Perché i mariti traditori restano sposati? 12 motivi più comuni

Quando un coniuge tradisce il proprio partner, la cosa più logica e giusta sarebbe il divorzio, giusto? Ebbene, ci sono coniugi infedeli che rimangono sposati nonostante la rottura dei loro sacri voti.

Right after the famous question ‘Why do men cheat?’ the next question all women would like to know is… Why do cheating husbands stay married? How can they keep living with a woman they have betrayed in the worst possible way?

The fact is that those men exist, and they have their own reasons they don’t get divorced after they have an extramarital affair.

In this article, I’ve gathered the most common (and definitely not so innocent) reasons why men stay married after they commit such treachery.

Perché i mariti traditori restano sposati? 13 ragioni

I’ve compiled this list of the most common reasons unfaithful men stay with their partners. And, of course, almost none of them are justified because the only reason you should be in a relationship with someone is LOVE.

1. Paura della solitudine

Se un l'uomo ha una bassa autostima and is a validation seeker, he probably doesn’t know how to function on his own. He’s afraid of loneliness, and single life scares the hell out of him.

Rimane sposato perché lo considera il suo posto sicuro. His wife provides him with the security and stability he longs for, and as long as he feels that way, he’ll stay in that marriage.

2. L'avventura è stata un errore che non intendono ripetere.

Probabilmente si trattava di una collega o di una ragazza conosciuta sui social media. La considera solo un'avventura, un'avventura di una notte, e l'ha già chiusa definitivamente.

He’s aware of the huge mistake he made, and si è sinceramente pentito di averla tradita. Also, he knows it could cost him losing everything he has, and he doesn’t plan on repeating it ever again.

3. L'altra donna ha dichiarato chiaramente di non volere una relazione.

Se il suo affair partner doesn’t want to be with him, if he was only a one-night-stand, it could be the reason he stays married. He simply doesn’t want to be alone, and staying married is currently the only option for him.

He has a person who cooks and cleans for him, and that’s enough for him for now. However, if another woman shows up in his life and wants to be with him, then he’ll most definitely leave his wife.

4. Sono dispiaciuti per le loro mogli

This is a very wrong reason to stay married to someone. You can’t be with someone simply because you feel sorry for them. I mean, you can, but it’ll never be a relazione sana.

It’s always better to be honest with your partner. The wife will be hurt, and she’ll suffer… That’s inevitable. Ma la verità è che soffrirebbe ancora di più se scoprisse che il marito le sta accanto solo perché gli dispiace per lei.

5. Il divorzio potrebbe costare loro molto

Sono consapevoli che il loro matrimonio è finito a causa di un loro errore, e questo significa che probabilmente dovranno pagarne le conseguenze. E non si tratta solo di soldi.

Il divorzio può anche costare la perdita degli amici e di alcuni dei propri cari.. Le persone intorno a loro saranno probabilmente arrabbiate con loro per il modo in cui hanno ferito il loro partner e tradito il loro matrimonio.

Also, no one can guarantee that their affair partner will stay with them, which means they might lose her too and be left alone. If they have had kids, they might also worry the kids will be angry at them because of their actions, and that’s probably what they’re afraid of most.

6. I bambini

Questo è probabilmente il motivo più comune per cui i traditori rimangono sposati. They don’t want to hurt their kids, or they’re afraid that they may lose custody in the divorce.

It’s very sad that most married couples don’t understand that, this way, they may only hurt their children even more. Their kids will have to listen to their fights, and this toxic environment may have very bad consequences for their mental health.

7. Cercano di convincere se stessi e tutti coloro che li circondano che cambieranno.

I need to admit something to you. I’m a proud ex-wife of an unfaithful narcisista sotto mentite spoglie. Avevo 19 anni quando ci siamo sposati e all'epoca pensavo che non mi avrebbe mai fatto del male perché mi amava più di ogni altra cosa al mondo.

Oh, quanto mi sbagliavo. Eravamo sposati da soli due anni quando ho scoperto il suo tradimento. Continuavo a vedere molti dei segnali d'allarme e delle bandiere rosse di cui tutti ci mettono in guardia, ma mi rifiutavo di crederci.

I stayed with him even after he admitted his infidelity to me. I stayed with him because he was such a great manipulator who managed to make me and all of those close to us believe that he’d change.

Of course, as you may assume, that didn’t happen. After six months, he did it again, and at last, that was the final straw. After my processo di guarigione successfully ended, I met someone, and I’m still in a happy, relazione impegnata with that guy, and I honestly think he’s the one.

8. Cercare di evitare di essere scoperti

Cheaters may also stay in a relationship with their partners because they are so afraid and ashamed of getting caught. That way, if their partner ever starts doubting their fidelity, it’ll be easier for them to manipulate them and make them believe in their lies.

