Every relationship is perfect in the beginning. You feel like you’re on top of the world and you’re crazy in love. Even the things you wouldn’t normally tolerate you let slide because you’re head over heels in love.
Actually, that is not even love, it’s that initial infatuation, the craziness when you’re completely blinded and obsessed with your new boyfriend.
But sooner or later, that initial flame starts fading and real life kicks in. Only then do you see whether you are truly in love with him or you were just too enthusiastic about the idea of love.
In this period, all the things you overlooked earlier become a burden. His quirks and his flaws become too real and it’s up to you whether you would learn to love them or grow to resent them.
You may even struggle with this new side of him and you don’t know how to react. You don’t know how to make him realize that he’s losing you. It can go that way, or sadly (though this happens more rarely), he will realize that you’re slipping away, that something is distancing you from him.
That’s why he’ll bring out the big guns if he truly loves you and do these things to keep you:
1. He will flirt with you
He knows that he has won you already but he won’t stop trying. If he senses that you might leave, he will flirt with you again. He will try to win you back. He will take you to a nice dinner, he won’t be late for your dates, and he will answer your texts as soon as he gets them. Basically, he will try to seduce you all over again.
2. He will drop everything just to be with you
No other plans are important as you are. If you watch his behavior closely, you’ll notice that he is really, truly, madly, deeply in love with you. He cares for you and he doesn’t want to gamble away this chance of being with you.
He cares and he will fight for you. If you need him, he will cancel whatever he had arranged just to be there for you and, of course, he will never tell you that nor will you find out, unless by accident.
3. He will give you gifts
It doesn’t even have to be a special occasion. He will buy you something to prove that he loves you or he will walk in the park and pick a flower or two and bring them to you.
He will show his emotional attachment and how much you mean to him by doing these small things which mean so much at the end of the day.
4. He will treat you like his priority
Nothing is more important than you. He will always put you first because at the moment you are the most important thing in his life and he wants to make you aware of it.
He wants to make sure that you won’t leave him ever by treating you the way you deserve, the way every woman deserves to be treated. He is smart enough to see it.
5. He will compliment you
He wants you to feel special and desirable. He wants you to feel beautiful because you are. This is not some desperate attempt to keep you by saying empty words to make you happy; no, he really means what he says and he proves it with actions.
He compliments you on your looks because he is crazy in love with you and to him you are the most beautiful girl on the face of the earth. He compliments things you’re doing and how you’re doing them because he truly admires you and your competence.
6. He cares about your family and friends
He knows they are important to you, that’s why they are important to him, too. He will try so hard to make them like him, like he is trying to win you over.
Even if he doesn’t like them, he will never show you that and he will keep it to himself because he loves you and doesn’t want to hurt you.
7. He will be there for you when you need him
Usually, people who are together for a while start taking each other for granted. Even when one person in the relationship needs help, the other one doesn’t take it that seriously because they believe they can handle it.
He won’t act that way. He will see when you’re stressed out and he’ll come to help you. He will either just be there for you and listen or he will give you advice, whatever works for you the best at that moment.