Ninguna respuesta es una respuesta (y es una respuesta poderosa)

Si alguien me hubiera dicho antes que ninguna respuesta es una respuesta, mi vida sería diez veces más fácil y sin dramas, pero supongo que aprender de los errores es el mejor método de enseñanza.

Ahora, quiero que seas honesto conmigo.

• ¿Cuántas veces has mirado el móvil mientras esperabas la respuesta de esa persona?
• ¿Cuántas veces has hablado con alguien cara a cara y esperó su respuesta, sólo para darse cuenta de que no era más que un pérdida de tiempo?
• ¿Cuántos mensajes de texto ¿has reenviado con la esperanza de que esta vez te contesten? Un textodos textos, un montón de seguimiento questions … still sin respuesta.
• ¿Cuántas veces has vuelto a hacer las mismas preguntas sin obtener una sola palabra, letra o explicación? Apuesto a que demasiadas veces.

Too many times have you thought that not getting a response meant you’ve done something wrong, right? That you perhaps haven’t been clear enough, that you asked too much, or that you haven’t thought about how they really feel about the matter.

Demasiadas veces te has culpado por no saber hacer las preguntas adecuadas para obtener las respuestas correctas.

But, the truth is that it wasn’t your fault. You were asking the right questions, and all you got in return was no response.

Or was it so? Perhaps they were answering you all this time, but you simply didn’t listen or couldn’t see it.

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Perhaps they were giving you clues that told you how they really feel, but you didn’t want to believe it. You didn’t want to escucha a tu instinto diciéndote que todo este tiempo tenías todas las respuestas delante de ti.

¿La falta de respuesta es un rechazo?

No response doesn’t mean rejection. The absence of a reply is not the same thing as rejection but it still carries a powerful message.

Sólo porque haven’t received a text or heard a word from them, this doesn’t mean that you haven’t been sent the message (especially if te bloquearon). 

Lack of response is a powerful response that tells you a lot about a person’s life, their perspective on things, and their intention.

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Every time a person refuses to utter a single word or write a single letter, they send you a message that they’re not willing to make you a part of their life, not willing to reciprocate, and don’t give a damn how you feel about it.

Cada vez que una persona se niega a pronunciar una palabra o a escribir una carta, decide deliberadamente dejarte esperar in case they change their mind and realize that they should’ve answered you while they could.

Cada vez que una persona se niega a responder, decide guardarse para sí todas las palabras no dichas.

It’s obvious that they’re not willing to share their thoughts with you.

Y no estar dispuesto a compartir tus pensamientos con alguien significa no estar dispuesto a que forme parte de tu vida. Esta es la lección más valiosa que aprendí el año pasado.

But, you couldn’t know that when you were looking the person in the eye, or when you were holding your phone filled with hope and excitement that you’ll get a response.

When you thought that you should wait just a little longer or give them another chance because there must be a reason why they haven’t responded yet.

Cuando ocurre algo así, un millón de preguntas empiezan a rondar por la cabeza. Una de ellas es la siguiente:

¿Deberías volver a enviar un mensaje si no has recibido respuesta?

The answer is simple here. If you’ve texted them twice or more than that in the past few days and still haven’t received a response, do yourself a favor and put the phone down. Don’t text again until they text you back.

I understand that no matter how many times you repeat the above sentence, it still doesn’t make sense to you because the irrational part of your brain prevails.

When you really care about receiving someone’s reply, you unquestionably poner excusas for their lack of response because back then you didn’t know that by saying nothing, they are actually saying a lot.

All you could hear was that little voice in your head reminding you of that one sentence: “Te echo de menos.”

All you could do was hope that they’d realize their mistake and finally open their eyes to see what you were trying to tell them all this time. But, they didn’t. Instead, they said and wrote nothing.

Y ninguna respuesta es una respuesta. No responder significa, en primer lugar, falta de interés y de voluntad. De hecho, el silencio es la mejor respuesta.

Porque el silencio vale más que mil palabras!

Silence tells us what words cannot. Just like a picture, silence speaks a thousand words – all we need to do is listen to it.

En lugar de buscar respuestas visibles, hay que aprender a escuchar el sonido del silencio.

Porque ninguna respuesta es una respuesta

Silence means that they’re cowards who didn’t want to hurt your feelings by saying what they really wanted to say!

If there’s one thing I’ve learned during my humble life, it’s this: La honradez es un regalo caro que no se puede esperar de gente barata.

Being honest means sharing important things with the person you care (or don’t care) about. It means having the dignity to say what you really mean and spare the person of unnecessary overthinking and drama.

Them deciding to stay silent instead of being a responder tells you that they don’t have the guts to say what they really want to stay. They don’t have the guts to deal with hurtful things and emotions because you are not on their priority list.

The reason why they choose to do so is that they don’t want to hurt your feelings, but in reality, they are hurting you ten times more by not saying anything.

Y, al mismo tiempo, te están diciendo diez veces más al no decir nada.

En lugar de seguir llamándoles y enviándoles mensajes de texto, esperando mensajes de voz, o acechándoles en las redes sociales y sus últimas publicaciones, sólo tienes que disfrutar del sonido del silencio y, te lo aseguro, aprenderás mucho de ello.

Silencio significa ignorar

Whenever someone decides not to respond, they deliberately decide to ignore. While you might feel like they’re ignoring you, in reality they’re ignoring the truth that they are cowards.

In reality, they’re telling you that you’re not worthy of their time and that’s why they don’t bother responding.

Silencio significa ignorar e ignorar significa playing with someone else’s mental healthsalud física y felicidad. Y nadie en el mundo merece sentirse así.

