Scegliere sempre di perdere un uomo piuttosto che perdere la ragione

I’ll be honest with you here: Love is important. Whether someone likes to admit this or not, it’s nice having a man whom you care for and who cares for you back.

It won’t magically put your life in perfect order, but a healthy romantic relationship will make you happier – there is no doubt about that.

Tuttavia, sapete cosa è ancora più importante? Il rapporto che avete con voi stessi.

Questa è la relazione che deve essere sana, di successo e appagante se si vuole anche solo pensare al romanticismo.

Allora, perché continuate a mettere il vostro uomo davanti a voi stesse e per quanto tempo pensate di continuare a farlo?

So che lei si considera duro. You’re strong and, at first glance, it appears that you’re handling this awful situation you got yourself dragged into surprisingly well.

In qualche modo riuscite a gestire tutte le rotture e i riappacificamenti.

You keep your head above the surface despite all the insults, arguments, and toxicity. But let’s be real.

You can’t go on like this forever. Sooner or later, you’ll see the damage all of this is leaving on you and you’ll start feeling the consequences of this hell you’re going through.

So, ask yourself if it’s really worth it. Tenere un ragazzo vale la pena di perdere la testa?

You see, there will be plenty of men in your life, even though you probably don’t think that way now.

Prima o poi dimenticherete quest'uomo e inizierete ad amare un altro con la stessa intensità con cui avete amato lui.

Tuttavia, non si può mai sostituire se stessi. Time will do its trick and heal your broken heart. Sooner or later, you’ll stop missing this guy.

But you can’t find a new woman to live your life, once you lose yourself.

Vi prometto una cosa: You can make it without anyone, including this guy. But you can’t make it without yourself.

Ricordate che you don’t need him – you chose to give him a place in your heart – but you do need yourself.

Sopravviverete anche se lo lascerete andare, anche se in questo momento le cose potrebbero non sembrare così.

So che in questo momento vuoi tenere quest'uomo al tuo fianco.

You’re ready to do whatever it takes just for him to remain in your life.

Tuttavia, invece di farlo, per cambiare, concentratevi sul mantenimento della vostra sanità mentale. Concentratevi sul mantenimento della vostra salute mentale ed emotiva.

Concentratevi sulla vostra felicità e considerate la vostra pace interiore come la priorità numero uno.

Per favore, essere abbastanza intelligenti da scegliere di perdere un uomo piuttosto che perdere la testa.

Trust me, nobody – and especially not someone who doesn’t appreciate you – is worth you going crazy over him.

È esattamente così che andranno le cose se rimarrete intrappolati in questo circolo senza fine.

That’s what will happen if you stay in this toxic relationship, full of emotional abuse, gaslighting, and constant fights.

Lo sai, if it happens, he won’t stick around to help you.

He won’t be there to give you a hand or pull you out of your darkness.

He won’t put an effort into fixing your heart, even though he’s the one who broke it.

He won’t be there to glue you back together, even though he’s the one who crushed you.

He won’t have your back to catch you when you start falling.

He won’t stand by your side to help you heal, even though he is the one who destroyed you.

He won’t be there to bring you back to life, even though he’s the one who spiritually killed you.

Before you know it, this man will be gone and you’ll be left all alone to fight with your demons and traumas.

You won’t just lose precious years of your life, you’ll also have to deal with depression, insecurities, and anxiety, which is much worse.

Sooner than you might think, you’ll look around and see that the girl you used to be is nowhere to be found.

She’ll be replaced by a negative and bitter woman who’ll need ages to fully recover from everything she’s been through.

Quindi, per favore, salvare se stessi on time. Ditch his sorry ass and pull yourself out of this misery before it’s too late to be sorry.