Engañar por teléfono: 8 señales digitales de la infidelidad de tu pareja
La lista definitiva de pistas para engañar por teléfono que te ayudarán a identificar a un infiel digital (¡o a salir de dudas!)
“Ask you once, ask you twice now
There’s lipstick on your collar
You say she’s just a friend now
Then why don’t we call her?”
Anne Marie’s hit Ciao Adios es el ejemplo perfecto de un romance vintagede una época en la que teníamos que basarnos en pruebas físicas (como pintalabios en el cuello, horarios de oficina prolongados, etc.) para pillar a un tramposo.
Por suerte para nosotros, los tiempos han cambiado y las puertas del mundo de las pruebas digitales están abiertas de par en par.
Teléfonos móviles modernos, plataformas de medios socialesLas aplicaciones espía y otros compañeros tecnológicos nos han facilitado el seguimiento de nuestras parejas (potencialmente) infieles.
If you suspect your partner is being unfaithful, you’ve come to the right place! Here is a list of telltale digital signs to help you learn how to catch una pareja infiel!
Cómo descubrir a un infiel: 8 señales digitales de que tu pareja te engaña
1. Tu pareja está siendo reservada y sobreprotectora con su teléfono
La señal número uno de que tu pareja te engaña es si son reservados y demasiado protector con su teléfono.
La forma más fácil de reconocerlo es comparar su antiguo comportamiento con su conducta actual.
¿Esconde su smartphone cuando envía mensajes de texto a otras personas? ¿Corren a la velocidad de la luz cuando alguien les envía un mensaje de texto?
¿Han empezado a llamar por teléfono fuera de casa (y lejos de ti)? ¿Lleva el teléfono a todas partes (incluso cuando va al baño)?
If your answer to the majority of the above questions is yes, there’s a high chance your partner is hiding something from you, so you should prepare yourself for descubrimiento de affair y recuperación de la aventura!
They know that they’re doing something bad, so they instinctively try to hide such behaviour and become overprotective of their devices.
They are scared of getting busted, so they’re doing everything in their power to protect their lies.
2. Su programa espía detecta pruebas
Modern spyware is one of the most powerful “cheat detectors” at our disposal, so it would be a shame not to use it, right?
To help you with a spyware mission, I’ve divided it into four evidence sections in which you can find a “how to” explanation for each action:
Prueba 1: Localización del dispositivo
If you want to find out about your partner’s current whereabouts, locating their device is one of the easiest methods.
Don’t worry, you won’t have to jailbreak their device because everything is already on their phone.
Si utilizan un dispositivo Apple conectado a una cuenta familiar, puedes localizar fácilmente su móvil iniciando sesión en iCloud.com (comprueba primero que la función de compartir ubicación está activada).
Once you’ve logged in, click on ‘Find My iPhone’ or use the ‘Find My Friends’ app.
If they use an Android phone and are logged in to Google on a shared computer, the procedure is the following: Type “Find My Phone” into the search bar and voila, you’ll have their phone location!
Prueba 2: Historial de localización
Si quieres consultar todos los lugares que ha visitado tu pareja, la función de servicios de localización es tu aliada.
By checking all the places they visit frequently, you will easily notice if there’s one special place that they prioritize.
And here’s how you’ll do it:
Los usuarios de iPhone deben hacer lo siguiente: Haz clic en Ajustes > Privacidad > Selecciona Servicios de localización > Desplázate hasta Servicios del sistema > Selecciona Ubicaciones significativas.
Si utilizan un teléfono Android conectado a su cuenta de Google, encontrarás la información de su historial de ubicaciones en Google Timeline (a la que se puede acceder con la aplicación Google Maps).
Prueba 3: Comprobación de los registros de llamadas
Checking the call logs on your partner’s phone is another simple way to track your partner’s infidelity. All you need to do is check all the outgoing and incoming calls as well as mensajes de texto.
Presta atención a cuántas veces les ha llamado o enviado mensajes de texto un número concreto y cuál es el nombre del contacto.
One letter names are pretty popular among cheaters, so if you notice something like that, you have every right to be on alert. We’ll talk more about names and numbers below, so stay tuned!
Prueba 4: aplicación mSpy
If you’re looking for an app to help you decipher whether or not your partner is cheating, then the mSpy app is your saviour!
