14 señales de que se acuesta con cualquiera: Cómo detectar a un infiel
Getting cheated on is awful, but not knowing about it while it’s happening doesn’t make it any easier. In this case, ignorance is not bliss – cuanto más tiempo pase a tus espaldas, peor sentirás la traición cuando te enteres.
Some cheaters never get caught because their partners are determined to stay in the dark. But even if you don’t want to know, there’s always that gut feeling drowning you in uncertainty and doubt. A relationship in which one person is sleeping around isn’t happy.
If you suspect that you might have a cheating girlfriend but you can’t be sure, pay attention to the following warning signs she sleeps around.
¿Cuáles son los signos Duerme por ahí?
Cuando tu novia empieza a engañarte, las señales de alarma pueden no ser inmediatamente evidentes – at first, her behavior changes, but the way she acts doesn’t seem like a big deal.
Cuanto más tiempo pase, más fácil será detectarlo. Se acostumbra a que no la pillen, por lo que deja de ser tan cuidadosa como al principio. At the point when it first occurs to you that your girlfriend just slept with someone else, it’s probably not the first time that it has happened.
Estos son los signos de que duerme por ahí ...que puedes detectar desde el principio.
1. She’s emotionally distant
Emotional distance in a relationship can occur for various reasons. On its own, it’s not a sign of cheating, but it’s almost siempre presente junto a la infidelidad. It’s often the reason why people start to suspect their partners.
You’ll be able to easily recognize emotional distance because it’s something you can feel. If your girlfriend is withdrawing from you, acts indifferent and doesn’t show you affection, she’s becoming emotionally distant.
Even if she’s not cheating on you, emotional distance is a red flag that something is not right in your relationship and that it needs work.
2. She’s pulling away
Además de crear distancia emocional, un infiel también intentará alejarse de otras maneras. She’ll avoid you and try to escape from you whenever she has the chance. The reasons for this are guilt, shame and fear of getting caught.
When you approach her, she’ll suddenly remember she has something else she has to do. She’ll stop waiting for you to eat together. If you’re in a new relationship and still not very close, she’ll make sure it stays that way.
She’s getting all the companionship she needs from other men. Because she knows that what she’s doing is wrong, she can’t even look at you, let alone admit it to you.
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3. She’s acting weird
If something seems off with her, it’s a good sign that it is. Something is going on.
Of course, if she’s acting strange, ella podría estar pasando por algo y no realmente engañando a usted. Ninguno de estos signos es una prueba definitiva por sí solo, pero si observa muchos, sus sospechas pueden estar justificadas.
If she’s irritable y se pelea contigo sin motivo, si parece al límite and ready to snap at any moment, or if she’s defensiva cada vez que le haces una pregunta, she’s probably hiding something.
Pay attention to other signs to be able to tell for sure whether or not she’s culpable de hacer trampas.
4. She’s obviously lying to you
One of the reasons why you might start to suspect that your girlfriend is hiding something is the way she’s obviamente mintiéndote.
Cuando le haces una pregunta que puede estar relacionada de alguna manera con su aventura y sus respuestas son un poco demasiado vaga, podría ser a sign that she’s lying.
For example, she says she was out with a coworker, but she won’t tell you who even if you ask.
Or when she’s talking to a man on the phone and you ask who it was, she says it’s a male friend, but doesn’t give you a name.
If you ask her where she was after she comes home late, she’ll have an alibi prepared, but it will sound off.
Sometimes you can just tell that someone is lying, but if you’re having trouble with it, here are some consejos para reconocer la falta de honradez.
Puedes saber cuándo alguien te está mintiendo siguiendo estos tres pasos.
• Find her baseline
Everyone has their normal behavior – their usual body language, facial expressions, tone of voice, etc. To be able to tell that someone is hiding something, you must first know what they’re usually like.
This shouldn’t be a problem because you already know what your girlfriend is like and how she acts when she’s not lying to you.
• Look for banderas rojas
When you know what someone’s baseline is, buscar discrepancias y cambios. No hay signos universales de mentira que todo el mundo muestre, pero hay algunos comunes que pueden hacer acto de presencia.
Keep in mind that they are only suspicious if they’re different from the way she normally acts.
Ojos: falta de contacto visual, parpadeo excesivo.
Boca: sonrisas falsas, labios fruncidos.
Microexpresiones: destellos repentinos de verdaderos sentimientos que aparecen en su rostro durante una fracción de segundo.
Cuerpo: inquieto, sudando.
• Look for multiple signs
Similarly to how it’s impossible to deduce that someone is cheating on you if they change only one thing in their behavior, it’s also best to buscar múltiples signos de mentira.
