You wouldn’t say that you’re totally in love with this person, but you’re definitely into them and you would like to give it a shot.
The question is how, when you don’t have a clue about their feelings?
How do you get your crush to like you without seeming desperate and needy?
Should you use social media to do it? Or should you approach them in person?
Should you be direct or is it okay to just send them hints?
If these are some of the questions going through your head and if you’re wondering how to get your crush to like you in no time at all, then read on for all the answers you need.
15 Ways To Get Your Crush’s Attention
1. Take care of your appearance
When you already like someone, their physical appearance comes last.
You’re way more interested in what type of person they are and in the way they treat you.
However, before you meet someone for the first time, their looks are the first thing you’re drawn to.
Your crush is no exception-they have to find you physically attractive before they’ll give you a real chance.
• Your looks
If you’re wondering how to get your crush to notice you, the first thing you should take special care of is your looks.
I’m not saying that you have to look like a top model with a perfect face and body, but if nothing else, you have to be pleasant to this person’s eye.
Of course, you shouldn’t go under any aesthetic procedures or plastic surgeries to become someone you’re not.
Instead, hit the gym to tone your body a little, and if you’re a girl, wear makeup that suits you, while if you’re a guy, try growing a beard.
• Dress to impress
The next step is to think about the way you dress.
When I tell you to dress to impress, it doesn’t mean that you should wear super classy outfits-just dress for the occasion.
If you’re not good at matching your clothes, stick to the basics and you shouldn’t make a mistake.
If you’re a girl, emphasize your attributes but do it as subtly as possible.
After all, you don’t want your crush to think that boobs are the only thing you have to offer.
• Personal hygiene
Listen carefully to this one because I can’t underline it enough: always practice good personal hygiene.
Smell irresistible, shower on a regular basis, change your clothes, and make sure you have fresh breath.
Trust me-you could look like you’ve just stepped out from the cover of a magazine, but if your personal hygiene is questionable, it will all be in vain.
2. Work on your self-esteem
I’m sure you know a bunch of good looking people with amazing personalities who have absolutely no luck with the opposite sex. Why do you think that is?
When you observe them, they have literally everything someone would look for in a partner.
However, if you look closely and pay more attention, you’ll see that they’re missing a certain X factor.
Well, that factor you can’t seem to define is called self-esteem. Lucky for you, confidence can be worked on.
You see, here is the trick: you can’t expect your crush to think of you as worthy of their attention if you don’t see your own value.
You can’t expect them to see your qualities if you’re unaware of them in the first place, and you certainly can’t expect them to see you as a catch if you don’t think that way about yourself.
The truth is that you can’t become confident overnight. But you can pretend to be.
So, for starters, fake your self-esteem. Forget about your insecurities and cross out the possibility of failing.
When you see your crush, act like you own the room.
Even if you’re dying on the inside, pretend that you’re certain of yourself-trust me, there is no bigger turn on than this.
3. Compliment them
The best way to initiate some kind of contact with the person you’re into is to compliment them.
Everyone likes to be praised and if you’re the one who can make your crush feel good about themselves, they’ll definitely develop interest in you.
However, instead of only focusing on this person’s looks, stand out by complementing their personality and accomplishments.
This especially applies if you’re a man, trying to get a woman to like you.
You need to be aware that dozens of guys approach this girl all the time and all they ever probably do is tell her how beautiful and attractive she is.
Therefore, the way for you to be special is to pay more attention to things besides her physical attributes.
Trust me-she’ll cherish it more than anything.
4. Work on your sense of humor
How do you make your crush like you back?
Well, one of the most efficient ways to work your way into someone’s heart (and into their pants) is without doubt a good sense of humor.
This is a social skill you can work on if you don’t have natural talent.
Your conversation starter could be a good joke, which will make your crush laugh and lighten the atmosphere.
However, be careful about the type of jokes you tell.
When you’re trying to make a good first impression, avoid dark humor because not everyone is into it.
Also, stay away from dirty jokes-besides being inappropriate and rude, they may make the other person think that you only have one thing on your mind.
If you’re prone to sarcasm, make sure you don’t cross the line and become cynical.