Existen muchas aplicaciones de espionaje y te sorprendería saber cuánta gente las utiliza.
So, if you’re feeling uncomfortable about using them, you shouldn’t! You have every right to access the real truth and to get help from modern technology like this app.
With the assistance of this spying application, you can check your partner’s chat history from all the latest messenger services (Facebook Messenger, SnapchatWhatsApp, Viber).
Now, what if they’ve deleted all the messages? No worries, because they are still stored in the software’s control panel, meaning you can access them there whenever you wish!
Pro tip: You can verify a person’s online identity by using an online dating investigation service called Social Catfish.
3. Tienen muchos nombres y números sospechosos en sus contactos
Checking your partner’s contacts is a surefire way to identify cheating on phone signs.
If they have something to hide from you, you can be sure that they will alter their contacts’ names out of fear that you’ll figure out their game.
Hay muchas formas posibles en las que pueden intentar enmascarar su infidelidad cuando se trata de nombres de contacto y aquí están las más comunes:
– They have contact(s) consisting of only one letter (X, M, P, which is usually their lover’s initial).
-Tienen contacto(s) que consiste(n) en una mezcla de letras y números indescifrables.
– They have contact(s) with suspicious occupations like ‘Plumber Woman’ or similar.
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– They add a lover’s number under a family member’s name.
A sus ojos, todas estas combinaciones les parecen una excusa perfecta para salir del recinto cuando quieran.
Also, they’re convinced that it’s perfectly safe to have their lover’s number listed under a family member’s name.
Pero, cuando empieces a indagar más en su móvil, te darás cuenta de que todos esos nombres y números sospechosos están ahí por alguna razón.
Their main purpose is to cover their lover’s identity and protect them from being caught in a lie.
Véase también: 7 cosas que deberías saber sobre los infieles (según la ciencia)
4. Tienen un segundo teléfono o tarjetas SIM alternativas
Este es un rasgo característico de todo infiel profesional que se precie. Tener un segundo teléfono o tarjetas SIM alternativas es una tapadera perfecta para cualquier rastro de infidelidad. ¿Por qué?
Because it’s like having two identities. All the data on the “cheating phone or SIM card” will be saved there, and therefore, far away from your eyes.
They will just shift between phones and cards and you’ll have no idea what is going on in their life, even if you use the mSpy app.
But, there’s one surefire way to break the enigma! If you notice that they’re calling you from an unknown phone number and tell you that they borrowed a phone from a friend, think again.
If this happens once, then maybe it is true. But, if it happens constantly, then you know there’s something bigger going on there.
Esto le ocurrió a una de mis amigas. Sospechaba que su el marido me engañaba on her, but she couldn’t find a single clue of his infidelity.
She went through his phone, his laptop, – everything she could think of – and it was all clean.
And then, after some time, she started receiving calls from an unknown number and every time she answered it, it was him – her husband.
It didn’t take long to connect the dots, so she asked him why he was always calling her from that same unknown number.
He literally froze and didn’t know what to say, then he started to stumble over his words and fidget.
And then, she knew that something was fishy, and boy, was it fishy! He had succeeded in lying to her through his phone, but he couldn’t manage it in person because his eyes revealed the real truth.
5. Pasan mucho tiempo con el teléfono
If your partner has never been a fan of spending too much time on their phone, and now they can’t stop looking at their smartphone screen, then you know something’s not right.
Pasar mucho tiempo al teléfono puede significar dos cosas:
-They’re either so busy that they can’t stop looking at their phone even when they’re not officially at work.
– They’re chatting with their lover (or lovers?).
If you know that the nature of your partner’s job doesn’t require them to work 24/7, then you can eliminate the first option.
This means there’s a high probability your partner is suddenly spending so much time on their phone because they’re in contact with their lover.
They’re sending pictures to each other, chatting about their day, arranging the next date, and hoping that all this will stay their little secret.
In most cases, it really does stay a secret if partners are persuasive and if they offer “valid” reasons for their phone addiction.
Y, en algunos casos, fracasan antes incluso de que se les ocurra una excusa.
When they sense that you’re snooping on them and being suspicious about their recent behaviour, they start being overly protective of their phone.
If you notice this, then you can be sure they’re not really busy working, rather they’re busy pretending that they’re working. (Talk about a perfect modern life cover.)
