Material para el marido: 15 rasgos de personalidad que demuestran que es el indicado
Dicen que hay dos decisiones muy importantes que cada uno de nosotros tiene que tomar en la vida: elegir una carrera y elegir una pareja.
Si haces bien estas elecciones, todo lo demás será fácil. Sin embargo, si te equivocas en estas dos cosas, prepárate para un camino difícil.
Nevertheless, how can you tell if a guy you’re dating would make a good husband and is he husband material?
Yes, you two are in love and you’re having a great time together, but what are the actual signs he is cut out to be your life-long romantic partner?
I’m sure these are the questions every young woman has faced at least once in her life.
And if this is something you can relate to, congratulations, because you’ve come to the right place – where all of your problems regarding the choice of your husband will be solved.
Just read the following signs and you’ll see all the qualities your future husband should have.
15 cualidades de un buen marido
Ustedes dos son compatible
Even though many girls might think that butterflies and the sensation of being in love is the first thing they should pay attention to when it comes to finding the one you’ll spend the rest of your life with, the truth is actually quite different.
In fact, your and your partner’s compatibility should be the first factor.
Sin embargo, el truco está en que normalmente, el que más te excita es no la para ti.
Ironically, while opposites do attract the most, sadly, they often don’t last.
That’s exactly why you should focus on looking for a man who is as similar as you as possible.
That doesn’t mean that you two must be each other’s clones, but it is of crucial importance for you two to have a similar background, similar financial power, common hobbies and interests, and daily routines that don’t differ much.
Another thing you shouldn’t forget about is sexual compatibility.
Whether we like to admit it or not, sex is a huge part of every romantic relationship and if you two don’t get along in the bedroom, it’ll end up causing you many other troubles.
Acepta tu verdadero yo
Según muchos expertos en citas, el principal problema entre las parejas es el deseo de cambiarse unos a otros.
Conoces a alguien e instantáneamente piensas en todas las modificaciones que podría hacer para ajustarse a tus estándares imaginarios.
En lugar de enamorarse de una persona real, la gente se enamora de un potencial.
Por supuesto, este tipo de acuerdo nunca funciona porque nadie puede (ni debe) cambiar la esencia de su personalidad para complacer a otro.
After all, even if you do your best to change at a given moment, it can’t last forever.
Sooner or later, when you start living together and when you get married, your true colors will rise to the surface and you’ll both realize that you don’t actually love the person sleeping next to you.
Well, when you meet a guy who is husband material, everything changes. Don’t get me wrong – this guy won’t think you’re perfect and he won’t like every single one of your traits.
Sin embargo, la diferencia entre él y todos los demás hombres de tu vida es que este chico aceptará tu verdadero yo, sin ningún deseo de cambiarte. Verá tus imperfecciones y te querrá por ellas.
Por supuesto, te empujará hacia adelante y te inspirará para que siempre progreses, seas mejor y te superes en todos los campos.
Nevertheless, he’ll make you want to do it yourself; he won’t force you into any changes you’re not comfortable with.
Sabe lo que quiere de la vida
When you’re looking for a man you can see yourself potentially spending the rest of your life with, you shouldn’t be just paying attention to the way he treats you.
Después de todo, este chico será mucho más que alguien con quien sales. Hay algunas diferencias entre material de marido vs material novio.
That is why you need to carefully observe the way he handles his own life because you’re about to become a part of it too.
Is he an immature boy who doesn’t have a clue about what he wants from life and what direction he is headed?
O es real, hombre maduro ¿quién tiene objetivos y planes que le resulten atractivos?
Of course, nobody has it all figured out right away, so you shouldn’t expect from this man to have his entire life in perfect order.
However, it’s one thing if he’s working on achieving more and it is completely different if he’s the type of person who goes with the flow, doesn’t have a single worry on his mind, and lives his life day by day.
Sí, enamorarse de alguien que vive el momento es emocionante al principio. Nunca sabes lo que te deparará el mañana, y vivir así durante un tiempo puede ser un verdadero refresco para tu apretada agenda y tus obligaciones de adulto.
Nevertheless, a man like this can only serve for some fun and he won’t be more than an adventure.