If her body language is completely different than usual, she’s probably hiding something, but if she’s not much different from her baseline, then it’s probably something else.
5. She’s manipulating you
Si tu novia te engaña, she’ll do everything she can to stop you from finding out. It’s a given that she’ll be lying, but there are many other ways of manipulation she might resort to if she’s trying to get you off her trail.
Algunos comportamientos manipuladores que te puedes encontrar son:
• Crying. Se echa a llorar cuando intentas hablar con ella de algo que confirmaría tus sospechas.
• Shaming. “How could you even think that I’d cheat on you? You’re a horrible person.”
• Emotional blackmail. “If you really loved me, you’d never accuse me of something like that.”
• Blame-shifting. “Maybe you’re the one who’s cheating.”
• Gaslighting. “You’re paranoid, I’d never do something like that. Don’t be crazy.”
E incluso después de pillarla engañando, she’ll try to manipulate you into thinking that what you saw was all in your head.
6. She’s less interested in sex
La mayoría de los infieles se interesan menos por el sexo con sus parejas después de empezar a acostarse con ellas. Esto se debe a que Para los infieles, el sexo en una aventura es mucho más excitante que en una relación amorosa.
Most of the time, people who cheat don’t really appreciate their partners, and their view of cheating reflects that.
No todos los infieles son iguales, por lo que, dependiendo de la persona, podrían estar engañando por una o varias de varias razones.
• She doesn’t think of sex as a big deal, so she doesn’t understand why you would be hurt if you discovered that she was cheating. Keep in mind that she’s still hiding her affair, which means that she knows that cheating is wrong, but she doesn’t care enough not to do it.
• An opportunistic tramposo cheats because she doesn’t see why she shouldn’t have sex with someone she’s attracted to if she has a chance. This kind of cheater can have sex with people without involving feelings and is okay with having one-night stands even while in a relationship.
• If she necesita atención constante de los hombres, she’ll use them to get what she wants. This can lead to her cheating with a lot of guys. Her relationships with them are all about what she can get from them.
• She might say that she’s in love with you, but if she’s cheating on you, sólo ama lo que le das. Maybe she believes that she loves you, but if she did, she’d think about your feelings too.
• Someone who le gusta la emoción de escabullirse will get the thrill of getting away with something from cheating. If she feels bored in the relationship, she’s cheating to shake things up. This kind of cheater gets bored in cada relación.
It doesn’t really matter why her attitude toward sex makes it easier for her to cheat, but knowing might help you understand how su falta de interés en el sexo es el resultado de que se acuesta con cualquiera.
7. Tu vida sexual es diferente
When you do have sex, you’ll notice that it’s different from what you’re used to. If she’s cheating, she’ll either be enthusiastic and experimental or going through the motions without any real feeling.
For example, if she’s not into it, it’s because she’s getting enough sex from others, so she’s only doing it with you because she’s trying to deflect your suspicions.
It would be weird if she suddenly never wanted sex, so she’s sleeping with you because she doesn’t want you to find out that she’s already had all the sex she wanted.
On the other hand, she might be pulling moves she’s never done before or suggesting things she’d never mentioned before. That’s because she’s done it elsewhere and liked itasí que quiere volver a hacerlo.
Or, if she’s not cheating, she might just want to try something new. As always, keep in mind that her actions don’t always have to mean that she’s cheating.
Even if you notice several signs at the same time, you can’t be sure, so you should always first try talking to her about any concerns you might have.
8. Su uso de la tecnología es sospechoso
Suspicious use of her cell phone and computer is one of the best indicators that she’s hiding something. This is because if you had access to her text messages or call records, you’d probably be able to immediately know what’s going on.
Éstos son algunos carteles digitales that she’s trying to keep something on her phone and computer hidden.
• Her phone is always with her or locked.
• She keeps her phone on silent.
• She’s always texting.
• Her use of social media is different. For example, she goes private on some accounts.
• You hear dating app notification sounds or you accidentally notice her using one.
• If her phone rings when you’re around, she doesn’t answer or leaves the room to do it.
• You can’t reach her on the phone at certain times.
• She hides her computer use.
• If you come near her when she’s on the computer, she tabs out of what she was doing or minimizes the window.
• She clears her browser history after using the computer.
• She uses the computer late at night while you sleep.
• She stops using shared devices.
9. Presta especial atención a su aspecto
Most people in long-term relationships don’t pay as much attention to their physical appearance as they used to when they were single. Si empieza a preocuparse más de lo normal por su aspecto, puede que tenga un motivo.
Paying more attention to her diet and exercise routine might be because she’s trying to lead a healthier life, but it might also be because she wants to look better without clothes on.
