20 señales reveladoras de una mujer manipuladora (+ cómo afrontarlas)
¿Has notado algunos signos de manipulación emocional en tu relación sentimental? ¿Tienes miedo de que la mujer con la que sales esté jugando y utilizándote?
Aquí tienes las 20 señales de una mujer manipuladora que te confirmarán si tus dudas son ciertas o no. Si reconoces la mayoría de estas banderas rojas, entonces ya sabes lo que tienes que hacer.
Permanecer en una relación manipuladora y esperar que tu pareja cambie es como intentar hacerte daño a ti mismo a propósito. Sooner or later, you’ll need to come to terms with the truth, and the more you wait, the bigger your pain will be afterward.
20 señales inequívocas de una mujer manipuladora
Para ponernos manos a la obra, he aquí las señales y banderas rojas más evidentes de una mujer manipuladora:
1. Tiene tantos rasgos de narcisista
Maybe you didn’t notice it when you first started dating, but the more time you spend with her, the more rasgos narcisistas te das cuenta de que lo ha hecho.
Necesita tener siempre la razón, ser el centro de atención y que todo el mundo gire en torno a ella, a ella y sólo a ella.
La verdad es que casi todos los la persona manipuladora es en realidad un narcisista because they’re using another person just to fulfill their needs. It’s what a narcissistic person would do.
2. El comienzo de su relación fue un bombardeo de amor
At the beginning of your relationship, everything was so perfect, and you still can’t believe that you’re dating someone prone to comportamiento manipulador. Le gustabas mucho y se esforzaba por conquistarte.
Ahora, cuando lo miras, te das cuenta de que sólo era bombardeo de amor. Nunca fue amor verdadero. She just wanted to make you fall in love with her, and that’s when her game of manipulation started.
3. Intenta arruinar completamente tu autoestima
Tu confianza en ti mismo es lo primero que atacará una mujer manipuladora. Ella sabe que hombres con baja autoestima son la presa más fácil de manipular.
She wants you to have a bad self-image so it’ll be easier for her to make you think that you need her, not the other way around. And the more you allow her to do this, the more she’ll use it until she completely destroys your self-esteem.
4. Te ilumina con gas muy a menudo
When someone humiliates, disrespects, and guilt-trips you all the time, it’s obvious that they’re actually trying to gaslight you. In other words, they want to manipulate you into thinking that you’re going crazy.
You’ll doubt your own sanity, and she’ll see it as an opportunity to make herself look like your “savior.” That way, you’ll be grateful to her, and she’ll use it to keep using you as it benefits her.
5. Te hace el vacío sin motivo
When someone goes no contact with you, it’s mostly because they have a good reason for it. Maybe you did something bad to them, or they’ve found out that you were badmouthing them or something similar.
Sin embargo, cuando alguien te da la callada por respuesta without providing any explanation for it, it’s probably because they’re using it as a manipulation tactic. Quieren obligarte a hacer algo que les conviene.
6. Menospreciar se ha convertido en la nueva normalidad para ti
Menospreciar también es una forma de abuso emocional. You know that it hurts someone who has strong feelings for you, and you’re belittling them on purpose because you actually want to hurt them on purpose.
In the beginning, you weren’t okay with it, of course. But with time, you learned to cope with it and accepted it as a ‘normal’ part of your relationship.
7. Los arrebatos emocionales repentinos son su táctica de manipulación favorita.
Vale, la mayoría de las mujeres tienen cambios de humor, and we all have emotional outbursts sometimes. However, if your partner has really gone too far with those outbursts, it’s a clear sign they’re using it as a manipulation tactic.
And it’s mostly when they run out of words to talk about or arguments to defend themself that they use those arrebatos emocionales para conseguir lo que quieren.
It’s because they know you care about them and don’t want them to endanger their well-being.
8. She’s so used to playing the victim card
No importa cómo empiecen y terminen sus peleas, de alguna manera, ella siempre se las arregla para parecer la víctima.
Even though she started the whole thing, and you were convinced that you’re right, she became so good at playing the victim that she manages to convince you that you’ve made a mistake.
And it’s actually like everyone around you sees her, especially those who are aware that your relationship is abusive. She is a victim in their eyes, and she’ll continue to be as long as you don’t show them the real picture of your relationship.
9. You’re so sick of her mind games
Te diste cuenta hace tiempo de que she’s playing mind games with you, but you don’t know how to put an end to it. It really bothered you before, but you kept telling yourself that it’s not true and that you’ve been imagining it all.
However, you’re now aware that it’s true, and you’ve finally had enough of it. Trust me, it’s high time to put an end to it and show her that she can’t play with you as she likes because you can be a player too.