Por muy emocionante que sea tener a tu lado a este chico atrapado en el cuerpo de un hombre maduro, es todo menos material para el matrimonio.
Créeme, por muy atractiva y simpática que sea su irresponsabilidad ahora, te fastidiará muchísimo en el futuro.
Por eso debes buscar a un hombre organizado que tenga las cosas claras, por muy aburrido que pueda parecer al principio.
Sus planes de futuro le incluyen
When you meet your potential husband who thinks you’re marriage material as well, he will rarely use the first person singular when talking about the future.
In fact, you’ll always be included in all of his plans simply because he can’t picture his life from this moment on without you by his side.
I’m talking about small and big things here. For example, he won’t think about his next vacation without you, or at least without consulting you.
Also, if he has the opportunity to change careers and go abroad, he won’t accept the offer like you don’t exist.
En cambio, siempre hará todo lo posible por encajarte en su vida, porque ahora te ve como una parte inevitable de ella.
Este tipo de hombre nunca se comporta como si estuviera soltero. Él es consciente de que él es una parte de una pareja, que, naturalmente, trae algunos cambios cruciales en su vida.
Besides, it is apparent that he doesn’t plan on romper contigo en breve.
Of course, nobody can guarantee that you two really will work out, but he’s definitely hoping that things will end up that way.
Quieres las mismas cosas
Otra característica crucial de un hombre material para marido es el hecho de que quiera las mismas cosas que tú.
Si los dos tienen visiones del mundo, opiniones y actitudes similares sobre todas las cosas importantes relativas a las relaciones, la familia y la vida en general, hay posibilidades de que tengan éxito juntos.
It doesn’t matter if you guys aren’t fans of the same football team, have different tastes in music, or prefer different vacation destinations – these things aren’t as relevant in marriage as they might appear now.
However, huge problems will arise if you for example don’t want kids while his dream is to have a family, if you want to pursue your career but he wants to marry a stay-at-home wife, if you want to have a lot of savings while he wants to travel, if he wants to live in the suburbs but you can’t imagine yourself out of the city rush…
La lista es interminable, pero ya me entiende.
Lo que hay que tener en cuenta es que en situaciones en las que se producen este tipo de desacuerdos, nadie tiene razón y nadie está equivocado.
You two just want different things from life and that is perfectly okay – you just can’t function together and, sadly, your relationship is likely to be condenado al fracaso.
Por eso es importante abordar estos temas a tiempo antes de hacer grandes movimientos.
I know that, now when you’re crazy in love, each one of these topics seems resolvable, but trust me, when the time comes, it’ll bring you a lot of headache.
Tienes una comunicación sana
A pesar de todo el amor que compartes con tu pareja, si a los dos os cuesta entenderos, todo lo demás carece de sentido.
After all, what’s the point in spending the rest of your life beside someone you can’t seem to find common ground with?
Por eso, un hombre material para el matrimonio debe ser alguien con quien tengas una comunicación sana, por encima de cualquier otra cosa.
This doesn’t mean that you’ll never argue with this guy – that would be impossible – but even your fights will be productive and help your relationship grow.
Este es el hombre que comprende la esencia de tu ser y nunca te juzga. Alguien que te entiende con sólo mirarte y conoce el fondo de tu personalidad.
The man you’re comfortable telling your deepest and darkest secrets to, the first person you call when you want to share every good and bad thing that happened to you, and someone you’re never ashamed in front of.
Aunque tengáis opiniones diferentes o discrepéis en algo, no os menospreciéis, insultéis o llaméis de todo.
Instead, both of you are putting in an effort to reach a compromise, grasp the other person’s point of view, and try and take a walk in their shoes before reaching a conclusion.
Whatever happens, you know that you’re both on the same side. It is always you against whatever problem you have and never one against the other.
Tiene en cuenta tu opinión
Este hombre nunca toma decisiones importantes en la vida sin consultarte antes porque sabe que, haga lo que haga, también te afectará a ti.
It’s not that he doesn’t have a mind of his own or that he needs to ask your permission for every single thing, he simply isn’t selfish and always takes your opinions, desires, and feelings into consideration.
