10 indizi che non è serio e sta solo giocando con te
You think you love your partner, but do you even know if you’re on the same page? While sometimes it’s still early to jump to conclusions, other times può essere chiaro che qualcuno sta giocando con voi.
I know how you feel because I also wondered about someone’s intentions, and tried to figure out their mixed signals only to realize they’re not even worth fighting for or losing my time.
When someone’s not serious about you, tell will show you that in numerous ways. Sometimes we’re just too blind to see something that’s obvious. So be honest with yourself, and if these sound familiar, don’t try to make excuses!
1. Ti lascia spesso in sospeso
Prima ha iniziato a trovare delle scuse quando dovevate vedervi, ora he doesn’t even care if you made plans and just tells you he can’t make it or he’s not in the mood anymore.
Non solo, ci mette anche una vita a rispondere ai tuoi messaggi ma ha il tempo di postare storie su Instagram. Un uomo innamorato non si comporterebbe mai così.
2. You’re not his priority
Se potesse scegliere tra passare del tempo con i suoi ragazzi o con te, sceglierebbe sempre loro senza pensarci. You’re there just when he feels like hanging out with you o non ha niente di meglio da fare.
I know how frustrating this can be and make you wonder if you expect too much or should give him more space. Girl…no. You’re simply not important to him!
3. Non l'avete mai ufficializzato
You do everything boyfriend and girlfriend do together – go on dates, have fun, and share intimate moments, yet you’ve never defined your relationship.
Quando non c'è un'etichetta, si sente libero di fare ciò che vuole senza sensi di colpa., and that’s why you never made it official. You deserve to know where you’re standing.
4. Evita di parlare della vostra relazione
Se si prova a richiamare il file “relationship talk” in qualche modo riesce sempre a uscirne. Ogni volta che accennavo a definire la nostra relazione, cambiava rapidamente argomento.
Perciò, quando evita di parlare di questo, sappiate che he’s probably not sure what he wants or simply doesn’t want to commit ma vuole comunque tenerti con sé per divertimento.
5. Vi sentite come un giocattolo con cui lui gioca di tanto in tanto
You’re like a toy that’s always available for him to pick up when he wants and then throw away when he gets bored. This can be so draining and really damage your self-esteem.
You can’t allow yourself to be a backup, you have to be their first choice. If they can’t respect that, then they don’t deserve you and you better find someone who’ll treat you right!
6. He’s acting hot and cold
One moment he’s all over you, responding to your texts within seconds, showering you with attention, and the other moment he acts distant and cold. I would always think I did something wrong and tried to gain his attention back.
Ora capisco che if he’s not consistent, he’s not interested enough. You need to know it’s never your fault he suddenly changes his behavior so don’t hold yourself accountable.
7. He’s always sending mixed signals
A volte pensi che voglia passare la sua vita con te, ma poi arrivano dei giorni che ti fanno mettere in discussione tutto quello che ha detto.
You’re not even sure what he wants and if you mean anything to him. A man who’s really in love with you would never make you question his love, trust me.
8. Si finisce sempre per farsi male
He sometimes openly flirts with other girls and shows you he has options. It’s not rare he also says something hurtful and never even apologizes for it.
He’s indifferent to your emotions and if what he’s doing might hurt you. This is his way of making sure you know he’s not serious so he can do whatever he wants. Open your eyes, girl, don’t let your heart fool you.
9. He doesn’t show interest in your life
You could be president of the U.S. and that man wouldn’t care. He never asks you what is going on with your life or what you’re up to.
When you talk about something that happened to you he doesn’t listen. If he never asked you about your interests or showed he wants to get to know you, it means he doesn’t care because he’s not planning to commit anyway.
10. Si sa a malapena qualcosa di lui
The more you think about it, the more you become aware you don’t even know him that much. Non condivide mai nulla della sua vita e quando gli si chiede qualcosa risponde in modo vago.
Si comporta anche in modo misterioso e doesn’t want you to know where he’s going or spending his time with. Se volete sapere questo, si mette sulla difensiva e vi respinge.
He clearly gives you signs you’re not important to him and you can’t change people to be someone you want them to be. Even if you really like them, do you really want your life to be full of doubt and days where you’re left wondering what someone wants?
I know we sometimes want to believe in something that’s not real but that will not get you anywhere. So leave him in the past before you regret wasting your time.
