in front of you whenever you wake up in the morning.

¿Quiere ir a la universidad? ¿Es tu mayor deseo visitar Nueva York?

Visualiza tu vida ideal y ponla por escrito. Busca citas e imágenes, o dibuja algo tú mismo. Conviértelo en un proyecto creativo. What’s important is that it inspira tu crecimiento personal.

Don’t let anyone tell you that this is meant for those of a young age. In reality, it’s more meant for adults because we are the ones with a bunch of goals, are we not?

¿Cómo puedo encontrar una profesión que me guste?

Finding your dream job can indeed be challenging. Perhaps you already know what it is, or you’re still trying to figure it out. Either way, things aren’t going the way you want them to, and you constantly think to yourself ”I don’t know what to do with my life”.

¿Por dónde empezar?

¿Debe dejar que otros le guíen hacia la decisión correcta?

Should you reject any opportunity that doesn’t lead to your trabajo ideal?

If this is what you’re wondering, here’s what to do:

1. Conoce tus puntos fuertes

I’m sure that upon reading the title, some of your desirable traits came to mind. We all have them, but sadly, we’re often not aware of it.

If you’re not certain what yours are, discover them, or ask someone else to give you feedback. Either way, determining your talents is crucial in finding the perfect career path.

Be aware of what you’re good at and use it to your advantage. Pronto prosperarás y serás capaz de casi todo.

2. Conozca sus puntos débiles

Ignoring what you’re not good at is simply not an option. To find the perfect job, you need to figure out your weaknesses so you can work on them.

For instance, if you want to be a teacher, you need to be able to convey your knowledge to others properly. How do you think you’ll manage that if you’re not good at explaining yourself?

Don’t be hard on yourselfSin embargo. You can’t be good at everything, but you do need to look at the situation realistically in order to succeed.

3. Probar diferentes trabajos

While it’s useful to go in the direction of success, it can be exciting to try something a bit riskier. You don’t always need to look for a long-term job that will fulfill you for life.

¿Por qué no intentar hacer un montón de a corto plazo ¿trabajos de los que no sabes nada?

If you want to be a cashier at the moment, but aren’t good with calculations, does that mean you should never give it a shot?

It may not always be wise, but it’s still an opportunity to learn a new skill and to gain an amazing experience overall!

4. Observa lo que te llena de entusiasmo

You probably don’t associate anything positive with the word ‘job.’ It feels more like an obligation that you have to fulfill in order to have a decent life. However, it doesn’t have to be that way…

Piensa en aquello que te hace tanta ilusión que quieres hacerlo todos los días. ¿Puedes convertirlo en una profesión? Si puedes, ¡adelante!

Of course, not everything has to be monetized, but money isn’t the point here.

If you could have the chance to both do something you love AND get paid for it, wouldn’t you take it?

5. Don’t listen to others

As we’ve previously mentioned, others filling our heads with their ideas of who we’re supposed to be can have a great impact on us. It’s crucial that you ignore them and figure out what YOU want.

A veces, inconscientemente vamos en la dirección que nos aconsejan, creyendo que es nuestra elección. Ten cuidado con eso también.

You can let others offer you advice on what to do, but it’s not on them to make that decision for you.

¿Cómo puedo tener una vida mejor?

Sé que a veces es como tener un vida personal equilibrada está fuera de tu alcance. Pero, créeme, nunca lo está.

It’s just not enough to only think ”I don’t know what to do with my life.” You need to work for it and accept that it can’t change in a single day. It’s fine if it takes you a long period of time, even years, because la importancia reside en tu esfuerzo diario.

Un día mirarás atrás y de repente te darás cuenta de lo diferente que es tu vida de lo que solía ser. Ten paciencia.

If you’re not so sure where to begin, here are some useful tips:

1. Tener un buen horario de sueño

As good as it feels to be a night owl, it does you no good, and that’s a fact. You simply CANNOT function during the day if you’ve slept only a few hours. Tu cuerpo necesita tantos cuidados como tu mente.

If you’re having trouble fixing your sleep schedule, you can always take baby steps. Start going to bed and waking up only an hour earlier or even less because you can’t change all of a sudden. It needs to be gradual to be effective.

You don’t have to give up the joy you feel at night entirely, but keep in mind that continuously staying up late is self-destructive. So, get enough sleep and you’ll see how much better you’ll feel!