No one deserves for their well-being to be influenced by another’s decision to respond.

No response is a response. No response lets you know that they’re not willing to make you their priority or tell you what’s really going on in their life.

Y en lugar de buscar ciegamente excusas que justifiquen su comportamiento, basta con crear una carpeta de spam y ponerle un nombre: Personas que no merecen estar en mi vida.

They aren’t interested in convertirte en su prioridad!

A lot of times, I witnessed people believing that if they try harder, they might catch the other person’s attention and somehow magically win their heart and make them respond – make them reciprocate.

Piensan: “They don’t text me back because I’m no es suficiente. I need to try harder.”

Pero esto no es cierto en absoluto. Que no respondan sólo significa una cosa: que no están interesados en convertirte en su prioridad.

Their silence doesn’t imply that there’s something wrong with you. It indicates that it’s not the right time, they don’t feel attraction toward you, or they simply aren’t interested for some reason.

And this reason is not you. No response doesn’t mean that you don’t deserve attention and you’re not worthy of loved one’s and other people’s time.

No response means that they don’t deserve your attention because they’re not appreciating it enough.

What do you say when someone doesn’t reply?

You don’t doble texto them. You don’t send them a sarcastic text only to make them laugh and motivate them to text you back. You don’t go out of your way to win their attention. Instead, you focus on yourself.

You don’t say anything to them but you say to yourself the following things:

• I’m worthy.
• I’m superior to negative thoughts and low actions.
• Perdono a las personas tóxicas y me desprendo de ellas pacíficamente.
• Soy valiente y me defiendo.
• I don’t waste my time on those who are not worthy of being in my life.
• Estoy en paz con todo lo que ha sucedido, está sucediendo y sucederá.
• I’m the creator of my own happiness.

So, instead of waiting or blaming yourself, listen to the sound of silence telling you that it’s time to move on and give up on fighting for something that simply wasn’t meant to be.

Instead of thinking there’s something wrong with you, you need to gather courage and think about what you really deserve.

¿Crees que te mereces a una persona que no está dispuesta a llamarte o enviarte un mensaje de texto?

Do you think you deserve to suffer because you don’t deserve better? Think again. And listen to the sound of silence again.

Porque te mereces la grandeza y más allá. Que esperes a que te respondan es la máxima muestra de tu paciencia, generosidad y gran corazón. Y tú te mereces lo mismo a cambio.

Te mereces a alguien que sea capaz de darse cuenta de todas estas cosas y esté dispuesto a hacer un esfuerzo to respond. To remind you that they’re thinking of you even when they’re in the middle of a hurricane.

Te mereces a alguien que aprecie tu paciencia, tu sacrificio y todas las pequeñas cosas que haces porque te importan. Mucho. Y mereces que te cuiden a cambio.

El silencio es la ausencia de inversión y reciprocidad.

El silencio es uno de los asesinos potenciales de toda relación and friendship. It’s when you look your partner in the eyes and tell them how you feel, expecting the same thing in return, but all you get is no response.

Lo único que consigues es ese silencio torturador que te recuerda todos los momentos felices que has tenido o podrías tener. El silencio es la ausencia de inversión y reciprocidad.

It takes only a few seconds to tell the other person how you really feel and what’s really going on, so when you can’t find time to do it, you’re clearly taking them for granted.

You’re deliberately deciding to invest your time in other things that mean more to you than this person’s feelings.

Ninguna respuesta es una respuesta, una respuesta poderosa.

By not responding, they are sending you a message that they’re not willing to invest in your relationship.

Their silence is sending you a message that you shouldn’t wait for them to change. Instead, you should run for your life and never look back!

It’s hard to maintain a relationship when you’re the only one trying, talking, and texting. It’s hard to be there for someone who isn’t even trying to be there for you.

And that’s why you shouldn’t do it either.

En lugar de esperar a que algo cambie, deberías ser tú el cambio. La opción de ignorar no sólo está disponible en lo virtual, sino también en la vida real.

You should initiate the change by deciding to open your eyes and realizing that you don’t deserve a “No response” treatment.

Aprenda a protegerse from narcissists and other negative people by practicing self-love. Don’t expect their phone calls, texts, or voicemails because time is the greatest resource you have, and also one of the most limited.

El silencio significa poner a otra persona en espera hasta un momento más conveniente.

Decidir no responder se traduce en decidir poner a la otra persona en espera hasta que llegue un momento más oportuno. Las razones por las que alguien querría ponerte en espera varían.

Perhaps they’re married, perhaps they’re in a relationship, perhaps they want to widen their horizons (if you catch my drift) and that’s why they’re putting you on hold.

They’re putting you on hold because they don’t want or need you at the moment, but they’re no estoy dispuesto a perderte tampoco.

They want to make sure that you’ll be there waiting on them when they decide to come back, that you’ll be there when they decide to finally respond.

But, you shouldn’t. If you care about your happiness at all, you should rely on what they’re telling you with their silence instead of their potential words.

What they’re telling you with their silence is that they don’t really care about how you feel. They let you wait just because they know you will.

Te ponen en espera just because they know you will be there when it’s convenient for them.

And the worst thing you could do in that situation is to wait and hope that something will change. Because it won’t!

The longer you’re letting them play with your feelings and darte por sentado, the longer you’ll feel miserable and unhappy!

Cuanto más esperes a que te respondan, más prolongarás tu dolor.

The longer you accept their toxic treatment, the more they’ll be hurting you.

So, open your eyes and see the message that’s been right in front of you all this time, but for some reason, you avoided it, didn’t want to accept it, didn’t want to seguir adelante.

Open your eyes for the first time in your life and see that no response is a response, and it’s a powerful one!

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