Lo amo ancora? 5 chiari segni che è ora di lasciarlo andare

Sono ancora amarlo o rimango con lui solo per motivi pratici e di convenienza?

È una domanda che mi sono posta molte volte nella vita e non mi è stato facile affrontare la realtà.

Breakups are just the worst, and I have to say, there have been times where I deluded myself into thinking it was a smart idea to stay in a doomed relationship just so I wouldn’t have to go through all that inevitable heartbreak.

I mean, who in this world wouldn’t do everything in their power to try and salvage a relationship that you feel has potential to go the distance?

Nothing is perfect, no relationship is without its glitches and faults, so why wouldn’t you work on saving it instead of just rinuncia al primo segno di difficoltà e decidere di non amarlo più?

Purtroppo per me, si è sempre rivelato che il mio istinto aveva ragione.

In qualche modo mi ha sempre segnalato che avrei dovuto smettere, ma il mio culo testardo lo ha ignorato, sperando che fosse in qualche modo sbagliato.

Se in questo momento state vivendo questo dilemma impossibile e vi chiedete continuamente, "Se lo amo ancora o sto solo prolungando l'inevitabile?” just listen to what your gut feeling is telling you.

Il vostro cuore vorrà sempre rimanere e allenarsi i vostri problemi.

Dopo tutto, c'è così tanto amore, storia e bei momenti tra voi due che sarebbe sciocco lasciar perdere! Ma ci sono momenti in cui lo sai e basta. Nel profondo, avete la vostra risposta.

You’ve just buried it so deep, hoping it wouldn’t resurface and you could keep living your fantasy, avoiding the harsh reality that has come upon you.

Nessuno può biasimarvi. Tutti vogliamo il nostro "per sempre felici e contenti" e tutti faremmo di tutto per trovarlo e mantenerlo.

But sometimes what you don’t realize is that what you are actually doing is sacrificing your happiness and your joy.

Vi state negando il diritto di essere veramente felici rimanendo in una relazione in cui non siete soddisfatti.

Don’t settle for mediocre love. Don’t settle for broken communication and half the effort on his part.

Don’t stay where you don’t feel like your authentic self and where your spirit is crushed.  Lo dovete a voi stessi per trovare quella persona che vi fa venire le vertigini dall'interno.

And if your current partner is not doing that, you’re with the wrong person, and that’s okay!

You are still a good person if where you currently are isn’t where you want to stay forever. You are the only one who knows what sparks joy in you.

If your gut is telling you that you’re not where you’re meant to be, listen to it! It’s almost always right.

If you’re wondering whether you still love him or if you should finally lasciarlo libero, here are 5 signs that point out it’s time for you to move on to better things:

I vostri litigi sono diventati troppo frequenti e troppo intensi.

Ogni coppia litiga. Arguments are a normal occurrence in healthy long-term relationship because they are a way to get your partner to see things from your point of view and to get them to understand where you’re coming from.

It is not a way to make the other partner feel bad about themselves or kick them while they’re down. You’re going to fight. That’s a fact.

But what matters is that you do it with some ground rules that ensure that you’re actually trying to make things better without worsening the situation or diminishing your partner’s feelings.

In primo luogo, assicuratevi che la direzione della vostra discussione sia verso una soluzione congiunta che danneggi il meno possibile la vostra relazione.

Nessun colpo basso. Non si tirano fuori vecchi argomenti (risolti) solo per dimostrare il proprio punto di vista.

Focus on the problem at hand and nothing else. Secondly, try to see things from your partner’s perspective.

Try to understand what he’s trying to tell you and always keep in mind that he is not trying to ferirti.

Sta solo cercando di farti vedere le cose in modo diverso. Le discussioni non sono una scusa per essere violenti in alcun modo.

They are not an excuse to make your partner feel like shit and violate their trust. If this is what your relationship has come to, it’s time to take a break.

Non c'è alcuno sforzo da parte sua per farlo funzionare.

You can love him all you want, but when you’re the only one actively putting in effort and working on your relationship while he’s just sliding along, it’s time to rethink this whole thing.

When you realize that he doesn’t even ask how you are anymore nor does he try to do the little things that would go a long way, now that is a sign of a broken relationship.

