10 reglas para las relaciones de pareja de las que nadie habla

There are oh-so-many rules out there on how people should behave in relationships: Wait three days to call her, don’t kiss him on your first date, and many, many others.

What’s very weird to me is that other, so much more important rules get overlooked. Every relationship is different, but there are some common sense rules you should follow at all times.

Le traemos una lista de esas reglas de oro que nunca debe ignorar.

1. Aprende de tu pasado

Puede que pienses que tus relaciones pasadas deberían olvidarse en cuanto entras en una nueva. Pero no es así en absoluto.

While you shouldn’t dwell on the past or talk too much about it with your partner, you should absolutely learn something from it.

Cada relación es única, pero hay muchas cosas que puedes aprender sobre ti mismo que podrían ayudarte a construir una relación más feliz y saludable con alguien nuevo.

2. Your partner can’t read your mind

Cuentas con que tu pareja te conozca tan bien que reconozca, en cada momento, lo que necesitas o quieres.

No matter how much they love you and how much they want to please you, it’s impossible for them to always know what you need at any time.

Siempre debes hablar de tus sentimientos y decirles directamente cualquier cosa que quieras o necesites de ellos.

Also, if something bothers you or you get angry at them for any reason, don’t wait for them to figure it out on their own, simply tell them.

3. Nadie puede ser perfecto

No one is perfect. There will always be some flaws in your partner’s character.

You have your own flaws, right? Accept that your partner won’t always be able to do the right thing and prepare yourself to forgive them.

Demuéstrales que entiendes que pueden equivocarse y acepta sus disculpas. Por supuesto, si lo que hicieron es algo que puedes perdonar.

Also, make sure to forgive yourself and don’t beat yourself up too much if you do something wrong.

4. Piensa bien las cosas antes de decirlas o hacerlas

Words can really be hurtful. Especially when you’re fighting, make sure you don’t say something that would offend your partner, especially if you don’t mean it.

Aunque te perdonen, las palabras quedarán grabadas en su mente para siempre.

Cualquier cosa que digas o hagas puede ser muy difícil de retirar, así que piénsatelo bien antes de destrozar tu relación.

5. Lleva mucho tiempo conocer de verdad a alguien

You might be thinking that being in a relationship for a couple of months or even a year means that you know your partner perfectly, but that’s really not true.

Lleva años conocer de verdad a alguien.

Tenéis que haber pasado por muchas cosas diferentes para conoceros de verdad, así que deja algo de espacio para elementos inesperados que puedas aprender sobre tu pareja.

6. Don’t discuss your relationship in too much detail with others

Talking a bit about your relationship with your friends is fine and expected, but going into too much detail is downright breaking your partner’s trust. No one likes being talked about that way.

You wouldn’t want your partner to discuss everything about you with his friends, right? It’s uncomfortable and embarrassing.

Algunas cosas es mejor que queden entre usted y su pareja.

7. Nunca dejes de demostrar que te importa

As time passes, it can be easy to start taking your partner for granted. Make sure you don’t do this. Continue to do all the lovely things you were doing at the beginning of your relationship.

Always act like they are the most important person in your life and you’d never allow yourself to lose them.

Keep acting like you’re trying to get them to fall for you – that’s the only recipe to keep them forever.

8. Value your partner’s (and your own) personal time

When you love someone, you want to spend a lot of time with them, that’s a given. Make sure you don’t overdo it.

Even though you’d like to be with them all the time, you need to let them have their life without you.

They need to have time for their family, friends, and personal interests. The same goes for you. Just because you met someone amazing doesn’t mean they have to be your whole life.

It’s important to continue to maintain your other relationships and hobbies, and have time apart from your partner.

9. Don’t underestimate the power of thoughtfulness

It’s amazing having someone who listens to you – someone who always remembers the smallest things you mention and then uses them to surprise you.

Encuentre siempre la forma de hacer que su pareja se sienta apreciada. Las pequeñas cosas pueden llegar muy lejos.

It’s not only the grand gestures that are important in showing love. Being thoughtful every day is what counts the most.

10. Discutir puede ser muy saludable

Arguing is not the end of the relationship. One fight doesn’t mean you guys have to split up.

Discutir es un paso muy importante para conocer mejor a tu pareja y construir una relación que os guste a los dos.

Make sure you don’t hit under the belt when you fight, and always remember you’re talking to the person you love and who loves you.

It’s unhealthy to keep silent about the things that bother you, and arguing can really clear the energy between you and your partner.