10 lezioni importanti che la vostra quasi relazione vi può insegnare

Even if he wasn’t the right one, the pain will still be there 

Solo perché il vostro partner non era quello giusto, non significa che non soffrirete.

Era lei a voler far funzionare le cose. Hai dato il tuo cuore e la tua anima per sviluppare forti legami con lui. 

Volevate tutto, ma non avete ottenuto nulla in cambio.

Tu eri solo un'altra ragazza che lui ha illuso con il suo fascino e le sue dolci parole.

E tu ci sei cascato.

You gave all you had and he couldn’t even commit to you.

So, when he leaves, don’t wonder why your heart is broken.

It’s completely normal that you feel that way. 

But trust me, what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.

Maybe you feel bad now, but you’ll soon be so happy that you got rid of someone who could never love you the way you deserve.

If he doesn’t make you feel good, you’re allowed to leave 

Rimanere in una quasi relazione è come aggrapparsi a qualcosa che non è reale.

Non si può che avere il cuore ancora più spezzato e finire in depressione. 

No man should ever make you feel like you’re not good enough.

E se c'è uno che vi fa sentire così, dimenticatevi di lui.

He’ll never be the man of your dreams. 

Non potrebbe mai darvi l'amore che meritate.

And what’s most important: non potrebbe mai metterti al primo posto.

That’s why you should leave whenever you feel unappreciated.

If you’re ready to invest it all to be happy with him and he doesn’t feel the same way, just leave.

If he cared enough, he’d pursue you.

But since he’s not giving you what you want, it is better to end it before it’s too late.

Credetemi, nessuno vi biasimerà se sceglierete di inseguire la vostra felicità. 

Meritate di ottenere una chiusura

La chiusura non è qualcosa che si deve elemosinare.

It’s something that should happen naturally.

One of the characteristics of almost relationships is not getting closure because the one who loves less thinks he doesn’t have to justify himself. 

So you end up with all your feelings and you don’t know where to put them.

You’re confused because you didn’t see the red flags and now it’s suddenly all over.

Può essere piuttosto duro.

But even if he doesn’t give you any closure, just move on and be happy that you’re free to do what you want. 

Vi siete salvati in tempo e ora potete iniziare un nuovo capitolo della vostra vita.

Ci si può innamorare di qualcuno che sa amare.

You can’t change anyone

No matter how much you try, you can’t change someone unless they want to do so.

So, don’t even try.

Don’t waste your time and energy on trying to make someone love you. 

Love and friendships shouldn’t be forced.

Dovrebbe venire naturale.

E se vedi che non vai da nessuna parte, lascia perdere.

Farà meno male, credetemi.

Quello che dovete fare è accettare che non è destinato a voi due e andare avanti. 

Once you remove yourself from everything that was breaking you, you’ll see that you did the right thing.

E la sensazione di essere così orgogliosi di se stessi sarà la più dolce in assoluto.

Il problema non è in voi

I know that you’ll reach a stage where you believe that the problem lies with you.

It’s not true. You are not guilty of falling in love with that jerk. 

You didn’t know how he’d behave toward you.

You believed all he said and thought he’d provide you with that fairytale he was talking about.

You gave him all you had and he didn’t give you anything in return.

You waited for him to get his shit together but he didn’t change. 

E non ha alcuna intenzione di farlo.

He won’t feel bad after you leave him.

He’ll just jump over to another victim and do the same to her.

So, don’t think you’re the guilty one.

He’s the one to blame.

Please don’t you ever forget that.

L'amore non ha più lo stesso significato per voi

After you get your heart broken, you don’t have the same outlook on love.

When you escape an almost relationship, you’re so scared that every next man who enters your life will do the same to you. 

Pensate a questo ogni volta che qualcuno attira la vostra attenzione.

E poi si scappa ogni volta dall'amore.

And even if you know that you’re not doing the right thing, you’ll be a prisoner of your own mind for so long. 

You think that true love doesn’t exist until you find a man who makes all your doubts go away.

Solo allora sarete finalmente la vecchia versione di voi stessi. 

Imparate a rispettarvi di più 

After all that you’ve gone through in your almost relationship, you actually learned one thing well: how to respect and love yourself.

Now you know that if you don’t respect yourself enough, others won’t do it either. 

And that’s what you are proud of currently.

Vi rendete conto che qualsiasi uomo malvagio cercherà di trascinarvi e di approfittarsi di voi se glielo permettete.

Ma poiché avete vissuto l'orrore di stare con qualcuno che voleva tutto senza darvi nulla in cambio, ora sapete come comportarvi. 

Non permetterete mai a nessun uomo di maltrattarvi o di darvi per scontate.

Ora si vuole tutto o niente.

And you’re staying single finché non otterrete ciò che meritate davvero. 

Si supera prima di quanto si pensi 

Maybe you don’t believe that you’ll get over your almost relationship, but you will.

In realtà, accade prima di quanto si pensi.

I know that you are confused now and don’t know how to move on, but you’ll learn to live with it over time. 

You’ll go through different phases and learn new things about yourself.

You’ll realize that you’re no longer the same person and the change you went through actually helped you. 

Maybe you didn’t end up with the love of your life, but you learned to get over some things faster.

You discovered a new strength within yourself and are now so proud of the woman you’ve become. 

You no longer compare your love life with other people’s lives 

Quando si finisce una quasi relazione, si imparano un paio di cose.

You learn that you shouldn’t compare your love life with other people’s lives. 

You realize that every love story is individual and you can’t expect the same thing to happen to you as to your best friend.

If you continue doing that, you’ll end up depressed every time someone else gets what you wanted. 

Inoltre, ci sono persone che sanno mentire bene e fingere che tutto vada bene.

That’s one more reason to stop trusting all that you see.

Prima lo capite, più facile sarà per voi.

Se qualcuno vi ama, vi inseguirà 

It is pretty simple. You know if someone loves you if they’re prepared to chase you.

Punto. Tutto il resto è solo un gioco.

So, when you notice that a man you’re seeing wants boyfriend benefits but doesn’t want to be your boyfriend, just know it’s a red flag. 

If someone truly cares about you, he’ll make some effort.

He’ll try to make you feel good and nothing will be too much for him.

So, next time someone tries to lead you on just because they’re your weak spot, just move on. 

Chi vuole più di quanto dà non è abbastanza degno di far parte della vostra vita.