7 veri motivi per cui ti manca il tuo ex

Non sei pazza se ti manca, sia che fosse uno psicopatico totale o un bravo ragazzo, o solo perché il sesso era bello.

One way or another, he was a part of your life and now he’s gone. Of course you’re going to feel something.

So missing him is totally normal and excusable. You’re not alone, by the way. It’s in every human’s nature to feel that way after a relationship has ended.

Those who continue partying after they’ve gotten out of a relationship and swear they are okay, are, of course, lying.

But that’s a story for another time.

Avete presente quando all'improvviso vi dimenticate di tutte le cose brutte che avete passato in una relazione dopo la rottura?

It’s fascinating how those bad memories fade away so quickly and the good ones force their way to you.

It’s like your own mind is playing tricks on you and tries to make you feel guilty that the two of you broke up.

Se ci pensate, la mancanza del vostro ex è un classico scherzo che la vostra mente vi sta facendo.

As much as I want to believe that to be totally true, that my mind is just playing with me and it’s going to go away sooner or later, there are still other reasons why you miss your ex—like true, legit reasons.

1. You’re still single

Avete mai sentito parlare di rimbalzo? Ebbene, vi suggerisco caldamente di provarlo. Lasciatevi andare e uscite con qualcuno che vi aiuti a dimenticare.

You actually need a man right now to kick your ex out of your mind. You need to get rid of him. The sooner you do it, the sooner you’re going to forget about him.

Quando si finisce per essere single dopo una relazione, si deve affrontare il fatto che si ha un sacco di tempo a disposizione e, francamente, non si ha idea di cosa fare con questo tempo.

So, what I actually think is that one of the reasons why you’re still thinking about him is because, well… you’re bored.

Hai bisogno di una distrazione mascherata da un bel pezzo di culo caldo. Segui il mio consiglio e distraiti!

2. Avete chiuso le cose di recente

Che ci crediate o no, ci vuole tempo per mettere in ordine le proprie emozioni. Nulla accade da un giorno all'altro e in fondo lo sapete, ma vi rifiutate di accettarlo.

We don’t have an on and off switch to press whenever we don’t like what we’re feeling. Emotions don’t work that way.

We can’t change that, we can’t control our emotions. And whether you like it or not, you’re going to miss him for as long as your heart is still hung up on him.

But don’t panic, let some time pass by and he’ll be further and further in the past. Eventually, you’ll forget about him altogether.

3. Note e testi del buongiorno

As I’ve already said, whatever this guy did to you and no matter how pissed off you are at him, there are still some good things about him that you miss.

Forse ti lasciava dei bigliettini o ti mandava messaggi che Gli sei mancato out of the blue. It would be cool to keep that, wouldn’t it?

There is one thing you aren’t probably aware of, though. You’re not missing him per se, you’re missing the attention you were getting.

Vi manca che qualcuno pensi a voi e vi dimostri che siete importanti.

That’s why I strongly suggest you go through with the first point and find a rebound.

You’ll see that you don’t care about who sent the text ‘I miss you’. It’s just important for you to get it.

4. You’re obsessing over what went wrong

Again, you’re not alone in this. It’s no wonder you’re trying to figure out what happened between the two of you and why it ended.

Forse pensate che sia tutta colpa vostra. Notizia! Ci vogliono due persone per mandare all'aria una relazione, o in alcuni casi, un uomo molto demente ed emotivamente paralizzato.

Whatever the case may be, it’s not your fault, or not only your fault.

So, as long as you keep torturing yourself with trying to turn back time, you won’t be able to let him go and move on.

5. Siete impressionati dalla sua famiglia

This sometimes can also be at stake. His mom is a badass and you really love her. Now that you’re no longer together, you miss having her around.

In this case, my friend, you’re missing his family and not him, which is kind of reasonable.

Quando si rompe con un ragazzo, si rompe anche con la sua famiglia.

Maybe he was an ass but his family weren’t and now you’re faced with losing people who liked you and you liked them back.

That is a hard blow to take. Therefore, it’s normal you’re missing the main link that tied you together—your ex.

6. Il sesso era fuori dal mondo

There is no need to say out loud that it’s so freakin’ hard to find a man who will satisfy you both emotionally and physically but there, I had to say it.

If he was a selfish lover and having sex with him was just a part of the relationship routine, of course, you won’t miss him.

Purtroppo, in questo caso, il sesso era strabiliante e in realtà ciò che si rimpiange non è di aver perso lui, ma di aver perso il suo ‘thing’. It was a good ‘thing’ wasn’t it?

Well, at this point, all you can do is move on and I’m sure there will appear another man who will know how to satisfy you in every way possible.

7. Manca il contatto

A tutti noi manca il tocco umano. Che vi piaccia ammetterlo o meno, siamo tutti progettati per desiderare attenzione e contatto fisico.

We are not able to go through life completely alone and even the ones who are alone and don’t want to admit they are miserable face that crisis from time to time.

So, you see, it’s perfectly normal to miss the man who snuggled with you, who cuddled like there’s no tomorrow.

It’s normal to miss the human touch but that doesn’t necessarily mean that you miss him.

The bottom line is, even if he was a total jerk it’s still normal to miss him and I mean miss him for true, legit reasons.

Missing him even though you know you shouldn’t doesn’t mean you’ve lost it. Everybody goes through the same thing as you, they are just too ashamed to admit it.