Un chico que no quiere hablar contigo de estos 5 temas no es para ti
Lo hemos dicho un millón de veces. El santo grial de toda relación sana y exitosa es... ¿Qué?
Open and honest communication is the foundation of any relationship’s well-being. Still, there are some things that a person who isn’t committed to you simply won’t talk about.
If he avoids talking to you about any of these five topics, I’m sad to tell you that he’s probably not the right person for you.
1. Sus necesidades emocionales
If he doesn’t care about what your emotional needs are, there’s no way he’s going to fulfill them.
Cada persona tiene una forma única de ser amada que le hace sentirse segura y cuidada.
Your partner should be open to listening about what it is that makes you feel emotionally satisfied so he can alter the way he’s treating you accordingly.
There’s no point in being in a relationship with him if he doesn’t make you feel safe to be as vulnerable as you are and want to be in front of him.
Un chico que te hace sentir que tus necesidades son irrelevantes o te considera demasiado necesitada por querer que tus emociones sean tenidas en cuenta es probablemente un narcisista egoísta. It’s time for you to déjalo ir.
2. Planes para la futuro de su relación
It’s important to enjoy the moment, but being in a relationship with someone means that you’d like to spend a whole lot of time with them (do I hear forever?).
This means you’re probably excited to plan your future together.
If your partner isn’t willing to talk to you about what he sees in the future for the two of you, it usually means he isn’t willing to think so far ahead, because by then he’ll be long gone.
If planning for the future with you seems like a waste of time to your boyfriend, he probably doesn’t see himself in it at all.
3. Sus inseguridades, miedos y emociones negativas
Se supone que tu ser querido es tu puerto seguro. Deberías poder compartir con él tus mayores inseguridades, y él debería ayudarte a hacerte más fuerte escuchándote y apoyándote.
Your fears and problems shouldn’t bore him but bother him – he should be the one to help you get through them by creating a safe environment in which you can share whatever is bugging you.
If your boyfriend doesn’t want to listen to you talking about the problems you’re facing or fears you have, he’s definitely not the one for you.
If he wants to be with you when you’re at your best but isn’t willing to deal with you at your worst, he has to go. Déjalo..
Everything about you makes you who you are – both the good and the bad. The right man will know that and love you even more for trusting him and choosing to share your problems with him.
4. Sus relaciones anteriores
Your past has had a great impact on who you are today. Of course, he doesn’t need to know every little detail of how your life with your ex looked like, but he should be interested in your relationship history.
No es algo de lo que haya que hablar todo el tiempo, pero en un momento dado la discusión es inevitable.
What you’ve been through (love wise) should concern him and if he’s in love with you, he’ll probably want to know as much as he can.
Una broma sobre tu ex en su nombre está bien, pero si se pone demasiado celoso o incluso se enfada cuando mencionas tus relaciones pasadas, deberías alejarte de él.
5. Su individualidad
If your boyfriend doesn’t want to accept that you had a life before him and plan on having a life now that he’s around, he isn’t a keeper.
It’s important to talk about areas of life that don’t necessarily include your partner. Also, it’s important to discuss boundaries you need the other person to respect when it comes to your personal matters.
Just because two people are in a relationship, no matter how committed they are to one another, doesn’t mean that they get to control other aspects of each other’s lives.
Still, it’s incredibly important that he cares about what’s happening to you at work, in your friendships, or in any other sphere of your life that doesn’t include him.
Also, if he’s not willing to share what’s he’s up to when you’re not around, that’s your red flag right there.
¡Buena suerte, chicas! Y recordad, por muy incómodo que os resulte compartir algo, la comunicación es la clave de la curación y la aceptación.
