You are scared of losing your partner and it makes you give yourself away more than you should. You start to see how your life would be miserable without him and that you need him under any conditions.
This mindset can become really depressing at times and it makes you forget about how valuable you are as a person and that you’re an individual who can do really well all by herself.
Of course, I’m not trying to tell you to leave him so you can experiment if you could live without him, I’m just giving you ways in which you can prevent yourself from thinking about it so much that even the most simple thought about it makes you cry.
Realize that your fear is quite normal
First of all, let’s get this clear—your fear is something normal and if you love him, your reaction to the thought of losing him and the sadness you feel are normal reactions.
The problem starts the moment when it starts to consume you. When you can’t be happy while being with your partner because of the constant bug in your head, your relationship can’t progress in the way it should.
You’re stuck with that idea and you simply can’t let go of it. Remember that the fear of losing a loved one is normal and we all experience it, but you don’t need to worry about it to the point where you stop enjoying the present moment!
Put your partner in second place
You should be your own priority. You should never give up something you love because of him and you shouldn’t be dedicating all of your time and energy into the relationship. You need it for yourself!
With the urge for self-improvement, you will completely forget about your fear because you will be the one who is the most important person in your life. Even if your partner does leave you, you’ll know that you didn’t give up on your dreams for him.
By the way, this doesn’t mean to be selfish and to forget about him or your relationship, to never have time for him, etc, it just means that you will be more aware of the fact that even if he leaves, you will still have a fulfilled life.
Spend time alone
This goes together with the previous tip. When you spend more time with yourself, you will get a sense of independence.
You will know that your happiness isn’t in the hands of someone else, but rather in your own. Simply relax and stop running after him.
Write it down
Every time you feel the fear creeping in, take a notebook and write it down, as I promise you that at some point it will start to look silly to you. By doing this you will get more conscious of the fear and you will recognize it when it comes.
Write it down simply to know what situation triggered this fear and how to avoid these situations.
For example, if you’re home alone and your toxic thoughts are consuming your mind, you can sit down and write, then after, forget about that topic and set your mind on thinking about a project you have at work and how to deal with it or put on a movie that makes you laugh your heart out. These things helped me a lot.
Talk with your partner
Because I’m speaking here out of personal experience, I know for sure that communication can save you from a lot of nights spent crying.
By talking with your partner, he will know how much the relationship means to you and that you appreciate him. He can even reassure you how something like that won’t happen and it will make you feel at ease.
Realize that you can’t control everything
If someone’s going to leave, they will leave. You can’t keep them by your side if they don’t want to be there. Why would you even want someone like that in your life? There is nothing they can give you anymore.
Let them leave. It may be hard and it may leave you heartbroken, but no one will be happy if your partner is talking about breaking up and all you do is cry and scream to convince him to stay.
If he doesn’t want to, he probably doesn’t love you, so why bother?
You’re not the only one dealing with this
In this world, there are so many people who were left by their loved ones. It can even happen on a daily basis! This means that you won’t be the first or the last person who is being left by someone who is very important in your life.
I know that this isn’t the advice you were looking for but it’s the truth. There are so many women who are happy with being alone and who don’t need someone to remind them that they’re beautiful.
Do what you can to make the best out of it
Never let the fear of losing him keep you from showing how much he means to you! Spend time with him and tell him everything you need to to make him feel loved. If he loves you, he will do the same thing for you!
This will strengthen your relationship and, even if it comes to an end, you will have wonderful memories to hold on to.
Trust in your ability to overcome heartbreak
You are a strong woman who has dealt with many situations where people would leave you and you’re still alive. You overcame all those times someone broke you and you’re still around. You can overcome anything!
If it gets to this point ever again, you need to trust yourself enough to know that you can deal with it and that it’s nothing to be afraid of. Life goes on and you will need time to heal but it’s going to be worth it!
They can never actually leave your life totally
Even if someone you love does leave you, they still live on in your memory and you had an amazing time with them even if they’re not by your side anymore.
They are the ones who made you into the person you are today and you need to be thankful that they were there to make your life richer.