It usually takes you many years of experience and numerous failed relationships to see that you have a habit of falling for people who are actually not cut out for you and to see why you are constantly attracted to those you are not meant to be with.
And that is why we are here to give you a hand and to tell you why you keep looking for the love you think you want, instead of the one you actually need.
1. Aries
This is not something you consciously look for but you are always attracted to someone you can be dominant with. Deep down, you have the desire to be better than the other person but eventually it brings you more bad than good.
And even though you don’t notice your partner’s submissive role at first, later on in the relationship you find yourself being the parent and the teacher. Eventually, you get frustrated with always having to be the adult and more mature partner.
And all of this is telling you to focus your energy on someone who will be your equal. Yes, you might feel threatened by this person at first but soon you’ll see it is a relief having a real-life partner.
You tend to take control of relationships without even realizing it, which can create an imbalance over time. A partnership should feel like teamwork, not a power struggle.
2. Taurus
When you think about your perfect person, you come up with a list of qualities and characteristics they should have. You put all of their good and bad sides on a scale and that prevents you from digging deeper and from getting to know someone better.
During this process, you always disregard chemistry. You disregard your heart and gut and eventually, you see that you are not happy with someone you thought was meant for you.
Your focus on logic and practicality often overshadows the emotional connection you need. A checklist can’t define the complexity of real love.
By learning to balance your analytical side with your intuition, you can discover a more fulfilling and emotionally rich relationship.
3. Gemini
If you are a Gemini, you are always attracted to someone similar to you. You are attracted to spontaneous and adventurous people, someone who will be an exciting, romantic partner and who will put you through a roller coaster of emotions.
But sadly, this is usually not someone who is cut out for you and it is not the person who will give you the security you need. I am not telling you to stop looking for butterflies, I am just advising you to take other things into consideration when choosing someone to spend the rest of your life with.
Look for someone who will be your safe haven, for someone who will make you calm and for someone whose love will feel like home.
A partner who offers balance and steadiness doesn’t mean sacrificing adventure. They can still bring joy into your life while providing the foundation you crave.
By opening yourself up to someone who prioritizes stability, you’ll realize that calm love can be just as exciting as passionate highs and lows.
4. Cancer
Your problem is that you are usually more in love with the idea of love than with an actual person. And this idealistic and romantic viewpoint often brings you many troubles because it makes you shut off your mind completely where romance is in question.
Even though following your heart is a great thing, there are also other things you need to take into consideration before getting yourself involved with someone new because sadly, love is not always enough.
Make sure to find a compatible partner and someone with whom things have a better chance of working out.
You often romanticize relationships, which can lead to disappointment when reality doesn’t meet your expectations. Love isn’t always perfect, but it can still be meaningful and beautiful.
By grounding yourself and focusing on shared values and goals, you can create a love that feels both real and extraordinary.
5. Leo
Leos are usually attracted to people who are similar to them. Even though they like to be the dominant partner in the relationship, they want to have someone who will challenge their authority and someone who they will consider a decent opponent.
And while a relationship like this is interesting and intriguing in the beginning, after a while it becomes tiring and exhausting. You need someone who will be down to earth because this is the only type of person who will bring a little bit of peace into your life.
Seeking a partner who complements rather than competes with you can help create a more balanced and harmonious relationship. They can still inspire you while giving you the space to shine.
A grounded partner will help you see that true strength lies in vulnerability and mutual support, not constant competition.
6. Virgo
If you belong to this zodiac, you like to be in control. You want to be perfect and you have the urge to make everyone around you as close to perfection as possible.
So, when you meet someone who is your complete opposite and whose life is a mess, you take it as your mission to put things in order. Of course, this type of relationship can never end well.
Your desire to “fix” others often distracts you from seeing them for who they truly are, flaws and all. This can create a relationship dynamic that feels more like a project than a partnership.
By accepting people as they are, you open yourself up to genuine connection and the possibility of a love that is perfectly imperfect.
7. Libra
You feel a desperate need to have love in your life so you usually end up falling in love with someone just because they gave you their heart. You want to reciprocate and consequently, you completely disregard your real feelings toward this person.
I know that you crave a karmic relationship and finding your other half but you can’t force these things. They happen when they are meant to and the only thing you can do is patiently wait for them to happen to you.
In your pursuit of love, you often overlook your own needs and settle for someone who doesn’t fully align with your values. This can leave you feeling unfulfilled in the long run.
By focusing on self-love and being patient, you’ll attract a partner who truly complements you rather than just filling a temporary void.
8. Scorpio
If you belong to this zodiac, you are always attracted to someone who is obviously unattainable and out of your reach. Naturally, you end up suffering for someone you knew from day one you could never really have.
Scorpios like to play games but that doesn’t mean that you should spend a lifetime chasing someone. Instead, if you want to be truly happy, you need to aspire to having something more consistent and permanent.
Your attraction to the unattainable often stems from your love of intensity and mystery, but it leaves you chasing illusions rather than building real connections.
By opening yourself up to someone who is emotionally available, you’ll find a love that is both passionate and stable—something that truly fulfills you.
9. Sagittarius
How many times have you heard that opposites attract? And while this is the truth, it is also a known fact that people who have too many differences have a hard time staying together for too long.
This is exactly what is always happening to you. You are always attracted to someone whose personality traits differ from yours. And while this can be intriguing in the beginning, eventually you see that someone you have nothing in common with can’t be your forever person.
Your adventurous spirit often leads you to seek out relationships that feel exciting and novel, but over time, these differences can create significant challenges.
A partner who shares your sense of curiosity and openness while aligning with your core values will offer you a love that is both thrilling and sustainable.
10. Capricorn
If you belong to this zodiac, you have the tendency to fall for independent and self-sufficient people. Although this is the type who won’t suffocate you and who will give you your personal space, it also turns out to be the type who makes you feel emotionally neglected.
I am not telling you to go after someone needy or possessively jealous but you should definitely look for a person who will give you their undivided attention and love.
Your preference for self-reliant partners can sometimes make you feel like an afterthought in the relationship. It’s important to find someone who values independence but also prioritizes emotional intimacy.
By seeking a balance between personal space and closeness, you can create a partnership that feels both supportive and fulfilling.
11. Aquarius
The most common mistake you make when it comes to relationships is the fact that you try to mirror yourself in your partner. If you look at it frankly, you’ve spent your entire dating life trying to find the opposite-gender version of yourself.
But just because you think this is the person you aspire to become, it doesn’t mean they are your soulmate or that the two of you are compatible or meant to be.
Your fascination with finding someone similar to you often leads to relationships that lack growth and challenge. True love often comes from someone who complements your uniqueness rather than replicates it.
By embracing diversity in relationships, you’ll open yourself up to deeper connections and the opportunity to learn and grow with someone who broadens your horizons.
12. Pisces
Pisces are emotional givers and that makes them the perfect target for emotional vampires and takers. When you care for someone, your love for them is unconditional and you never hold your emotions back. Naturally, you are usually drawn to people who manage to awaken that emotion inside of you.
But sadly, you often find yourself trapped in an empath-narcissist type of relationship and you are always the one who gets the short end of the stick.
Your selfless nature can lead you to give too much without expecting anything in return, leaving you emotionally drained. It’s essential to set boundaries and ensure that your love is reciprocated.
By choosing a partner who values your emotional depth and gives as much as they take, you’ll find a love that uplifts you instead of depleting you.