5. Share a secret
What’s a better way to get someone to trust you and ultimately to fall for you than sharing a personal secret with them?
If you want your crush to open up to you, you have to show them your vulnerabilities first.
Naturally, you should make sure you present yourself in the best possible light.
However, don’t rule out the possibility of exposing some of your flaws and imperfections either.
This way, when your crush sees that you’re not perfect, they’ll become more relaxed in your presence and they won’t be afraid to reveal their true personality.
Also, you’ll show them that they’re important to you and that you trust them, which is a big deal for everyone.
This kind of experience can serve as a chance to bond with the person you’re interested in on a much deeper level.
6. Show an interest in their life
When you’re trying to figure out how to get your crush to like you, the next step is to show an interest in their life and to present yourself as a good listener and a good friend.
No, you shouldn’t be too nosy, nor should you openly stalk them to get some information-the point is to show them that you care enough.
Don’t go straight to sensitive subjects. Instead, start by engaging in small talk and asking them about their daily routines, hobbies, career, best friends and other harmless things.
Once you see that you’re both becoming more relaxed, proceed with some deeper topics.
Ask them some personal questions and show an interest in their fears, ambitions, and wildest dreams.
Trust me-it will be refreshing to have someone you can talk with about this stuff.
When it comes to love topics, at the beginning it will be enough to find out whether they’re emotionally available (I’m guessing you already know that they’re single-otherwise you wouldn’t keep hitting on them).
If you start talking about your previous relationships, don’t dig too much through the past and let them give you the amount of information they feel comfortable giving.
7. Find your common interests
A lot of people will tell you that opposites attract.
Don’t get me wrong-I’m not going to argue with this notion: they do attract but they rarely last.
Bear in mind that familiarity is the key to getting under someone’s skin.
It has been scientifically proven that people are more likely to fall for someone who has similar interests to them.
Therefore, it’s your job to find the common interests you have with your crush.
Investigate them a little bit, find out what this girl or guy likes, and find some similarities between the two of you.
Naturally, you won’t admit that you’ve been stalking them and you’ll present everything you know as a huge coincidence.
For example, if you happen to find out that they’re into a certain band or a type of music, casually mention how you enjoy listening to them or even ask them to tag along to a concert.
Trust me-once they hear something like this, they’ll think it’s a sign of faith.
It’s more than obvious that you’re their soulmate and a match made in heaven.
Of course, this doesn’t mean that you should pretend to be someone you’re not just to impress your crush.
Don’t change your basic interests to please them because the truth will be revealed sooner or later.
8. Use body language signs
In most cases, non verbal communication speaks louder than actual words.
So, if you’re trying to figure out how to get your crush to like you back, without you having to admit your feelings, using body language signs to your advantage is just the thing for you.
Besides using these nonverbal signals to demonstrate your interest, you can also observe the same signs on your crush.
If they’re sending you similar signals, they’re definitely into you and if they don’t,you probably need to try a little bit harder.
• Stay near them
First and foremost, use every opportunity you can to be as close to your crush as possible.
No, you won’t turn into a stalker who is constantly at their shoulder but if you two are in the same crowd, make sure you always sit next to each other, if you talk to them, whisper in their ear and if you stand near them, make sure your feet are pointed toward theirs.
At first sight, these moves might seem completely foolish and without a point, but trust me-they do have a deeper purpose.
If you use them, your crush will become accustomed to your presence and you’ll have a better chance of making an actual first move on them.
• Make eye contact
Hear me out: in these types of situations, eye contact is everything and it’s your job to initiate and maintain it.
Eyes are the windows to the soul: they can help you reveal your true feelings and are a great way to flirt.
Start with glancing over at your crush and see how they respond.
The next step is to stare at them (but not in a creepy kind of a way) and not to look away even when they do.
If your crush notices that you’re trying to make eye contact and returns the look-there is no doubt that they like you back.
However, if they look away, it doesn’t necessarily mean all of your chances are gone: maybe they’re too shy for deep prolonged eye contact or they’re teasing you on purpose.
