Scoprite se dovreste postare il vostro ex sui social media e molto di più

Chiedersi se è il caso di postare il tuo ex sui social media dopo la rottura?

On top of that, you want to make her/him jealous via social media platforms so that they’d want you back?

There is a way to make that happen but first, I’m going to give you a breakdown of whether or not it’s a smart choice to post your ex on your social media accounts.

During heartbreak, the last thing you want is making rash decisions that you’ll regret down the road so don’t try to Fai ingelosire il tuo ex subito dopo l'inizio.

Prendetevi una breve pausa dall'inviare tweet provocanti, dal postare selfie sensuali, dal mandare messaggi o dall'aggiornare costantemente il vostro profilo Facebook.

Prima di lavorare per riconquistare il vostro ex, dovete raccogliere i vostri pensieri, darvi il tempo di rivalutare ciò di cui avete bisogno e semplicemente respirare.

In questo articolo, mi chiedo se postare il vostro ex sia una mossa saggia, discuto di COME utilizzare i social media per riconquistarlo e quando it’s high time to cut ties for good.

Dovreste postare il vostro ex sui social media?

In poche parole, no. Non dovreste mai scegliere di postare il vostro ex sui social media. Il motivo è molto semplice.

The whole point of a break-up is to focus on yourself. No matter what the reasoning for cutting ties was, if it’s over, it’s over.

Questo significa mettere se stessi al primo posto e lasciare il passato al suo posto. Anche se il vostro obiettivo fosse far sì che il vostro ex vi rivoglia, questo non funzionerebbe mai.

Why? Because this move gives them ALL the power. That way, they know they’ve got you where they want you.

Sanno che la vostra nostalgia sta avendo la meglio su di voi e possono farne ciò che vogliono.

So my simple answer is don’t post pictures with your ex post-break-up. Don’t give them the satisfaction.

There are other ways to stir some jealousy but this isn’t it. If you truly feel like you’re in the right headspace to contemplate getting your ex back, I strongly encourage you to keep reading.

Qui di seguito, condivido le informazioni suggerimenti e trucchi on using social media to your advantage after the break-up and I also discuss WHEN it’s the right time to unfriend your ex once and for all.

Se cercate consigli accurati su tutto ciò che riguarda i social media e gli ex, scorrete e prendete appunti.

Come far sì che la vostra ex vi rivoglia indietro facendola ingelosire?

Postare una foto sexy con un amico di sesso opposto per suscitare un po' di gelosia

This can be truly innocent. It can be a really good friend (who your ex has never met—even better) who just happens to look great.

Go out, take a cute selfie (or ten) and choose the best one. Don’t be too obvious with the hashtag as then your ex will know it’s entirely about them and that beats the purpose.

Scrivete invece qualcosa del tipo 1TP5Vivere la mia vita migliore e assicuratevi di sorridere come se la vostra vita dipendesse da questo.

Il vostro ex lo noterà senza ombra di dubbio.

Potete scommettere che la loro mente andrà a cento miglia all'ora cercando di capire se conoscono questa persona e qual è la natura del vostro rapporto.

And that’s all you could want. It might not get him back instantly but it’ll definitely make them pay closer attention.

Fate conoscere ai vostri follower sui social media le vostre nuove ed entusiasmanti imprese.

Avete iniziato un nuovo lavoro? Andrete all'estero per qualche mese? Avete ottenuto una promozione? Fatelo sapere ai vostri collaboratori!

It’s not embarrassing posting about your exciting, new accomplishments.

Le persone postano in continuazione il loro cibo e ogni loro pensiero, quindi non sentitevi mai in colpa se volete farvi notare.

Credetemi, il vostro ex si sentirà in colpa per non essere stato presente di persona ad essere felice per voi.

Or if you ended it on bad terms, they’ll be beating themselves up when they see your amazing news.

Either way, it’ll affect them one way or another. Either they’ll contact you to say congrats, which will encourage a conversation, or they’ll reach out to find out more.

Either way, it’s a step forward that could lead toward your desired outcome. Just don’t expect a miracle prematurely. Step by step and you’ll get there.

Vedi anche: Sparire dai social media dopo una rottura (tutto quello che c'è da sapere)

Take a vacay with your crew and don’t skimp on the photos!

