Nessuna risposta è una risposta (ed è potente)

Se qualcuno mi avesse detto prima che nessuna risposta è una risposta, la mia vita sarebbe dieci volte più facile e priva di drammi, ma credo che imparare dai propri errori sia il miglior metodo di insegnamento.

Ora, voglio che tu sia onesto con me.

• Quante volte avete controllato il telefono mentre aspettavate la risposta di quella persona?
• Quante volte avete parlato con qualcuno faccia a faccia e ha aspettato la loro risposta, per poi rendersi conto che non era altro che un perdita di tempo?
• Quanti messaggi di testo avete risentito nella speranza che questa volta vi rispondano? Un testo, due testi, un sacco di follow-up questions … still nessuna risposta.
• Quante volte avete ripetuto le stesse domande senza ottenere una sola parola, lettera o spiegazione? Scommetto troppe volte.

Too many times have you thought that not getting a response meant you’ve done something wrong, right? That you perhaps haven’t been clear enough, that you asked too much, or that you haven’t thought about how they really feel about the matter.

Troppe volte vi siete rimproverati di non saper fare le domande giuste per ottenere le risposte giuste.

But, the truth is that it wasn’t your fault. You were asking the right questions, and all you got in return was no response.

Or was it so? Perhaps they were answering you all this time, but you simply didn’t listen or couldn’t see it.

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Perhaps they were giving you clues that told you how they really feel, but you didn’t want to believe it. You didn’t want to ascoltate il vostro istinto che ti dice che per tutto questo tempo hai avuto tutte le risposte davanti a te.

Una mancata risposta è un rifiuto?

No response doesn’t mean rejection. The absence of a reply is not the same thing as rejection but it still carries a powerful message.

Solo perché haven’t received a text or heard a word from them, this doesn’t mean that you haven’t been sent the message (especially if ti hanno bloccato). 

Lack of response is a powerful response that tells you a lot about a person’s life, their perspective on things, and their intention.

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Every time a person refuses to utter a single word or write a single letter, they send you a message that they’re not willing to make you a part of their life, not willing to reciprocate, and don’t give a damn how you feel about it.

Ogni volta che una persona si rifiuta di pronunciare una parola o di scrivere una lettera, decide deliberatamente di lasciarti aspettare in case they change their mind and realize that they should’ve answered you while they could.

Ogni volta che una persona si rifiuta di rispondere, decide di tenere per sé tutte le parole non dette.

It’s obvious that they’re not willing to share their thoughts with you.

E non essere disposti a condividere i propri pensieri con qualcuno significa non essere disposti a renderlo parte della propria vita. Questa è la lezione più preziosa che ho imparato l'anno scorso.

But, you couldn’t know that when you were looking the person in the eye, or when you were holding your phone filled with hope and excitement that you’ll get a response.

When you thought that you should wait just a little longer or give them another chance because there must be a reason why they haven’t responded yet.

Quando accade una cosa del genere, un milione di domande si affollano immediatamente nella testa. Una di queste è la seguente:

Dovreste mandare un altro messaggio dopo una mancata risposta?

The answer is simple here. If you’ve texted them twice or more than that in the past few days and still haven’t received a response, do yourself a favor and put the phone down. Don’t text again until they text you back.

I understand that no matter how many times you repeat the above sentence, it still doesn’t make sense to you because the irrational part of your brain prevails.

When you really care about receiving someone’s reply, you unquestionably trovare scuse for their lack of response because back then you didn’t know that by saying nothing, they are actually saying a lot.

All you could hear was that little voice in your head reminding you of that one sentence: “Mi manchi.”

All you could do was hope that they’d realize their mistake and finally open their eyes to see what you were trying to tell them all this time. But, they didn’t. Instead, they said and wrote nothing.

E nessuna risposta è una risposta. Non rispondere significa innanzitutto mancanza di interesse e di volontà. In effetti, il silenzio è la risposta migliore.

Perché il silenzio dice mille parole!

Silence tells us what words cannot. Just like a picture, silence speaks a thousand words – all we need to do is listen to it.

Invece di cercare risposte visibili, dovete imparare ad ascoltare il suono del silenzio!

Perché nessuna risposta è una risposta!

Silence means that they’re cowards who didn’t want to hurt your feelings by saying what they really wanted to say!

If there’s one thing I’ve learned during my humble life, it’s this: L'onestà è un dono costoso che non ci si può aspettare da persone a basso costo.

Being honest means sharing important things with the person you care (or don’t care) about. It means having the dignity to say what you really mean and spare the person of unnecessary overthinking and drama.

Them deciding to stay silent instead of being a responder tells you that they don’t have the guts to say what they really want to stay. They don’t have the guts to deal with hurtful things and emotions because you are not on their priority list.

The reason why they choose to do so is that they don’t want to hurt your feelings, but in reality, they are hurting you ten times more by not saying anything.

E, allo stesso tempo, vi stanno dicendo dieci volte di più non dicendo nulla.

Invece di continuare a chiamarli e a mandargli messaggi, di aspettare i messaggi in segreteria o di seguirli sui social media con i loro post recenti, dovete solo godervi il suono del silenzio e, vi assicuro, imparerete molto da questo.

Silenzio significa ignorare!

Whenever someone decides not to respond, they deliberately decide to ignore. While you might feel like they’re ignoring you, in reality they’re ignoring the truth that they are cowards.

In reality, they’re telling you that you’re not worthy of their time and that’s why they don’t bother responding.

Silenzio significa ignorare e ignorare significa playing with someone else’s mental healthsalute fisica e felicità. E nessuno al mondo merita di sentirsi così.

No one deserves for their well-being to be influenced by another’s decision to respond.