6. There’s no history of speaking to or texting anyone on their phone
You open their call logs hoping that you’ll find something to confirm your doubts, but there’s nothing. Their phone is CLEAN!
They’re literally on their phone day and night (even when they are on the toilet) but there is no history of them speaking to or texting anyone on their phone.
Ni que decir tiene que esto es una enorme señal de alarma.
Además, esta es una de las maneras más fáciles de reventar un pareja infiel. I mean, who in their right mind would delete all their texting and speaking history if they didn’t have anything to hide?
It’s evident even to a child that they’re doing it for a reason. And the reason is that they’re hiding something from you.
This is a next level cheater personality because they don’t even bother changing their contact names or buying a second phone. They just delete their communication history on the current one.
They’re not only cheating on you, but they’re also cheating on themselves because they evidently lack innovation, creativity, and effort.
But, perhaps they secretly want to be caught and that’s the reason they’re doing it this way.
I read somewhere that most cheaters subconsciously want to get caught and that’s why they leave all kinds of clues hoping you’ll uncover them.
Maybe that’s the reason why they choose to delete things on their phone instead of professionally hiding clues like others.
7. Se esconden y susurran por teléfono
Recuerda todas esas escenas de las películas en las que un cónyuge infiel (normalmente un marido infiel) se escabulle del dormitorio al baño y susurra por el teléfono.
When we see that, we don’t even need to hear what they’re talking about because we already know that they’re probably talking to their amante.
Now, I’m not directly familiar with the real life situation, but I bet there are many partners who practice that kind of communication. They hide and whisper on their phone.
They leave you in bed, watching a movie alone or whatever you’re doing at that moment and they hide somewhere in the house to talk to their lover.
They whisper like someone is going to kill them any second and they can’t risk getting busted.
Y cuando vuelven y les preguntas por qué han tardado tanto, inventan una excusa poco convincente, como que tienen diarrea, una situación urgente en el trabajo o un familiar enfermo.
Y ahí estás, atrapado entre la verdad real y sus mentiras. Ya no sabes qué creer, y mucho menos qué hacer al respecto.
But, there’s one thing you need to pay attention to, which can help you decipher the enigma behind it. If they do it often, then you should trust your gut and be alert.
Also, try sneaking out and following them, but be careful that they don’t bust you instead!
Véase también: 13 señales evidentes de culpabilidad de tu marido infiel
8. There are odd charges on your partner’s credit card
Having a joint bank account has its advantages and one of them is checking your partner’s expenses.
If you notice that they’re spending their money on things that you’ve never received or seen anywhere in the house, then you know the items ended up in someone else’s hands.
Cosas como joyas, relojes caros, vestidos, etc. Una vez más, podemos compararlo con los escenarios de las películas, donde la mayoría de los hombres sorprenden a sus amantes con regalos caros.
Piensa en Richard Gere en la película de culto Pretty Woman donde mima a su mujer con muchos regalos y un trato especial.
Even though no one in the movie is cheating, you still get the point. It’s in our nature to want to surprise and make someone we like and care for feel special.
So, if you notice any odd charges on your partner’s credit card and you know they’re not intended for you or anyone in your circle of people, it’s a huge red flag. But, don’t react too soon.
Déjalo pasar un tiempo para ver si te han comprado ese artículo especial. Si no es así, entabla una conversación sincera y exige saber la verdad sobre sus extraños cargos y comportamiento.
Véase también: Cómo perdonarse por engañar y no contarlo: 20 maneras
If you’ve just realized (or you suspect) that they’ve been cheating on you…
First of all, don’t panic! If you have only one digital sign indicating infidelidadPero a menudo no es suficiente (aunque depende de la fuerza del signo).
Pero, si la mayoría de los engaños en las pistas telefónicas coinciden, entonces tienes todo el derecho a sospechar que están haciendo algo a tus espaldas.
Como siempre, antes de hacer algo drástico (por no decir estúpido), intenta hablarlo con tu pareja. Una conversación sincera es lo mejor para los dos en este momento.
Tell them openly everything that’s on your mind and ask them to tell you the truth!
And, don’t worry, this time they will not be able to lie to you because you will see the truth in their eyes!
After that, it’s up to you to choose in which direction you’ll go. Whichever path you choose, I’m sure you’ll do the right thing!
Véase también: 10 cosas que todas las parejas infieles tienen en común