Perché postare il vostro ex sui social media se potete postare il vostro fantastico e solidale gruppo mentre siete in fuga?

I bet you’re due an unforgettable trip with your best friends so why not regalatevi e rendete felice la vostra anima?

It’ll help you unwind, live your best life and take TONS of photos.

And you know who the first person to notice (and be jealous about it) will be. That’s right; your ex! Let them see all the fun you’re having.

Mostrate ogni vostra avventura, postate SOLO hashtag felici e positivi e, invece di amareggiarvi, mostrate solo positività!

There’s nothing like essere felici senza di loro.

And sometimes, people need to see that the world doesn’t revolve around them. It might just encourage them to hit you up.

And then, it’s totally up to you how the rest of it unfolds.

Resistete all'impulso di fare DM o di rispondere ai loro commenti.

At one point, you’re going to see a window to DM them. They’ll post about something that really tickles your fancy and you’ll see it as a great chance to start talking. But don’t.

It’s not necessarily about completely losing touch; it’s about taking back the power. Your ex knows what they’re doing. They know what post will intrigue you.

Don’t let them see they can get to you so easily. Don’t fall in that trap.

Se riuscite a non abboccare, il vostro ex non avrà altra scelta che contattarvi direttamente, se questo era il suo obiettivo iniziale.

You want to be the one who’s chased, right? So let them do whatever they want and just live your happy life. If they see that you’re too happy to pay attention, it’ll bug them.

A quel punto, l'unico modo per iniziare una conversazione è che siano loro a farla. Un po' di moderazione è utile.

Like and leave cute comments on their best friend’s photos

Again, this doesn’t mean that you’re making a move or anything; you’re simply being a little sultry and provocative. So what?

You have every right to like posts and write whatever you want. And if you just happen to really, really dig his/her BFF’s new post, what’s wrong with being vocal about it?

It won’t mean anything but it’ll really gnaw at them.

Perché commentate le loro foto? Siete improvvisamente diventati amici della loro migliore amica? Sta succedendo qualcosa tra voi due?

It’ll definitely catch their attention and make them want to clear the air. And the whole idea is to make them jealous, right?

Che cosa vi dice il fatto che un semplice commento o un "like" possa farli agitare?

People who don’t care about you wouldn’t care about these silly things.

If they make this into a thing, there’s still a chance for you after all.

Tag yourself when you’re in their neck of the woods but don’t ask to meet

Here’s another cute way to get their attention. Next time you visit their neighborhood for whatever reason, leave the geotag on.

It could be a supermarket run, visiting a friend, going to the doctor’s office or any other reason.

Make sure that your location is visible and don’t mention that you’ll be nearby.

When they see that you’re so close, trust me, they’ll be wondering what on earth you’re doing there. And better yet, why haven’t you hit them up?

And leave it that way. Don’t call, don’t text and don’t tell anyone what you’re doing there. Let your ex’s imagination run wild.

They might just think you’re there to visit them but when there’s no sign of you, they’ll start thinking about who else you know nearby.

And just like that, you’ll occupy your ex’s mind. Without doing or saying anything at all. That’s what I call being sneaky AF.

Apparire più felici che mai nei selfie con gli amici comuni

Hopefully, you’ve got a few mutual friends between you two. If you get a chance, hit them up for a hangout session sometime soon.

Andare al cinema, passare una serata fuori, prendere un caffè o scegliere qualsiasi altra avventura. Parlare di tutto e di più, tranne che dell'ex.

In questo modo, quando chiederanno loro se stavate facendo i ficcanaso nella loro vita (e loro volontà chiedere) la risposta sarà a vostro vantaggio.

Un'altra cosa: fatevi dei bei selfie, mostratevi felici e non esitate a pubblicarli sui vostri social media.

They’re your friends too. Why shouldn’t you be happy?

It’ll be a big blow for them when they see you happy without them, especially with mutual friends.

Nostalgia will hit and they’ll probably reminisce about the beautiful times you all had together.

Now it’s all gone. But is it really? It doesn’t have to be and they might just realize that too.

Leave clues that you’re on the lookout for a new relationship

But never be too obvious. Just enough to let them know you’re looking.

The thing is, it doesn’t have to be true but if your ex starts thinking that you’re ready to andare avanti da loro, potrebbe farli sentire in qualche modo.