El mayor indicador de que quiere verse mejor por alguna razón es si cambia su rutina habitual.
For example, if she never used to dress up or wear perfume to go out with friends but now she does all of a sudden, it might be a sign that she’s probably meeting someone else – alguien con quien quiere quedar bien.
10. She’s always busy
Has she recently been working overtime every night? Does her boss make her work on the weekends? Is she always going out with friends? Does she have a new hobby she’s never expressed an interest in before?
If she’s always busy these days, it might be that she’s spending the time she’s not available to meet her affair partner for secret rendezvouses. Necesita excusas para sus ausencias, así que no para de inventárselas.
A primera vista, su repentino interés por el senderismo o la cerámica puede no parecer sospechoso, pero un cambio total en su rutina puede ser una de las señales ocultas de que she’s lost interest in you y está tratando de ocultar una aventura. Dicho esto, aquí están los lugares más comunes donde los infieles se reúnen para tener aventuras.
Una o dos diferencias en su horario son normales, pero cuando algo aparece todo el tiempo, tienes una buena razón para sospechar. Unless she’s keeping notes of her lies, you’ll notice inconsistencies in her stories about why she’s gone sooner or later.
11. She doesn’t want to spend time with you
Is she reluctant to be around you even when she does find the time? If she stands you up to hang out with her best friend after you haven’t seen each other for a week, she might be avoiding you.
Podría sentirse incómoda pasando tiempo contigo si se siente culpable por haberte engañado. Some people have no problems cheating and feel no remorse, but others still have a conscience, even if they’re doing something that they know will hurt others.
Por otro lado, cuando pasa tiempo contigo, su sentimiento de culpa puede hacer que se muestre demasiado amable y acceda a todo lo que quieres. Este tipo de comportamiento es otra señal oculta de engaño.
12. She has expenses she can’t explain
¿Ha notado cargos inesperados en los extractos de su tarjeta de crédito? ¿Hay menos dinero en sus cuentas bancarias? ¿Se ha convertido el dinero en un problema?
Preguntarle por estos gastos hará que se ponga a la defensiva o diga mentiras evidentes. She’ll claim she bought something which is nowhere to be found or pretend that she doesn’t know anything about it.
Hacer trampas cuesta dinero, and even if the expenses are mostly covered by her affair partner, you’ll notice an occasional change in her spending habits.
An unexpected large cash withdrawal or an unusual credit card charge would be a good sign that she’s spending money on something she doesn’t want you to know about.
13. Su comportamiento y actitud son diferentes
En primer lugar, el engaño es doloroso para la persona engañada, pero a menudo también puede afectar al infiel.
If she’s cheating because she’s feeling unfulfilled, unhappy or for another reason that goes beyond opportunistic sex, podría estar haciéndose daño a sí misma además de hacerte daño a ti.
Whatever her reason for cheating is, it’s not a justification, but it might explain her behavior. If she’s fully aware that what she’s doing is wrong and feels guilty, she’s probably showing signs of low self-esteem and bad conscience.
Por otro lado, también podría estar intentando racionalizar su comportamiento culpándote de su infeliz vida amorosa y, por tanto, engañándote. If it seems like she’s mad at you for no reason, it’s because she’s trying to make herself feel better about her actions.
She’s critical and angry at you on the outside because on the inside, she’s blaming you for pushing her to do it to make herself feel better.
14. She doesn’t want to communicate
Talking to someone who doesn’t want to discuss something can be impossible.
If she’s cheating on you and doesn’t want to deal with it, she might withdraw when you try to interact with her and shut down when you ask her something she doesn’t want to answer.
El engaño y la culpa pueden conducir fácilmente a ruptura de la comunicación. La culpa y el miedo a que te pillen pueden hacer que te ponga trabas. and only talk to you when it’s absolutely necessary.
For example, when you say something she doesn’t want to talk about, she might pretend she didn’t hear you, ignore you, change the subject or leave the room.
Cuando intentes hablar con ella de tus problemas, puede que intente desviarlo con displicencia, acusándote o dándole la vuelta a la tortilla hablando de otro tema.
En conclusión
If you suspect that your wife or girlfriend is cheating on you, there’s probably a reason why you feel that way. Usually there are multiple signs that could indicate that something is going on, and you probably picked up on some of them.
Sin embargo, a falta de caminar en ella engañando a usted, it’s almost impossible to be sure that what you’ve noticed are definite signs she sleeps around. Be sure before you accuse her and end up breaking up if you’re wrong.Still, if you’ve noticed many of these signs, something is definitely going on. Even if she’s not cheating on you, you should probably look into your relationship and talk to her.