Haga lo que haga, se pregunta cómo te sentirías y qué pensarías al respecto.
Besides, it is more than clear that he finds you intelligent and knows you always want what’s best for him, so he’ll always accept your advice with open hands.
Te pone en primer lugar
If a guy makes you feel like you’re always his segunda opción, puts everything and everyone in front of you, treats you like his last resort, calls you only when everyone else leaves him hanging – if you have to beg for crumbs of his attention in general – these are bulletproof signs he’s not husband material nor someone you should even keep in your life anymore.
However, the guy you ought to marry is completely the opposite. He always puts you in first place in his life and never fails to prove to you and to the rest of the world that you’re the most important person to him.
This doesn’t mean that he doesn’t have a life outside of your relationship – he still has his own family, friends, hobbies, and career. Nevertheless, when it comes to you, all of this is a distant second.
After all, you’re the one who should be his life partner – the one he plans to grow old with.
He might love everyone around him, but you’re his significant other and the one who always has to come before anyone else, if you want to make this relationship work out.
Es digno de confianza
You can’t imagine being friends with someone you don’t trust, right? Well, imagine how it would feel to have a future husband who isn’t trustworthy or leal.
This is another one of the important characteristics of a good husband. I’m not talking about the fact that you can tell everything to this man only; I’m talking about other things as well.
The right person for you is someone who doesn’t give empty promises and false excuses, whose deeds match his words, who won’t leave you hanging, no matter what.
Someone you know you can trust your life with. Also, having a trustworthy husband means not doubting him and never having to waste time on checking whether everything he’s told you adds up.
When you meet this kind of guy, you’ll consider it foolish to check his social media accounts in search for other women or stalk him in any other way.
In fact, jealousy will be completely unnecessary because you’ll be certain in this man’s integrity and honesty.
Nevertheless, it is important for this trust to go vice versa too. You want someone who will consider your word sacred and won’t question your every move or word.
Ustedes dos son socios iguales
Un hombre que hace todo lo posible por estar por encima de su pareja, simplemente porque es un hombre, es un problema en muchas relaciones.
There are guys who think that they’re entitled to much more than their other half and that they basically have the right to treat her the way they want.
Sin embargo, una vez que conoces a la persona adecuada, os convertís en socios en el crimenen todos los sentidos de la palabra.
Además de compartir todos los deberes y obligaciones, las opiniones de ambos tienen el mismo peso y nunca se menosprecian.
With the real person, you’re both completely equal because you’re a part of a team. Nobody is in charge and you both put equal amount of effort into making this relationship work.
Remember: A good man will never make you wonder why you’re not enough just because he, for example, is more educated than you or earns more than you do.
He won’t act like he is some Prince Charming you should be honored to have in your life, while for him, you’re easily replaceable.
El amor verdadero nunca es una relación de tipo dominante-sumiso (excepto si ambos estáis de acuerdo en que las cosas sean así en el dormitorio).
En cambio, es una asociación de por vida con dos miembros de idéntica importancia.
Es bueno con las finanzas
Otra cualidad de un gran marido es su capacidad para manejar bien las finanzas.
Of course, this is something you’ll both deal with once you get married, but you don’t want to say “I do” to the man who can’t save a dime, regardless of how much money he earns.
Don’t get me wrong and think I’m advising you to go after a guy’s wealth, because becoming a gold digger is the last thing any woman should allow herself to be.
Even though you may find a man who isn’t in financially good standing at a given moment, you should definitely give him a shot if you see that he is trying hard to make some progress and knows how to make the best out of the current situation.
The last thing you need is a guy who doesn’t think about tomorrow and earns well, but has trouble meeting ends every month simply because he lives beyond his means.
Aunque esto pueda parecer irrelevante ahora, este tipo puede convertirse fácilmente en un hombre que prefiera gastarse su paga semanal en una noche en el club o en una cena elegante que en pagar el alquiler.
Sé que oír hablar de finanzas mata la chispa e incluso puede que pienses que esto carece por completo de importancia cuando amor verdadero is at stake, but trust me when I tell you that you and your potential husband or fiance have to have similar spending habits and views on money if you don’t want to spend your life arguing about this crucial issue.