A little white lie never hurt anybody. Plus, this isn’t really a lie. It’s a hint. And if it makes your ex take notice, I’m all for it.

Fare qualcosa che avete sempre rimandato mentre stavate insieme

Probabilmente avevate un milione di progetti che non sono mai stati realizzati, come fare un viaggio in Italia, visitare la loro città natale o andare in campeggio da qualche parte nella natura.

So here’s what you can do; go do that thing all by yourself! You can even do it with your bestie.

There’s no time like the present. And if you really want to do something, why wouldn’t you?

Just because it was a plan a long time ago with an ex? I don’t think so.

Fate le valigie, organizzatevi e andate a vivere la vostra vita.

Sure, it’ll make your ex super jealous that they’re not your travel buddy.

It’s likely going to hit them hard that you took someone else. And that’s great!

Vedervi felici in un posto che doveva essere riservato a voi due sarà la cosa più bella. sveglia avevano bisogno.

Fate l'unica cosa che sapete che vi farebbe impazzire di gelosia.

Sapete meglio di chiunque altro cosa vi farebbe impazzire in questo momento riguardo al vostro ex.

You don’t need a relationship expert to tell you how your ex could make you jealous AF.

Pensate bene a cosa possono fare in questo momento che vi farebbe arrabbiare e fatelo voi.

Questo attirerà sicuramente la loro attenzione. Perché non usare i propri sentimenti a proprio vantaggio?

Vi sconvolgerebbe se il vostro ex postasse una foto con il suo migliore amico a cui avete sempre pensato che fosse troppo legato?

Forse sarebbe passare la notte in discoteca a fare chissà cosa?

Lasciate che la vostra immaginazione faccia il suo corso e aiutatevi Fai ingelosire il tuo ex come un pazzo. Se sapete cosa vi fa scattare, è probabile che lo stesso valga per il vostro ex.

Major Dos & Don’ts Of Using Social Media Post-Break Up

DON’T stalk your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend no matter what

This is one ‘sin’ a LOT of us are guilty of at some point after a break-up. You promise yourself that you won’t but you just avere a.

You just need to know what they’re up to and where they are. Are they as sad as you are?

Escono senza sosta? Sono soli o circondati da amici?

Ma ascoltatemi. Whatever you end up finding out will not help you in any way. It won’t make you feel better.

It won’t make the pain go away. And it won’t make things easier.

Pedinare gli ex dopo la rottura è la peggiore idea in assoluto. Lo so per esperienza diretta.

Dopo aver fatto un po' di stalking qualche anno fa, ho scoperto che il mio ex passava del tempo con la sua ex ragazza.

E sapete come mi ha fatto sentire? Di merda. Inadeguata. Come se avesse rotto con me solo per tornare da lei.

Quindi fermatevi subito e ringraziatevi dopo.

DON’T be unnerved when you sense their posts are about you

We can all get a little petty sometimes, especially if a break-up was acrimonious. After all, we’re only human.

However, the moment you sense that some of their posts are actually a dig at you, don’t be unnerved.

That will be the best revenge. What they want is for you to react. So don’t.

You’ll know if the post was meant for you or not and you can react privately however you need. But never show them your reaction.

It’ll bug them like hell. How can you be so indifferent? How do their words not affect you?

However, the thing is, of course you’re going to feel something. The difference is that you’re not going to let it show.

That’s a classy thing to do and it’s a sign of maturity.

If your ex won’t take the high road, you will. It’ll feel a million times better than stooping to their level.

DON’T add any of her/his (fe)male friends or new partner on social media

This is a big mistake. Huge. But on a more serious note, really, don’t do it.

It’ll be so obvious what you’re trying to do and again, it’ll bring you zero comfort.

And the worst part? They probably won’t even accept it, which will suck even worse. So don’t put yourself in this position.

Il tuo ex ha la sua vita, come è suo diritto, ma d'altronde anche tu.

Cosa vi aspettate da loro, che se ne stiano a casa con il cuore spezzato a piangere per voi?

Mi dispiace ma le persone devono andare avanti con le loro vite.

Possono tornare verso di voi o allontanarsi il più possibile, ma rimanere fermi non è un'opzione.

