Sto lentamente imparando che non devo reagire a tutte le cose che mi danno fastidio

“Think once before you act, twice before you speak, and three times before you post on Facebook.” P.C. Brunson

I really don’t live by this quote, except maybe just the part related to Facebook.

I say the first thing that comes to my mind. Sometimes my mouth runs faster than my brain and I say something I definitely shouldn’t. 

I miei amici dicono sempre, “You have to learn to count to ten when in these situations,” Ciò significa che devo imparare a controllarmi.

I can’t say the first thing that pops into my mind when I am in the middle of some kind of discussion, because I usually unintentionally hurt the people involved.

Anche se ho la lingua lunga, non ho mai fatto del male a nessuno e chi mi conosce bene lo sa.

Ora, se ci penso, probabilmente sono così perché sono stato ferito troppe volte.

La gente si approfittava del fatto che ero fondamentalmente una brava persona, di quelle che portano il cuore sulla manica.

I was really losing sleep thinking about why someone would be so mean to me or why someone is treating me like I’m not good enough.

Sapevo solo che dovevo imparare a farmi valere. Le persone mi hanno ferito così tante volte che credo che le mie reazioni fossero inevitabili.

The problem now is that I tend to overreact at times. I think that people have bad intentions even when they don’t.

And that’s something I need to change about myself when I take a step back and look at the whole picture it only drains my energy and brings me stress that I don’t really need.

That’s why I am slowly learning not to act on all the things that bother me.

Sto imparando che non tutto ha bisogno della mia reazione. Sto imparando l'arte dell'autocontrollo. Sto cercando di essere una persona più grande.

It doesn’t mean that I agree with everything people say or do, it just means that I am choosing to rise above it.

Ignorare è di solito la cura migliore per qualsiasi situazione. Le discussioni su alcune cose irrilevanti sono solo una perdita di tempo. 

Arguing drains your energy and it doesn’t solve anything; you are trying to make a point, the other person is trying to make theirs and nobody manages to hear anything.

That’s why, sometimes, ignoring the whole situation is the best thing you can do. You actually say a lot when you don’t say anything at all.

I am becoming aware that self-control is the best thing you can master. It’s all about you and within you.

You can’t control what other people say or how they act but you can control yourself.

Quando si osserva la situazione in cui ci si trova, si impara molto di più di quando si reagisce.

Non agire è in realtà la migliore reazione che si possa avere in una discussione.

Lascerete la gente a chiedersi cosa sia successo qui. Ci sono persone che non aspettano altro che voi vi comportiate in un modo o nell'altro per vedere che potete essere controllati.

That’s why I am refusing to give them control over me.

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I am starting to see that in the end, it’s all about me.  I have to be OK with myself. I won’t change anybody’s mind with my reaction.

Everybody will stick to their beliefs no matter what I say. My opinion won’t make them change theirs. It won’t make them treat me better or with greater respect. 

That’s why I am learning to stay silent.

I am starting to see that other people’s behavior has more to do with the relationship they have with themselves than the one they have with me. 

I don’t have to react to everything that’s getting on my nerves. I don’t have to turn every wrong to right. I have my own opinions and beliefs. 

Sono disposto ad ascoltare anche quelle di altre persone. Forse posso imparare qualcosa. Forse anche loro possono imparare qualcosa da me, se sono disposti ad ascoltarmi.

It’s never about other people – let them go. It’s not about seeking explanations – some things are better left unsaid.  

It’s not about who is right or wrong – sometimes there are no rights or wrongs. Sometimes it is what it is and nothing more.

It’s always about being satisfied with yourself. It’s about something priceless like inner peace. It’s about the fact that happiness is a state of mind.

Quindi siate felici e ricordate che a volte nessuna reazione è la migliore azione che potete intraprendere.