• Accidental physical touch
When it comes to these body language signs, the final step is accidental physical touches.
This is the moment where you should be extra careful because you don’t want to appear creepy and you have to respect the other person’s personal space and boundaries, as much as you have the need to touch them.
To begin with, it should be enough to try holding their hand while you’re talking.
You can put your hand on their shoulder or even their knee if the opportunity arises.
Also, when you greet one another, always kiss them on the cheek and hold them in your arms a bit longer than usual.
What matters here is for you to carefully observe your crush’s feedback.
If you see that they’re not comfortable with what you’re doing-step back immediately.
9. Stay away from the friend zone
One of the biggest problems you can face while figuring out how to get your crush to like you is accidentally ending up in the friend zone.
In order for you to get the person you’re interested in to like you, you have no option but to hang out with them, but that can easily lead to you becoming good friends, which is something you clearly don’t want.
That’s why you have to find a way to make your intentions clear.
Don’t be too pushy but show them that you’re actually hitting on them all the time and that you aren’t interested in becoming their best friend but rather their potential partner.
For example, avoid being their shoulder to cry on when it comes to other people.
Don’t let them talk to you about their dates and don’t give them advice on how to go back to their ex-because this is what friends do.
Be friendly, but use every chance you get to tease them. Most importantly-don’t forget to flirt!
10. Show them that they can count on you…
Possibly the best quality to make you boyfriend or girlfriend material is reliability.
Everyone likes having a partner they can count on and who has their back, so you need to show your crush you’re the person for the job.
Take care of them and be the first person they call when they need advice or an opinion on something.
Show them that you’re there for them, be consistent and make them understand that you’re not leaving their side, no matter what happens.
11. …but don’t be too available
However, don’t let your crush take advantage of you, which is exactly the effect you’ll have if you become too available.
Show them that you’re there but that you have a life of your own as well.
Don’t be the one calling and texting all the time, as if you have no one else to talk to.
Don’t give them the impression that you’re ready to put your life on hold until they have the decency to choose you.
Basically, be careful not to become their puppy and the person they call only when they need a favor.
12. Do something to impress them
If you want to stand out from the crowd, the way to do it is to impress your crush.
However, when it comes to this step, you have to be aware that not all people are impressed by the same things, so you have to find something that fascinates this person you’re into.
What could make your crush fall for you? What type of person are they and what will knock them off their feet?
Is it the way you solve a certain problem they have? Is it getting tickets to their favorite show?
Or, is it remembering little things about them they casually mentioned a while ago?
It’s your job to find out and to use it to your advantage.
13. Spend time with them
As I already mentioned, familiarity is usually the key to someone’s heart.
That’s why you have to become a part of your crush’s life if you want to get them to like you back.
Don’t be boring but make sure you have regular contact and communication.
Initiate conversations and let them get used to your presence.
However, after some time, stop calling and texting and try backing out a little.
Make them miss you and feel your absence, so they’ll get scared of losing you and understand that they want you by their side.
Yes, this may seem like you’re playing mind games but sometimes, you simply have to do it if you want to achieve your goals.
Don’t manipulate them-just make a perfect balance and from time to time, let them chase you.
14. Send a positive vibe
Just like the rest of us, you also have moments when you don’t feel like your best self.
There are times when you’re negative, nervous, and insecure and that is perfectly normal-after all, you’re just a human being.
However, while you’re hitting on someone, these are not the sides of your personality you should display very often.
Let’s face it-nobody likes to be around naggy, bitter people who’ll kill their mood.
That’s why you have to try hard to be fun whenever you’re around your crush.
Send a positive vibe, come up with interesting activities, be optimistic, smile as much as you can, and don’t forget to laugh at their jokes.
Be the person who will brighten up their day-that’s something your crush will appreciate.
15. Ask them out on a first date
Finally, if nothing else works out, stop wondering how to get your crush to like you back and simply ask them out.
However, make it clear that this is a first date rather than a friendly get together and that you have hopes of becoming their potential partner.
Bear in mind that a lot of people don’t get the hints and that your crush might be one of them.
Be brave enough to make an actual first move-what do you have to lose?