So don’t add any people from his life. It’ll seem really bad and it’ll be just as uncomfortable for you as it will for your ex.

Prendete una breve pausa dalle vostre piattaforme di social media.

Una cosa che mi ha portato più pace dopo la mia terribile rottura è stata la disintossicazione dai social media, di cui avevo bisogno.

After ending things, people tend to go on a social media rampage; posting more than ever, taking hot selfies, writing statuses that are obviously aimed at their ex… but to what avail?

At the end of the day, you’re only going to feel embarrassed about it once you’ve moved on so why not take this step and move away from all the drama?

Se il vostro obiettivo finale è la guarigione e la possibilità di fare tabula rasa (in qualsiasi direzione), dovete fare un passo indietro.

Put all this behind you and promise yourself that you won’t touch your Facebook, Instagram or Snapchat for at least a week. Moreover, deactivate them altogether.

After some time away from your devices, you’ll see how good and healthy life can be.

Vivere la propria vita reale invece di essere meschini online è la migliore medicina per avere le idee chiare.

DON’T make posts that are a clear dig at your ex

If you realize that you just can’t stay away, okay, we can work with that too. But whatever you do, do NOT post your ex.

That’s the first step. And can you guess what the second one is? Do not post ABOUT your ex. Put the ex-files in a deep drawer and lock it.

Dimenticate l'esistenza del cassetto e vivete come se non ne foste mai stati a conoscenza.

And one day, you’ll just realize that you’ve actually been really happy, totally forgetting about wanting to blast them online.

People know exactly what your post means and who it’s aimed at.

And it’s not a good look. Raging post-break-up can be avoided if you can just train yourself to focus on the positives.

Uscire nella natura. Fate un'escursione con il tuo migliore amico e il vostro cane (se ne avete uno). Dedicatevi a un nuovo hobby. Leggete buoni libri. Chiamate i vostri amici.

These will take up so much of your time that you’ll forget all about wanting to stoop so low. It’s honestly the most counterproductive thing you can do.

Vivete la vostra vita senza preoccupazioni e piangete in privato con i vostri cari quando ne avete bisogno. Ma mischiare la vostra rabbia con i social media è un grande no.

Fate un periodo di assenza di contatto, vale a dire niente chiacchiere sui social media.

There are some exes out there who make a pact to stay friends. For me, it’s not really an option but hey, if someone can make it work, good for them.

My advice to you is if you’re still feeling raw, sad and confused and you want them back, by all means, go for a no-contact period.

Ne hai bisogno più di quanto immagini. Rimanere amici di qualcuno per cui si provano ancora sentimenti profondi è doloroso.

You’re going to lie to yourself that you’re totally fine but you won’t be.

Instagram comments you leave each other won’t help matters one bit. DM-ing about something totally random will make you feel as if there’s still hope.

Quindi tagliare il cavo è davvero importante per darsi l'opportunità di stare davvero bene.

Don’t delude yourself; it’s over. Things may change at some point but not right now so cut them off completely, and don’t engage in any type of conversation.

It’ll be like tiny cuts all over your body.

DON’T post about every single thing that happens in your life

Live your own life and resist the urge to let everyone know what you’re up to 24/7. A little mystery is always a healthy choice.

Don’t try to get your ex’s attention by being online all the time.

Don’t think that just because they know where you currently are, they’ll rush to you and ask to get back together.

These things don’t even happen in the movies. So take the high road.

Leave social media be and live your life for yourself. You don’t need an audience.

I promise that after a while, things will get better but first, you need to weather this storm. Take it one day at a time and don’t push yourself too hard.

If you don’t feel like doing anything special today, that’s fine. Just don’t write a sad status and don’t post any dramatic quotes.

You’ll be fine eventually. And remember, it’s always dark before the dawn.

Pubblicare post sui vostri regimi di cura di sé che siano d'ispirazione e di elevazione.

If you’ve found some inspiring hobby that helps you move past all the heartbreak, definitely post about that!

Le persone amano i post edificanti e orientati alla cura di sé.

Perhaps you’ve discovered yoga, you’ve started using new products that have been doing wonders for your skin or there’s a new gym that you swear by.

Questo è un argomento di cui potete assolutamente scrivere: il vostro viaggio verso la felicità interiore e come arrivarci.