2. Don’t forget to eat and drink water regularly

This one might be obvious, but I know a lot of you skip meals and don’t drink water regularly. You’re either too sad to care or too happy to remember. Whatever your reason is, make sure not to do that anymore.

Si quieres tener la vida que deseas, necesitas alimentar tu cuerpo adecuadamente. Come tres veces al día y bebe unos 2 litros de agua, como aconsejan los expertos. Verás cómo te sientes mucho mejor y más preparado para nuevas victorias.

3. Ejercicio diario

Sé que sólo pensar en la actividad física te hace poner los ojos en blanco y suspirar, pero realmente es un componente crucial de la superación personal. What’s the use in feeding your mind if your body’s neglected?

You don’t have to devote two hours to exercising. In fact, you shouldn’t. That will only deter you from doing it again because you’ll be too exhausted.

However, if you start small, and increase the time bit by bit every few days, it’ll keep you motivated. You will have the energy to accomplish anything you set your mind to!

4. Salir a pasear

There’s nothing better to help you clear your mind than a nice, long walk. It’s the perfect opportunity for contemplation, whether you go by yourself or with a loved one.

El mero hecho de estar fuera te da una perspectiva totalmente nueva de tu situación. Todos los problemas parecen más fáciles de resolver y todos los objetivos más alcanzables.

Escucha música o los sonidos de tu entorno y sumérgete en tus deseos. Te aseguro que cuantos más paseos des, mejor te sentirás, tanto mental como físicamente.

5. Pasar tiempo en la naturaleza

Contemplating your life may be important, but simply allowing yourself to just ‘be’ sometimes is entirely necessary.

Ve al bosque o siéntate junto a un río. Olvídate de todos tus problemas y disfruta de los sonidos de la naturaleza. Vivir la vida en armonía.

You’ll see how you’ll forget yourself in an instant! Todo lo que existe será sólo lo que te rodea. Te fundirás con ello y todos tus problemas dejarán de existir por un tiempo.

‘’Live in each season as it passes; breathe the air, drink the drink, taste the fruit, and resign yourself to the influence of the earth.’’ – Henry David Thoreau

6. Empezar un hobby

We all have a daily routine. If you don’t want to add anything to it, that’s fine. But, if you get bored and think ”I don’t know what I want to do with my life”, finding a new hobby is the perfect step!

It doesn’t have to be something you’re good at. Try something you have never done before. The purpose of this isn’t to show how skilled you are, or even to become skilled, for that matter. It’s rather about taking your life into your own hands and making it more fun.

You can take piano lessons or practise drawing. I even bought a color book to find my inner child again. A hobby doesn’t necessarily have to be a sport or anything of the sort. It’s whatever you find amusing. Go and do it NOW!

7. Establecer tareas diarias

It doesn’t matter if you’re doing housework or doing research on an interesting topic. What’s important is that you set tasks for yourself every day.

This helps you be more organized as well as motivated. It’s fine if you don’t fully perform them. You can do it the next day because it’s all about training your mind and making yourself a more hard-working person.

You can download To-do list apps, or simply write the tasks down. It’s not necessary to devote your whole day to them. It can just be one hour. It’s all up to you.

8. Don’t forget to relax

As essential as daily work is, you shouldn’t overexert yourself. Make time for relaxation for the sake of your mental health. Reward yourself for all you’ve achieved that day.

Whether it’s watching your favorite TV show or eating chocolate, it’s crucial for your further progress and motivation.

No permitirse descansar puede causarle una fatiga extrema, que le impedirá cumplir sus tareas con éxito. Además, te resentirás incluso si realmente disfrutas haciéndolas.

That’s why you should always find a balance between work and play. That one bar of chocolate might just increase your efficiency at work!

¿Cómo puedo mejorar como persona?

Self-improvement isn’t an easy task at all. It’s especially hard because even when you know that you need to change, you fail to be honesto consigo mismo.

¿Te faltan principios y nunca cuestionas nada?

¿Qué haría usted? si alguien acudiera a ti con sus problemas?

If your answers aren’t what you’d wish them to be, this is what you should keep in mind:

1. Sé consciente de tus defectos

You can’t let go of your old self if you’re untruthful about who you are now. Self-improvement comes only when you admit that you are a flawed human being who doesn’t always make the best choices.

And, that’s fine. You can’t be perfect, but what you can do is pay attention to your flaws. After you acknowledge that you have them, figure out why they’re there in the first place. Take a psychology class or simply read self-help books, but either way, work on them.