10. Te hace sentir culpable siempre después de una pelea
Sarah Ruggera, LMFT, says: “Los manipuladores emocionales dan la vuelta a tus afirmaciones y te convierten en el problema.” And if it seems like she’s a pro at blame-shifting, it’s one of the most obvious signs of a manipulative woman.
She does it mostly because she wants you to feel bad about it and apologize for something you didn’t do. She’ll never accept her part of the blame, and you’ll always be the one to blame for every single fight and disagreement you’ll have.
11. Los chantajes emocionales son su arma para conseguir siempre lo que quiere
Whenever you don’t do something she wants you to do, she starts blackmailing you emotionally. She tells you it’s a sign you don’t care about her as much as you say you do, or she starts crying just to make you regret your actions.
If you love her, it’s most likely that you’ll fall for her emotional blackmails. Harás lo que haga falta para hacerla feliz y complacerla emocionalmente.
12. Pero, también utiliza la manipulación psicológica
She’s your romantic partner, and she knows that the best type of manipulation to use on you is emotional. However, she’ll also try to manipulate you psychologically, making you look bad in your own skin.
She’ll try to harm your self-confidence because it will make it easier for her to manipulate you. You’ll constantly seek validation from her, and she’ll use it to benefit her.
13. She doesn’t care that much about your well-being
The truth is, if she did, she would never do this to you. Every single one of us knows how much it hurts when someone you love plays with you, and it’s definitely not something you would do to someone you care about.
And when you say you don’t feel well and expect her to take care of you, she ignores you and disappears. After all, you need to understand that she’s only there when it’s convenient for her or when she needs something from you.
14. Su pasivo-agresividad es intolerable
Whenever she’s angry at you, she doesn’t show it directly. Instead, she is stubborn and refuses to do things you ask her to do.
It’s like she’s under protest just to make you realize that she’s angry at you. Expresa todos esos sentimientos negativos guardándote silencio o mostrándose sarcástica.
15. However, she’s always overly nice to you around other people
Do you know why that is? Well, she behaves so nicely around others only to create an ‘alibi’ for herself if you ever accuse her of being a manipulative person.
Others have never seen any trace of her manipulative behavior, and, of course, they won’t believe you.
Tienes que entender que haga lo que haga, lo hace con una intención. No hay casualidades en sus acciones porque lo planea todo de antemano.
16. Todo esto afecta también a tu salud emocional y mental
And it’s really no wonder why. When someone you love plays with you, it needs to leave serious consequences on your emotional well-being. It leaves you with serious trust issues and doubts about whether true love really exists.
También deja marcas en tu salud mental porque baja tu autoestima. Empiezas a pensar menos de ti mismo y a culparte por todo lo que ha pasado y sigue pasando.
17. You’ve noticed that she’s manipulative with her loved ones too
The surprising thing is that you also noticed that you aren’t the only person who’s fallen for her manipulation. Her best friends and family members have also been manipulated by her on various occasions.
Then, my friend, I need to tell you that you’re dealing with a serial manipulator here.
When she’s able to use all those people she loves, just think what she can do to those she doesn’t care about at all.
18. Te amenaza con una ruptura tan a menudo
This is also a form of manipulation. She’s aware of your feelings for her, and she uses them to scare you. También sabe que perderla es uno de tus mayores miedos, así que lo utiliza para obligarte a hacer cosas que quiere que hagas.
This is a perfect example of emotional manipulation. You’ll do anything just to keep her by your side, and that (unfortunately) means you’ll accept her manipulation.
19. She makes you feel as if you’re the worst partner ever
Even though the truth is far from that. Even though the truth is that she is, she’s the bad one in your relationship.
However, she knows that if she manages to make you believe this, you’ll do whatever is needed to show her that it’s not true. You’ll shower her with love and affection 24/7, and that’s actually what she wanted from you.
20. You know very well it’s not a healthy relationship
You’re aware of it. Especially now that you’ve convinced yourself that she’s manipulating you. And I know that despite it all, you still can’t find the courage to let her go.
¿Cómo puedes dejar marchar a alguien a quien amas profundamente? ¿Cuándo y cómo dejarás de amar a esa persona?
Unfortunately, I can’t give you the right answer to these questions. All I can say is that no one can guarantee that you’ll stop loving her immediately. But I promise you will one day.
You will meet someone who really deserves you, and that’s when you’ll understand why things happened this way.
Véase también: 10 frases manipuladoras: Frases a tener en cuenta
¿Cómo tratar a una mujer manipuladora?
Now that you’ve learned how to spot a manipulative woman, it’s time to learn how to deal with her. Here are 7 ways to help you cope with a manipulative partner.
1. Enfrentarla y confrontarla
When you’re in an intimate relationship with someone, and you have strong feelings for that person, it’s difficult to understand and realize when you’re being used by that same person.