It’s not about your ex, it’s about you ritrovare se stessi di nuovo!

Questo è sicuramente qualcosa di degno di Instagram.

It’ll inspire your followers, help someone during their struggle and bring you closer together to your community. What more could you ask for?

Positivity should always outweigh negativity. It’s so easy staying in your dark, gloomy bubble and refusing to find a glimmer of hope.

Ma basta una sola cosa. Un motivo per alzarsi e continuare la giornata.

That one thing has the power to turn into two, three, ten little things and before you know it, you’ll be genuinely okay.

Fare il primo passo è il più difficile, ma sicuramente il più gratificante.

DON’T leave nasty comments on their posts

Se li vedete postare una foto con una nuova compagna, astenetevi dal commentare: Wow, it really didn’t take you long to replace me.

If you see them post a happy status, also don’t comment saying anything that’ll allude to how they treated you. It may suck but being nasty online can only worsen things—and fast.

Per di più, al mondo esterno (leggi: i vostri amici online), you’ll appear as the villain in this story, while they’ll be the victim.

And we all know that’s far from the truth. So whatever nasty thing you’re tempted to write, just don’t. It’ll feel good for a brief second, then it’ll suck for much longer.

Cogliete l'occasione per conoscere nuove persone e ampliare la vostra cerchia di conoscenze

Potrebbe essere una vera benedizione sotto mentite spoglie. Se ricevete una nuova richiesta di amicizia, accettatela!

This could be someone you just recently met at the gym or a friend of a friend. Either way, it’s a great opportunity to meet some new people and shift your focus from all this negativity.

And honestly, you never know when life’s about to surprise you with someone who’ll become really important to you.

So broaden your horizons and take any opportunity you get to expand your circle. What’s the worst that can happen?

Quando è il momento di togliere l'amicizia al vostro ex una volta per tutte?

Quando vedere il loro volto spuntare sui social media vi fa sentire infelici

This is when you know that unfollowing them is a must. Your social media feed shouldn’t bring you anxiety.

Browsing through your feed shouldn’t make you worrisome about seeing something that could break your heart in half.

Do yourself a favor and press delete. You’ll still sentirne la mancanza and wonder what they’re up to but at least you won’t keep seeing them all the time and that’s vital.

Per guarire da una rottura, è necessario allontanarsi da lui per un po'. E come è possibile se il suo volto continua a comparire sulle vostre piattaforme di social media?

When you feel the urge to contact them, knowing you SHOULDN’T

Every time you go online, you try to create an excuse to contact them. Any little reason that won’t seem obvious.

But the thing is… it will be obvious.

If you know that you shouldn’t contact them but you fear that your weakness could get the better of you, I have two words for you. Togliete loro l'amicizia.

Volete sentirvi meglio? Volete smettere di essere così ossessionati da loro?

Siete stanchi di essere tentati di inviare loro un messaggio ogni giorno? Allora sapete cosa fare.

Hitting ‘unfriend’ will feel like a thousand knives through your chest but once you do it, it’ll be over and done with.

When all you want to do is add all of their friends to see what they’re up to

Ogni volta che vedete il vostro ex uscire con i suoi amici, avete bisogno di saperne di più. E come potete farlo? Aggiungendoli.

Ma dovreste farlo? Assolutamente no. Anzi, nel momento in cui vi avvicinate a premere il pulsante aggiungi amico, andate immediatamente offline.

What’s the point in doing that? Hurting yourself even more?

Quando la tentazione di aggiungere tutti coloro che sono associati al vostro ex ha la meglio sul vostro buon senso, dovete togliergli l'amicizia.

Don’t let your current weakness win. You’re better than that.

Quando vederli con un nuovo partner vi ricorda la vostra relazione precedente

Your ex has a new partner and it’s profoundly painful seeing them together.

Every time they post a cute photo, your nostalgia kicks in and you’re reminded of how that used to be you.

Più li vedi, meno stai bene.

Questo non farà altro che prolungare il processo di guarigione. Ogni singola foto e status felice peggiorerà il processo di guarigione.

How can you put an end to that? By choosing to no longer be their online friend. There really isn’t a reason for that anymore.

When they post about ‘finally’ being with the right person (you don’t need that kind of negativity)

This will be the hardest pill to swallow; knowing that your ex can post whatever they want and there’s nothing you can do about it.

