Quando ignori una vera donna, le insegni a vivere senza di te

Da sempre vi è stato insegnato che è necessario giocare duro per ottenere se vuoi avere qualsiasi ragazza tu scelga. You assumed that this was the only way to truly win a girl’s heart, to get in her pants and finally under her skin.

At the end of the day, we all want what and who we can’t have, right? And she is no exception; at least, she shouldn’t be one.

You’ve done this trick like a million times; you acted like you couldn’t care less about the girl you were seeing until she was all yours. And each one of them fell for it.

So, here is the drill: The more you run from her, the more she’ll chase you. If you make her doubt your feelings every day, she’ll give her best to enter your heart.

When you treat her coldly, she’ll put an effort into making you love her. When you send her mixed signals, she will spend hours or days thinking about you and trying to decode them.

Se vi comportate in modo misterioso, lei farà di tutto per capirvi e scoprire tutti gli strati della vostra personalità. Se fate giochi mentali caldi e freddi, lei farà di tutto per arrivare in fondo alle vostre intenzioni.

When you leave her on read, she will double-text you to see what went wrong. When you don’t return her calls, she will panically start stalking you, just to find out where you are and what you’ve been up to.

If you are seeing other girls, she’ll compete with them until she has you all to herself. If you give her breadcrumbs of your attention, she won’t settle until she gets your wholehearted love.

When a girl doesn’t know where she stands with you, you automatically become more interesting. You become her prey and she doesn’t give up until she catches you.

And by then, it is usually too late—she is already head over heels for you. After all the effort she put into you, she is ready to do whatever it takes to keep you around.

In realtà le cose sono piuttosto semplici: Più si ignorare una donna, the more effort she’ll put into chasing you. The more indifference you show, the bigger her fight will be to win your heart.

Beh, lasciatemi dire una cosa: All of this is nothing but a load of crap. Yes, it might be true when it comes to immature girls who don’t know what they want.

Questo approccio funziona per le ragazze che hanno un problema di insicurezza e che hanno bisogno della vostra approvazione per vedere la loro autostima. Per le ragazze che amano i drammi senza senso e che hanno bisogno di una spinta per il loro ego sotto forma di un uomo.

Tuttavia, tutto è diverso quando si tratta di un  donna reale because where she is concerned, you’ll only get the opposite effect—you’ll end up chasing her away with this behavior.

You see, this woman isn’t into games. She is not turned on by men who are not sure about her and who have trouble making up their mind about her.

This girl knows what and who she wants and won’t settle for a man who treats her like one of his options. Besides, she doesn’t have the time or the energy for the chase you so desperately crave.

Invece, lei ama le cose all'antica, come l'amore, il rispetto, l'onestà e l'attenzione totale.

Quindi when you ignore this girl, you’re only helping her get used to a life without you. You are giving her a chance to learn how to get by on her own and an opportunity to kick you out of her system.

You’re only distancing yourself from her and you’re helping her get over you while you’re still there. You’re showing her that she is only wasting her time with you and you’re giving yourself a one-way ticket out of her life.

This woman needs someone who will be a consistent figure in her life. A man she can rely on, without having to constantly worry if he’ll turn his back on her the very next morning after he promised her the world.

She needs someone to be her life companion and someone who will make her existence more beautiful. However, what she doesn’t need is a guy who will drain her energy and turn her life into a nightmare.

Una vera donna ha bisogno di un uomo vero. L'ultima cosa che vuole è un ragazzo con problemi di autostima profondamente radicati, che ha bisogno che lei gli vada dietro per sentirsi un uomo più grande di quanto non sia in realtà.

Inoltre, she is very well aware of her self-worth so she definitely won’t allow you to humiliate her and treat her like your puppy. Yes, she loves you deeply but that doesn’t mean she is ready to lose her dignity just to heal your insecurities.

Per quanto questa donna tenga a te, she won’t beg you to give her what she deserves even if her life depends on it. Most importantly—she won’t sit there patiently waiting for you to come to your senses and realize it’s about time to change your ways.

Quindi, per favore, don’t be surprised when si allontana e ricordate che siete stati voi la causa del suo allontanamento. Quando vi scaricherà, ricordatevi che non le avete lasciato scelta e che l'avete allontanata con il vostro comportamento infantile.

Most importantly—don’t expect her to come back and understand that this is her final goodbye.

After all, she warned you that this day would come and that you’re testing both her limits and her patience. She kept telling you to cut the crap, to start treating her with respect and to make up your mind.

Tuttavia, avete continuato con i vostri schemi tossici. Pensavate che fosse solo una recita ed eravate certi che lei sarebbe rimasta per sempre al vostro fianco, perdendo tempo in questa relazione in cui l'avevate trascinata.

Well, guess what? She won’t. Le hai insegnato a vivere senza di te, quindi affrontane le conseguenze!