Your flaws don’t define you, but how you deal with them does.

2. Practicar la empatía

Improving yourself sometimes means shifting your focus on other people. It’s true that you’re the most important person in your life, pero dedicarse toda la atención a uno mismo es perjudicial para uno mismo y directamente egoísta.

So, if you’re still thinking ”I don’t know what to do with my life,” there’s your answer. Ease someone else’s pain by listening to them. Be their emotional support, and you will instantly feel better about yourself.

”If there’s any kind of magic in this world, it must be in the attempt of understanding someone; sharing something. I know… it’s almost impossible to succeed, but… who cares, really? The answer must be in the attempt.” – from the movie, ”Before Sunrise”

3. Tratar a los demás con amabilidad

There’s nothing that screams ‘insecurity’ more than mistreating others in any way. But, your arrogance really won’t get you anywhere because it comes with a delusion that you don’t need fixing when you so clearly do.

La bondad, en cambio, es lo que requiere verdadera fuerza. You’re kind because you’re aware of how words can affect a person. You know that we are all equally important.

Naturally, you should stand up for yourself if need be, but don’t strive for power. That, in essence, is nothing but weakness. Instead, esforzarse por ser amable y observa lo orgulloso que estarás de ti mismo.

4. Ser auténtico

There’s no better company than an honest person, and there’s no better person to be than an honest one.

Di lo que piensas y cómo te sientes realmente. Si alguien te cae mal, deja de fingir que disfrutas con su presencia.

Not only is this trait admirable, but it’s also easier for you to live a life devoid of pretense. Think about how liberating it must be to be nothing more than yourself.

5. Sigue tus principios

Todos tenemos ciertos principios en la vida. The problem arises when we don’t follow them ourselves, but only preach them to others.

Así que quiero que pienses en tus valores y los escribas todos.

¿Cuántos de ellos puede encontrar en su propia consulta?

¿En cuáles necesita trabajar?

Tras responder a estas preguntas, elabora un plan exhaustivo sobre lo que debes hacer a continuación. Quizá quieras ser más ético o proteger más a los débiles.

Sea lo que sea, imagina lo gratificante que debe ser convertirse por fin en la persona que admiras.

¿Cómo encuentro mi propósito?

Simplemente averigua qué es lo que te llena.

I know you’re overthinking this because it’s natural. We all want to know why we’re here, secretly wishing that it’s for a grand purpose that will forever change the world. However, this is rarely so…

Su propósito de vida may be being a nurse who saves lives daily, but it can also be making people smile. Think about what drives you and what you couldn’t be without. That’s why you’re here.

On the other hand, maybe none of us are here for a reason. But, that doesn’t mean that we can’t make our existence meaningful on our own. Don’t think too much about it. Simply feel it and you’ll find your answer.

¿Cómo puedo disfrutar de la vida?

Being lost doesn’t always mean that you’re pasando por un desamor o tratando de encontrar una nueva trayectoria profesional.

When your head is full of ”I don’t know what to do with my life” thoughts, sometimes it simply means that you want a break, but you’re not quite sure qué hacer…

Bueno, la clave para tener un una vida plena ¡es redescubrir a tu niño interior!

Independientemente de tu tipo de personalidad, aquí tienes algunas ideas que pueden ayudarte vive tu vida al máximo:

Corre un maratón.
Toca un instrumento musical.
Componer una canción.
Investiga sobre una leyenda urbana.
Visite todos los continentes.
Practica el tiro con arco.
Nadar con delfines.
Practica la defensa personal.
Observa las estrellas.
Viaja solo a algún sitio.
Cose un disfraz de Halloween.
Visite una casa encantada.
Tiñe tu pelo de un color poco común.
Ir a catar vinos.
Dormir en una casa del árbol.
Haz una cápsula del tiempo.
Escala una montaña.
Acude a una cita a ciegas.
Visite un castillo.
Ir a LARP-ing (Live Action Role-Playing).

If these are too much or too out of reach for you, you can always have a picnic or go for a walk in the woods. There’s belleza en la sencillez. Ve y disfrútalo.

Conclusión

Being lost doesn’t mean that you’re incapable and that you will never find your path. It simply means that you’re struggling right now. What you feel isn’t final.

I hope that the next time you start thinking “I don’t know what to do with my life,” you remember the importance of daily efforts.

There are no big changes, only small ones that eventually turn your whole life around. So, don’t despair. You got this!