Les quieres y nunca harías nada que les hiciera daño, y crees que ellos piensan lo mismo de ti. However, we aren’t all the same. Even if it means losing her, you need to face her and tell her that you’ve had enough of her manipulative behavior.
I know you love her, and you’re afraid that you might lose her, but if you don’t stand up for yourself, you might lose yourself forever. And that’s the worst thing someone can allow themselves to do.
2. Reúne toda la fuerza que necesites para resistirte a su manipulación emocional.
Even if you realize that you’re being manipulated by the person you love, you don’t have enough strength to resist them. You think you’re weak because they’ve managed to trick you in that way.
Sin embargo, tienes que hacerlo. Tienes que creer en ti mismo y en tu fuerza. Just because they used you once doesn’t mean you’re weak. It means you were blinded by your love and couldn’t see the real truth.
Ahora, tienes que levantarte y luchar por ti misma. Deja a un lado tus sentimientos y acaba con su manipulación emocional. Hazles saber que nadie puede jugar contigo.
3. Establecer límites de una vez por todas
The fact is, no one can manipulate you if you don’t allow them to. Those who don’t have clear personal boundaries are always the easiest prey for personas manipuladoras.
If you don’t set boundaries, if you don’t stand up for yourself, she will continue to manipulate and use you in a way that benefits her. If you don’t try to resist her, she’ll see it as a green light to continue with her manipulative tactics.
4. Don’t allow her to use your feelings
Just because you love someone doesn’t give them the right to play with your feelings. Just because you love someone doesn’t mean you should allow them to use you how they want.
You don’t have to be with someone at any cost. Sometimes, it’s better to be alone than with the wrong person que sólo pueden herirte y abandonarte.
5. Don’t allow this to make you think less of yourself
You’re just a human being, a vulnerable man who has fallen in love with a woman. Don’t think that makes you look stupid, no matter how things ended.
You aren’t guilty because someone else was playing with your feelings. Fuiste honesto todo el tiempo, y deberías estar orgulloso de ti mismo. Y por otro lado, que se enfrenten al karma porque algún día les pasará factura.
You’re an incredible man who ran into the wrong woman. Sin embargo, todos necesitamos pasar por situaciones como ésta para aprender una lección.
One day, you’ll meet the right one, a woman whose only priority will be making you happy – a woman who will love you more than you’ll love her.
6. If she doesn’t want to change, you need to leave that toxic relationship
Si sientes algo por ella, deberías darle otra oportunidad, sobre todo si intenta demostrarte que realmente se la merece.
However, if you see that she doesn’t put any effort into making things work, if she continues with her emotional manipulation, you have one choice and one choice only… To turn your back on her and walk away FOREVER.
It’s the only way to save yourself from any further hurt. Truthfully, it’s unlikely a manipulative person will change, and waiting for something you’re aware will never happen will only break your heart little by little.
7. Don’t be afraid to seek help
If you need advice on what to do or simply need someone to share your sorrows with, don’t be afraid to speak to someone outside of your relationship. Talk to your best friend and let them be your confidant or a shoulder to cry on.
If your partner becomes too aggressive, and if you feel at any moment that you’re in danger, please call 911 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline. Recuerda, nadie merece estar en una relación abusiva.
Si tu pareja utiliza la manipulación emocional y empieza a afectar a tu salud emocional y mental, acude a un experto para que te ayude a afrontarlo.
No matter what you do, don’t ever keep those things and your negative feelings to yourself. In this case, sharing is indeed caring!
¿De qué tienen miedo los manipuladores?
Manipulative people aren’t as cold and strong as most of us think. They also have their fears and insecurities. They also have imperfections like we all do, but they hide them much better.
Revelar sus vulnerabilidades es el mayor temor de casi todas las personas con comportamiento manipulador. It’s like they think it would make other people think less of them, which would, in a way, take away their power to manipulate others.
Also, other people’s vulnerabilities are their greatest tool when it comes to manipulating others, so they believe that revealing their weaknesses will make them easy prey for others to manipulate.
Para concluir
Esas eran todas las banderas rojas y señales de una mujer manipuladora. Realmente espero que evites a una mujer así, pero si alguna vez te ves envuelto en una relación manipuladora, ahora ya sabes cómo enfrentarte a ella.
And if you’ve just found out that your better half is manipulating you, all I can tell you is that I know how much it hurts. Sé cuánto duele descubrir que alguien a quien amas sinceramente sólo te utiliza para conseguir lo que quiere.
Sé que tienes el corazón roto, pero tienes que aceptar la verdad. Tienes que aceptarlo y centrarte en salir de esa relación tóxica.