No response is a response. No response lets you know that they’re not willing to make you their priority or tell you what’s really going on in their life.

E invece di cercare ciecamente scuse che giustifichino il loro comportamento, basta creare una cartella spam e darle un nome: Persone che non sono degne di essere presenti nella mia vita.

They aren’t interested in che vi rende la loro priorità!

A lot of times, I witnessed people believing that if they try harder, they might catch the other person’s attention and somehow magically win their heart and make them respond – make them reciprocate.

Pensano: “They don’t text me back because I’m non abbastanza buono. I need to try harder.”

Ma questo non è affatto vero. Il fatto che non rispondano significa solo una cosa: non sono interessati a fare di voi la loro priorità.

Their silence doesn’t imply that there’s something wrong with you. It indicates that it’s not the right time, they don’t feel attraction toward you, or they simply aren’t interested for some reason.

And this reason is not you. No response doesn’t mean that you don’t deserve attention and you’re not worthy of loved one’s and other people’s time.

No response means that they don’t deserve your attention because they’re not appreciating it enough.

What do you say when someone doesn’t reply?

You don’t doppio testo them. You don’t send them a sarcastic text only to make them laugh and motivate them to text you back. You don’t go out of your way to win their attention. Instead, you focus on yourself.

You don’t say anything to them but you say to yourself the following things:

• I’m worthy.
• I’m superior to negative thoughts and low actions.
• Perdono le persone tossiche e me ne distacco pacificamente.
• Sono coraggiosa e mi faccio valere.
• I don’t waste my time on those who are not worthy of being in my life.
• Sono in pace con tutto ciò che è accaduto, sta accadendo e accadrà.
• I’m the creator of my own happiness.

So, instead of waiting or blaming yourself, listen to the sound of silence telling you that it’s time to move on and give up on fighting for something that simply wasn’t meant to be.

Instead of thinking there’s something wrong with you, you need to gather courage and think about what you really deserve.

Pensate di meritare una persona che non è pronta o non è disposta a chiamarvi o a mandarvi un messaggio?

Do you think you deserve to suffer because you don’t deserve better? Think again. And listen to the sound of silence again.

Perché vi meritate la grandezza e oltre. Aspettare che rispondano è il segno più evidente della vostra pazienza, della vostra generosità e del vostro grande cuore. E di sicuro vi meritate lo stesso in cambio.

Vi meritate una persona che sia in grado di notare tutte queste cose e sia pronta a fare uno sforzo to respond. To remind you that they’re thinking of you even when they’re in the middle of a hurricane.

Vi meritate qualcuno che apprezzi la vostra pazienza, i vostri sacrifici e tutte le piccole cose che fate perché ci tenete. Molto. E meritate di essere accuditi a vostra volta.

Il silenzio è l'assenza di investimento e di reciprocità!

Il silenzio è una delle potenziali killer di ogni relazione and friendship. It’s when you look your partner in the eyes and tell them how you feel, expecting the same thing in return, but all you get is no response.

Tutto ciò che si ottiene è quel silenzio torturante che ricorda tutti i momenti di gioia che si sono avuti o che si potrebbero avere. Il silenzio è l'assenza di investimento e di reciprocità.

It takes only a few seconds to tell the other person how you really feel and what’s really going on, so when you can’t find time to do it, you’re clearly taking them for granted.

You’re deliberately deciding to invest your time in other things that mean more to you than this person’s feelings.

Nessuna risposta è una risposta, una risposta potente.

By not responding, they are sending you a message that they’re not willing to invest in your relationship.

Their silence is sending you a message that you shouldn’t wait for them to change. Instead, you should run for your life and never look back!

It’s hard to maintain a relationship when you’re the only one trying, talking, and texting. It’s hard to be there for someone who isn’t even trying to be there for you.

And that’s why you shouldn’t do it either.

Invece di aspettare che qualcosa cambi, dovreste essere voi a cambiare. L'opzione di ignorare non è disponibile solo nel virtuale, ma anche nella vita reale.

You should initiate the change by deciding to open your eyes and realizing that you don’t deserve a “No response” treatment.

Imparare a proteggersi from narcissists and other negative people by practicing self-love. Don’t expect their phone calls, texts, or voicemails because time is the greatest resource you have, and also one of the most limited.

Il silenzio significa mettere in attesa un'altra persona fino a un momento più opportuno!

Decidere di non rispondere significa decidere di mettere in attesa l'altra persona fino a quando non arriverà un momento più opportuno! I motivi per cui qualcuno vuole mettervi in attesa sono diversi.

Perhaps they’re married, perhaps they’re in a relationship, perhaps they want to widen their horizons (if you catch my drift) and that’s why they’re putting you on hold.

They’re putting you on hold because they don’t want or need you at the moment, but they’re non sono pronto a perderti o.

They want to make sure that you’ll be there waiting on them when they decide to come back, that you’ll be there when they decide to finally respond.

But, you shouldn’t. If you care about your happiness at all, you should rely on what they’re telling you with their silence instead of their potential words.

What they’re telling you with their silence is that they don’t really care about how you feel. They let you wait just because they know you will.

Ti mettono in attesa just because they know you will be there when it’s convenient for them.

And the worst thing you could do in that situation is to wait and hope that something will change. Because it won’t!

The longer you’re letting them play with your feelings and darvi per scontati, the longer you’ll feel miserable and unhappy!

Più aspettate che vi rispondano, più prolungate il vostro dolore!

The longer you accept their toxic treatment, the more they’ll be hurting you.

So, open your eyes and see the message that’s been right in front of you all this time, but for some reason, you avoided it, didn’t want to accept it, didn’t want to andare avanti.

Open your eyes for the first time in your life and see that no response is a response, and it’s a powerful one!

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