Es tu mejor amigo
Many young women make the same mistake when looking for a life partner: They think that it’s enough for a man to be a great husband is he’s a great lover and a great boyfriend.
Sin embargo, lo que parecen olvidar es que este tipo tiene que ser su mejor amigo también.
Of course, there are some topics you would rather discuss with your girlfriends and I’m not saying that this guy should be the only person you hang out and spend most of your free time with – that would make your relationship unhealthy.
Both of you should socialize with other people – nobody disputes that.
Sin embargo, un buen marido es también tu amigo de toda la vida, además de tu compañero sentimental y la persona por la que tienes sentimientos románticos.
Debe ser alguien con quien disfrutes estando en silencio, que te haga reír, que sepa secarte las lágrimas y en quien siempre puedas confiar.
He is not that type of friend who nods his head at everything you say. Instead, he’s the person who gives you the truth as it is, even when it’s harsh and you’d rather avoid hearing it.
Someone who doesn’t have a problem with calling you out on your mistakes in order to make you a better person, but also a man who will only do so in private, while he’ll use every opportunity to praise you and have your back in front of others.
Es el hombre que conoce todos los detalles de tu vida y recuerda cada pequeña cosa que pueda preocuparte.
Él te cuida
When a man loves a woman, he’ll do everything in his power to protect her because he finds her well-being his duty.
Yes, you’re a strong girl and you don’t need a Prince Charming to come to your rescue but nevertheless, he’ll be there just in case.
This man won’t endanger your independence nor will he feel threatened by the fact that you can make it on your own.
Sin embargo, es agradable saber que tienes a alguien que te cuida y en quien puedes confiar en caso de emergencia.
The man who has the potential of becoming your husband won’t mind helping you out with your chores or doing errands on your behalf.
De hecho, se sentirá honrado al ver que he’s the one you turn to whenever you’re in trouble, regardless of whether it is the slightest inconvenience such as a flat tire, or some bigger problem you need his help with.
Además de pensar en tu bienestar y hacer todo lo posible por satisfacer tus necesidades, este chico también se ocupará de tu felicidad en general.
He is not a selfish jerk who doesn’t give a damn about your life as long as his is in perfect order.
Te respeta
No matter what anyone’s trying to make you believe, there’s no such thing as true love without mutual respect.
Por lo tanto, si tu novio o prometido nunca te falta al respeto, es una de las señales de que es alguien a quien puedes planificar un futuro con.
This is the guy who respects your time, family, friends, interests, personal boundaries, past, and most importantly – individuality.
Aunque dejara de quererte y acabarais separándoos, nunca haría nada para humillarte o destruir tu dignidad.
Y no hay nada más importante que eso.
This good man doesn’t think he’ll own you the moment you say “I do” and he will never try to control you in any way.
Siente una enorme admiración por la mujer que eres y por todo el esfuerzo que has dedicado a convertirte en la persona que eres hoy.
He isn’t someone who devalues you and makes you question your worth. In fact, he will always think of you as more than enough.
Besides, this guy is thankful for everything you’ve given him and invested in your relationship.
Aprecia todos tus sacrificios y tu energía, y se considera afortunado por tenerte a su lado.
Ustedes dos realmente amo entre sí
Sí, todos sabemos que el amor nunca es suficiente para que un matrimonio funcione. Sin embargo, también es un ingrediente crucial para una relación feliz y duradera.
That said, when I say that you and your potential marital partner have to love each other for things to work out, I’m not talking about butterflies and fireworks.
Sí, tener todas estas emociones es emocionante y te hace sentir más vivo que nunca pero, por desgracia, rara vez es una base sólida para algo a largo plazo.
You see, when you’re looking for your potential husband, you need to look for someone who makes you calm and whose love feels like home.
Busca a un hombre que sepas que te cuida incondicionalmente y que te quiere igual en tus mejores y en tus peores momentos.
Don’t look for a guy you only feel incredible passion for. Instead, go after a guy who you can see yourself growing old next to.
Alguien quién te inspira para ser mejor persona cada día. Un hombre al que estarías orgulloso de llamar padre de tus hijos.