Don’t be surprised when they post a nasty status such as: ‘So, this is what it’s like when you’re finally with the right person’.

It’ll hurt like hell. You’ll know that this is a dig at you. You’ll feel the need to reply and be merciless while crying on the inside.

Ma sapete una cosa? Perché dovreste farlo? I battibecchi online sono infantili, immaturi e inutili.

If you don’t want to let them ferirti, cancellateli subito! What you don’t know can’t hurt you.

When you still haven’t healed from the break-up

It’s okay not to be okay. It’s okay if you’re still picking up your pieces. There is no time limit on heartbreak.

Nobody gets to tell you to just get over it. It’ll take you as long as it takes.

But do you know what’s really important during this time? Admitting to yourself that keeping your ex on your friend list is anything but a healthy choice.

For as long as you’re on shaky ground emotionally, you don’t need their presence.

Maybe one day you’ll be ready to be (online) friends again but today is probably not that day.

When you realize that if you don’t, you’ll never really get over them

Which brings me to my next point. After having admitted to yourself that you’re still too messed up to see them on your feed, it’s time for another bitter pill.

Deep down, you know you’ll never heal if you don’t move away from them, both physically and virtually.

Se volete riconquistare il vostro ex, prima di tutto dovete tornare ad essere sani. E togliere l'amicizia, per il momento, è d'obbligo.

Who knows, maybe in a few months’ time, you’ll be a brand new person who can handle it better. But now, do what’s best for you.

Quando l'autostima è ai minimi storici

You’ve never felt more sorry for yourself. You’ve never felt less important or attractive. You fear that no one will ever want you again.

Eppure, tieni il tuo ex nella tua lista di amici? The one who’s (at least partially) to blame for the way you’re feeling right now?

I don’t think I need to go any further. Whatever happened between you two, it’s clear that it has affected you mentally and emotionally.

You don’t need that kind of negativity in your life. Your worth is not based on what your ex thinks of you!

When you realize that it’s time to move on without looking back

One day, you’ll finally realize that it’s high time to move on and non guardare mai indietro. The past is in the past and what’s done is done.

Your past relationship doesn’t define you and you sure as hell won’t allow yourself to dwell in negativity any longer.

Pertanto, togliere l'amicizia a questa persona diventerà un imperativo per una vita più felice.

Luckily, at this point, it won’t be as hard anymore. It’ll be a natural next step toward betterment.

It might sting every now and again but with each passing day, you’ll be better.

And ultimately, that’s all you could wish for.

Quando si incontra qualcuno che ci aiuta a vedere la luce alla fine del tunnel

No matter how gloomy it might seem right now, one day you’re going to meet someone new. And this person will help you see your worth again.

You’ll realize that your tough break-up was just a part of life that sucked profoundly but it needed to happen so that you can grow.

Today, you’re happier and much, much stronger for it. You went through a lot of pain and you came out the other end. Congrats!

And the final step toward being truly okay again is unfriending the person who made you feel like you weren’t enough.

Now, you’re finally with someone who knows how to treat you.

Ciò significa che mantenere il vostro ex nella vostra lista di amici è la cosa più lontana dalla vostra mente.

Cliccate subito su quel pulsante per togliere l'amicizia e andate dove vi porta la vostra nuova felicità.

Pensieri finali

Le rotture fanno schifo. Che siate stati voi a iniziare o meno, andare avanti non è mai così semplice come vorreste.

Therefore, considering whether or not to post your ex in a desperate attempt to get their attention isn’t that crazy.

Don’t feel bad about feeling nostalgic, wanting to meet up and thinking of texting them. You’re only human.

Just last night, I was experiencing one of the more challenging nights wondering whether I should reply to my ex’s Snapchat or not. And do you know what I figured out?

It’s all up to you and your journey. If you feel confident that you’ve healed from last year’s break-up, why the hell not?

But if you’re still reminiscing in your head about the last time they kissed you, perhaps it’s time to hit the brakes.

I’ve shared with you my foolproof tips on getting your ex back and figuring it all out and I hope you’ll know how to use them wisely.

After all, you know your own heart and you’re the only one who knows what the smart move is. So, good luck and keep pushing forward. You’ve got this.