5 Segni che non merita una seconda possibilità

Avere il cuore spezzato è uno dei peggiori dolori emotivi che si possano affrontare.

Vi sentite senza speranza e l'unica cosa che volete è tornare da quel ragazzo che vi ha causato tutto questo dolore.

And he behaves like he wants you back too. But you simply don’t know what to do.

Avete paura che you won’t be able to move on without this man by your side but at the same time, you are terrified he’ll hurt you all over again.

You are aware that things between the two of you didn’t work out for a reason but all you want to do is let him back in your life.

You feel like you’ve found yourself in a dead-end street and you don’t know what to do.

Of course, there are situations in which people deserve a second chance. But there are also times when you shouldn’t allow them to re-enter your life, no matter what.

Here are 5 signs your ex doesn’t deserve for you to give him a second chance under any circumstances.

It’s not the first time he has done this

Una seconda possibilità viene data a qualcuno solo una volta e, anche in questo caso, non è qualcosa che si dovrebbe distribuire facilmente.

Un conto è se il vostro ragazzo è sempre stato un bravo ragazzo che una volta ha commesso un errore sciocco.

In questa situazione, il suo errore può essere visto come un'eccezione ed è perfettamente normale che voi riconsideriate di dargli una seconda possibilità.

But if you’ve given numerous ‘second’ chances to this guy but he keeps doing the same things that bother you over and over again, it is more than obvious that he doesn’t deserve any more of your time and attention.

He doesn’t keep his promises

One of the signs that you shouldn’t even consider taking your ex back is the fact that he never keeps his promises.

Anche se volete davvero che cambi, nel profondo sapete che questo ragazzo non è affidabile.

For as long as you can remember, he’s been giving you false promises and telling you everything you want to hear.

But he never kept any one of those promises. You don’t know whether he intentionally lies to you just to keep you around or if he is simply not reliable.

In ogni caso, cosa ti fa pensare che questa volta sarà diverso?

Why do you think he is someone who deserves a second chance from you, when it’s probable that he’ll make you all the promises in the world but won’t keep any of them?

He isn’t really sorry

Quando qualcuno è davvero pentito e pronto a cambiare, il vostro istinto vi dice che è sincero.

Allo stesso modo, il vostro intuito vi dirà se questo ragazzo ti sta solo portando avanti e se vuole che tu pensi che sia davvero dispiaciuto.

So che vuoi credere alle sue buone intenzioni nei tuoi confronti, ma sta davvero mostrando rimorso e assumendosi la responsabilità delle sue azioni o ti sta solo dicendo quello che vuoi sentire?

Si sta facendo in quattro per ottenere il vostro perdono o siete voi a giustificare il suo comportamento, perché volete giustificarlo?

When a man is really sorry and doesn’t want to make the same mistakes all over again, he will do whatever it takes just so you forgive him.

Let’s face it—if he wants to be with you, he’ll chase you to the end of the world just to make it happen.

But on the other hand, if a guy is not ready to be accountable for his own actions, he definitely doesn’t deserve a second chance.

It only means that he doesn’t care enough about winning you over, that he is not aware of the things he’s done to you or that he is perfectly aware of everything but just doesn’t care enough to deal with it.

He doesn’t take you seriously anymore

Se siete una di quelle ragazze che continuano a dare decine di seconde possibilità ogni volta che il fidanzato sbaglia qualcosa, la dura verità è che ha smesso di prendervi sul serio secoli fa.

If this is the case with you and your boyfriend, let me tell you that he doesn’t have any intention of changing, no matter what he says.

Lui vi conosce molto bene e sa cosa avete bisogno di sentire per farlo tornare nella vostra vita.

You keep threatening that this is the last time you are letting him back in your life and that you’ll leave him for good if he doesn’t change his behavior and treatment of you but he knows very well that you won’t back your words with actions.

Mi dispiace essere io a dirtelo, ma questo ragazzo ti prende per matto.

He thinks he can do whatever he wants and knows you’ll always be there waiting for him.

Your empty words don’t really scare him and you aren’t accomplishing a thing.

You can’t forget what he did

Se pensate di dare al vostro ragazzo una seconda possibilità, dovete sapere che dimenticare e perdonare sono due cose completamente diverse.

Although forgiving someone for the harm he’s done to you is hard and challenging, forgetting is even more difficult.

One of the biggest mistakes you could make in a relationship is convincing yourself that you’ve forgiven or forgotten about something that still haunts you.

So che probabilmente vi mancano questo e quello lo ami ancora but taking him back won’t change a lot, especially if you know that you will be holding grudges and that resentment and bitterness will become a part of you and your relationship.

In this case, it’s better not to give him another chance, because you obviously can’t move on from the things he did to you and the two of you will never have a stable, healthy relationship in those kinds of circumstances.