You can still love him, but when he can’t be bothered to equally participate in the partnership you’re both in, he’s not worth your time.

Non impegnarsi e non preoccuparsi di farlo è un chiaro segno di mancanza di rispetto.

You can make all the excuses you want for him, but when a man loves you, he’s not just going to sit there while you’re busting your ass trying to fix things.

Un uomo che vi ama non vi lascerà essere l'unica a investire nella vostra relazione, perché sa quanto sia doloroso sentirsi soli quando invece dovreste sentirvi sostenuti da un'altra persona. il tuo uomo.

And quite frankly, if he isn’t trying, he probably doesn’t even care enough about you anyway.

Take that as your biggest sign to leave, and don’t ever think about settling for this treatment again.

In this situation, even if you do still love him, he’s just not the guy for you. Recognize that, respect yourself enough, and let him go.

You don’t say “I love you” anymore

Naturally, you don’t need to say those three words all the time in order for them to be true.

After a while, you both just feel it so intensely, that there’s no need to throw it around as much.

Vi assicurate comunque di dirlo, ma non c'è bisogno di insistere. L'amore è lì e lo sapete entrambi.

But when you notice that you can’t remember the last time you heard him say “Ti amo” or vice versa, now that’s a sign that you should start worrying about your relationship and joint future.

If you don’t feel the need to say it to him anymore, start wondering why that is.

Di solito, quando si smette di provare i sentimenti di un tempo, si smette gradualmente di dirli senza nemmeno rendersene conto.

And if this is the case on both parts, that could be a sign that you’re both falling out of love.

Try saying it to him and pay attention to how it makes you feel.  If you have to force it and it doesn’t really feel natural, you may no longer feel it.

Quando dovete fare pressione su voi stessi per esprimere il vostro amore al partner, è probabile che l'amore non ci sia più.

Prima lo ammetterete a voi stessi, meglio vi sentirete quando lascerete andare ciò che non vi fa più crescere.

Il rapporto è diventato più simile a una routine

There is nothing better than finding that one person you want to spend every waking moment with and experience everything life has to offer by each other’s side.

Waking up together and facing life’s challenges just seems better when you’re together.

Granted, there are going to be days that won’t feel like such a rush of emotions where you can’t wait to see them, but even on those days you’ll know that it’s all normal and you still love him just as much as you did before.

However, when your relationship feels like it’s in una routine and there is no more excitement to see each other, talk about all the things that have happened to you that day, and you don’t even feel the need to change it, you might have a problem.

When things become boring, there is nothing that makes you happy about going home to him, and you don’t even feel like that’s a problem, your relationship may have just become nothing but a daily routine.

You might even avoid intimacy to the point where snuggling together doesn’t even sound appealing anymore.

Fate sesso solo in determinati giorni e anche in questo caso dovete costringervi a farlo.

It’s not that he’s pressuring you, more like it’s become a robotic routine that you feel you should do at times, even though the need is no longer there.

Love is not supposed to feel like a routine, so if you feel this has become your reality, it’s time to end it ASAP.

When you think about your future, he’s simply not in it

Questo è il segno più chiaro di tutti. È naturale immaginare cosa vi riservi il futuro e quando ciò accade, se il vostro partner semplicemente non c'è, allora probabilmente avete un buon motivo per andarvene.

If you’ve been in a relationship for a while, it is perfectly normal to think about your joint future and how you plan to level up in your relationship.

But if you don’t feel like he belongs in your life for the long haul, you probably shouldn’t even be asking yourself if you still love him. You clearly don’t!

L'uomo che amate e con il quale volete stare a lungo è una persona che sarà in prima linea nei vostri progetti futuri!

Ma se dovete forzarvi a inserirlo nei vostri pensieri sul futuro, probabilmente le cose andranno meglio se rottura con lui.

It doesn’t mean there is something wrong with him, it simply means that your relationship has run its course and it’s time to move on to better things!

Don’t feel bad. Anything that’s not making you happy or fulfilled doesn’t belong in your life.

Better things will come along and when you find the one who’s supposed to be in your life for good, you’ll just know because you’ll never have to wonder about him.