And don’t think they do it because they love you or because they’re afraid of losing you.

They only do it because they don’t want other people to think badly of them. If they love you the way you think they do, they would never do this to you in the first place.

9. Potrebbe trattarsi di un narcisista sotto mentite spoglie

Whether it’s una moglie traditrice or husband, if that person stays married even after they cheat on their partner, it may be because of their narcissistic personality. In other words, they don’t stay because of their partner but because of themselves – they know it’s the best option for them.

E purtroppo, they’ll probably continue to see l'altra donna, or they’ll find someone else. They’ll cheat on you and lie to you, and they won’t care at all how it’ll make you feel. Why? Because they’re married players.

They’ll stay with you as long as you allow them to. They’ll continue hurting your emotional and mental health until you’ve had enough of it and drive them out of your life.

10. Sono consapevoli che la loro moglie è migliore dell'altra donna.

I think this one is pretty logical. In most cases, the cheating partner stays with their significant other because they’re aware they will never find someone better than them.

Un imbroglio marito resta sposato perché sa che nessun'altra donna lo amerà, lo rispetterà e lo tratterà come fa sua moglie. And that’s what he’s afraid of losing more than anything else.

11. Vogliono lavorare per superare i loro problemi coniugali.

They’re aware they have made a mistake. However, they also think it happened because of some issues they had in their marriage, issues they didn’t talk about and didn’t solve in time.

That’s why they want to work on fixing those things and rendere il loro matrimonio di nuovo sano. Sono felici di aver avuto una seconda possibilità e vogliono sfruttarla al meglio.

The truth is, married life isn’t always sunshine and roses. There are many issues and obstacles all married couples need to go through and wrestle with to save their marriage. However, looking for comfort in another person isn’t and should never be the answer.

12. In most cases, they aren’t obligated to make a choice

After years of marriage and everything they’ve been through, the wife will probably also want to give their marriage another chance. She won’t break up with her cheating husband because she is paura della solitudine.

On the other hand, the other woman might continue seeing him casually, and in that way, he won’t be forced by anyone to make a choice.

Unfortunately, in the end, someone will get their heart broken, that’s for sure.

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I mariti che tradiscono amano ancora le loro mogli?

Both men and women cheat for so many reasons, and yes, one of those reasons may be because they’ve stopped loving their partner. However, there are so many husbands who have cheated on their wives and then sworn they still love them despite the mistake they made.

In my opinion, you can’t love someone and hurt them in such an awful way. You can’t claim that you love and care about someone that much and then make them go through living hell.

Se impegnarsi in un relazione emotiva with someone else while you’re married, it’s a clear sign you don’t love your spouse the way you used to. Fullstop.

Okay, I agree that we all make stupid mistakes sometimes and that we aren’t aware of the possible consequences in those moments. However, betraying your partner in this way is a clear sign that what you two have is not amore vero.

Quanto dura un matrimonio dopo un'infedeltà?

It really depends on so many factors. The most important is whether both partners are ready to forget about what happened and leave it in the past. If the other side can’t forget about their spouse’s affair, their marriage is doomed to fail.

Dipende anche dal fatto che il coniuge traditore sia veramente pentito delle sue azioni. If they aren’t 100% sure that something like that will never happen again, their marriage probably won’t last long because they’ll cheat on their partner again.

Se entrambi i partner accettano di lavorare per superare tutto questo, di impegnarsi a fondo per sistemare il loro matrimonio, di iniziare una terapia di coppia.... Possono riuscire a salvare il loro matrimonio. In questo caso, il loro matrimonio durerà finché Dio non li separerà.

Perché gli uomini sposati tradiscono se sono felicemente sposati?

The thing is that they aren’t happy. Well, at least not completely happy in all fields of their marriage and family life.

Possono amare il proprio coniuge, ma sentirsi emotivamente o fisicamente insoddisfatti. Mancanza di intimità fisica è probabilmente ancora uno dei motivi principali per cui le persone sposate tradiscono il proprio partner.

On the other hand, some men simply have an unfaithful nature, and they can’t go against it. They’re overly flirtatious, and no matter how much they love someone, they can never be fully committed to them.

In conclusione

Allora, cosa ne pensate? Perché i mariti traditori restano sposati? È perché vogliono salvare se stessi o perché vogliono mantenere la famiglia unita?

Spero che la mia opinione sia sbagliata, ma credo che i mariti traditori restino sposati per le ragioni sbagliate. E purtroppo, in questo modo, continuano a fare del male a se stessi e ai propri cari.

Once someone commits such a betrayal to someone they vowed to be faithful to their entire life, they simply can’t continue walking through life with their partner. Sooner or later, and whether they like it or not, their paths will separate.