Perché non riuscite a smettere di pensare a qualcuno (e cosa fare)

You’re scrolling down your phone, and all you can think about is seeing their post. You’re watching a romantic movie, and all you can think about is experiencing all those romantic scenes with the one you can’t stop thinking about.

Finally, you go to sleep in the hope that you’ll stop thinking about them once you enter dreamland, but that doesn’t happen. You get up in the morning, and you go through it all over again day after day, after day.

Non avete idea del perché vi stia succedendo, ma una cosa è certa: Whatever you do, you simply can’t stop thinking about that one person you want to be with, or you want to forget.

Essendo una persona che si innamora facilmente di qualcuno, so per certo che non riuscire a smettere di pensare a qualcuno è una delle cose più fastidiose al mondo.

Why can’t we just delete that person from our mind and move on with our lives? Or maybe the reason why we can’t stop thinking about them is that they also can’t stop thinking about us?

Why Can’t You Stop Thinking About Someone?

Se avessi un centesimo per ogni volta che mi sono posto questa domanda, a quest'ora sarei più ricco di Oprah.

Undoubtedly, this is one of the most complex questions that exist in the universe, and there’s no single answer to it but a combination of answers. That, my friend, can sometimes be really confusing.

Generally, there are two main reasons why you can’t stop thinking about someone:

• You want to forget them.

• You want to be with them (but for some reason, you can’t).

That’s where all the confusion comes from. How can you know that you want to forget someone when you may still be in love with them?

Now, how can you know that forgetting them is the right thing to do? Well, if you’re not sure that you want to forget them and move on with your life, you’ll never be able to do so, right?

(Don’t say I didn’t prepare you for this confusion.)

If you want to be with them, but for some reason, you know you never will, it’s natural for you to continue thinking about them 24/7.

Why? Because we think about those we want to forget and those we can’t have.

Here are some more reasons why you can’t stop thinking about someone:

• You are (still) in love with them.

Whether you’ve been in a romantic relationship with them or they are your almost love, if you can’t stop thinking about them, you might as well (still) be in love with them.

It’s when your feelings and mind fight every day, thus sending you mixed emotions and confusing messages. Be honest with yourself. Do you think the reason why you can’t stop thinking about them is because you’re (still) in love with them?

• You use them as a distraction from other things in your life that are happening at the moment.

La nostra immaginazione è una fuga meravigliosa. Con questo intendo dire che abbiamo perfezionato l'arte di vivere in un'illusione invece che nella realtà.

When we can’t deal with things that are happening in our daily lives, we switch to living in a better world by creating distractions. Perhaps thinking about them is your way of escaping from the realities of life?

• You’re stuck thinking about how things could have been different.

If they are your ex, at some point, you might find yourself thinking about how things could have been different if you acted differently (or if both of you acted differently). This is known as ‘being stuck in the past.’

So, if you know that there’s nothing you can do about what happened in the past, then it’s high time you stop thinking about it. I know it’s easier said than done, but it’s something that needs to be done.

• You’re feeling lonely.

Loneliness – the biggest enemy of every human being. Do you know why? Because when we are lonely, we can’t help ourselves but think about the stupidest and silliest things in the world.

La solitudine è la causa di molte situazioni imbarazzanti, tra cui quella in cui contattate il vostro ex in modo del tutto disperato.

Just because you’re alone doesn’t mean you should feel lonely. Below you’ll find some things you can do if you can’t stop thinking about someone, so stay tuned.

• You can’t stop thinking about them because they are an enigma to you.

So, you met a girl or a guy who is a total enigma to you, and you simply can’t understand their personality and way of thinking. The more time you spend with them, the more you can’t stop thinking about them.

Here’s some good news for you: The more you learn about them, the less they will be enigmatic to you, so at some point in your life, you will definitely be able to think about them less than you’re thinking about them now.

What Should You Do When You Can’t Stop Thinking About Someone You Want To Forget?

Here’s another million-dollar question: What should you do when you just can’t stop thinking about her o lui?

Dovreste mandargli un messaggio ogni volta che vi viene in mente? (Sarebbero circa un milione di messaggi al giorno, giusto?).

Dovreste chiamare il vostro amico e parlargli ogni volta che non riuscite a smettere di pensare a lui? (Sarebbe piuttosto fastidioso, vero?).

When we’re so desperate to stop thinking about someone, we might start looking for desperate solutions to our problem. Don’t let that happen because you’ll make things even worse than they already are.

When you can’t stop thinking about them, just look at yourself in the mirror and repeat the following sentence: I’ll stop thinking about you right now!

Scherzo, ma potete comunque provarlo se volete (forse sarà un metodo istantaneo e rivoluzionario per dimenticare qualcuno).

Qualunque sia il motivo per cui si desidera cancellarli dalla propria mente, eccone alcuni. things you can do when you can’t stop thinking about him o lei:

• Block all of their social media accounts.

• Live your best life and create new memories.

• Get some kind of closure.

• Understand that you don’t need them to be truly happy.

I would like you to pay special attention to the last one. Many people think that the only way they’ll be happy again is to enter a romantic relationship with them or reconnect with that one person they want to forget.

Ricordate che l'unica persona che può rendervi felici siete VOI.

You are enough. You are strong and beautiful. You are perfectly capable of living your best life, and you don’t need someone else to evoke happiness in you because happiness comes from within you.

Work on yourself, strive to be your best self every day, and you’ll reach your full potential. Happiness means connecting with your true self and loving yourself before you’re ready to love anyone else.

Wondering Whether They’re Thinking About You Too?

Ogni volta che non riesco a smettere di pensare a qualcuno, inizio subito a chiedermi se anche lui stia pensando a me.

In effetti, sarebbe meraviglioso se potessimo, in qualche modo, sapere quando qualcuno ci pensa senza doverglielo chiedere.

Inutile dire quanto sarebbe strano se scrivessi al mio ex una cosa del genere all'improvviso: Ehi, stai pensando a me?

Maybe I would win some brownie points for being brave and straightforward, but still, that doesn’t compensate enough for all the weirdness that comes with such a question.

Ma non tutte le speranze sono perdute! Ho una buona notizia per voi e per il resto dell'umanità, perché esiste un modo (modi) per sapere quando qualcuno sta pensando a voi, e tutto ciò che dovete fare è prestare attenzione a quanto segue.

Ecco alcuni dei segni fisici reali che qualcuno sta pensando a voi:

• You find yourself often subconsciously smiling about something.

• You experience a sudden change of emotional state.

• You have a tense mind.

La nostra mente e il nostro corpo sono davvero magnifici e sono in grado di dirci cose e di inviarci messaggi segreti. Tutto ciò che dobbiamo fare è ascoltarli.

Quindi, se sapete che anche loro pensano a voi, avete grandi possibilità di instaurare una storia d'amore di successo o di riallacciare i rapporti con loro.

Se non vi pensano, la cosa migliore da fare è andare avanti e smettere gradualmente di pensare a loro occupandovi di altre cose interessanti.

Quando non riuscivo a smettere di pensare a un ragazzo, uno dei miei buoni amici mi disse: Stop thinking about him because he’s not thinking about you. Mi fermai per un attimo e pensai tra me e me: Accidenti, questa ragazza ha ragione.

Why would I waste my time thinking about someone who clearly isn’t thinking about me? Why would I be stuck in the past when he’s freely enjoying the present?

I’ve realized it’s time to think about my own well-being and fight for my own happiness because if I don’t do that, nobody else will.

I’ve realized it’s time to think about myself for a change.