All of us get to the period in our life where we want something more out of it. We want more money, more respect, more friends and more love. And if you are just thinking about it, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you are a selfish person. You just want the best for you but you know that you won’t hurt anyone on your path to success.
To be honest, I respect people who make these kinds of decisions. If they think they are more worthy than they feel, there is space for change. So, to cut a long story short, I prepared some of the best tips for you to finally live your life to the fullest and feel like you are in this world with a purpose.
1. Express gratitude for being alive
When you wake up in the morning, don’t let negative thoughts beat you. Instead, think about the new day like a new beginning, where you will be able to breathe with your lungs, where you will embrace the changes that happen to you and where you will be happy for being alive. Life is too short to sweat the small stuff so instead, do things that make you happy and don’t forget that you matter!
2. Enjoy the small things
You don’t need diamonds to be happy. You can be happy with small things because they matter the most. Wake up and start thinking positively. Run through the park like a small child. Smell the scent of the spring flowers in your garden. Act like a child and feel good about that. You only get to live once, so don’t let others steal away all your positive energy. And whatever happens, remember one thing: “Life is beautiful!”
3. Stop holding yourself back
Stop doing things just because it will look good to others. Do something that is good for you. Do things that make you happy and once and for all, show yourself that you are capable of handling serious things. If you want to try something new, don’t let your age or your gender hold you back from doing it. Be the change you want to see in the world.
4. Be what you are without apology
I know that some people won’t like the way you think and the way you act but in the end, that is none of their fucking business. Not everyone likes you but not everyone matters. So, don’t let people hold you back from your dreams. Do things that you want to do and be what you are without apology.
5. Celebrate your strength
Be happy for the amazing things you have achieved in your life. Be proud of all your successes and make yourself feel good about them. You are all that you made of your life and don’t let anyone convince you of the opposite. Celebrate your strength and be proud of the person you see in the mirror because they went through so much yet they are still standing.
6. Have faith in yourself
If you don’t have faith in yourself and the things you do, all will be in vain. You need to trust yourself and you need to be sure about your life’s decisions. Never let anyone make you change your way of thinking just because they don’t like something you do. Be strong and independent and stay after everything that you say.
7. Have your own standards
It is very important to have your own standards and principles. If you don’t have them, you will never know what your life’s path is. So, decide what is most important in your life and go after it. And whatever you do, don’t let others tell you what is right and what is wrong because you are the one who has to decide.
8. Love yourself
Trust me, you won’t get anywhere if you don’t love yourself and accept yourself just the way you are. Before you make any important decisions, you need to know what you want out of your life and you need to love yourself enough to try new things because if you don’t try something you will never know if you are good at it. Accept yourself with all your imperfections because they make you so perfect.
9. Don’t live life in whispers
Whatever you do, don’t live your life in whispers. Let your voice be heard and always express your opinion even if that means that by doing so you will sometimes be standing alone while others will point their fingers at you. Think with your own head and what is most important is to think outside of the box.
10. Admit that you made mistakes
Don’t worry if you’ve made any mistakes because that is all a part of life. There is no human being who hasn’t made mistakes and by making them, you will learn important life lessons. And once you learn them, you will never make the same mistakes again. Don’t be too harsh on yourself and give yourself another chance to improve your life.
11. Don’t take who you are for granted
Okay, you did some things that you are not proud of but that is life. So don’t look at your mistakes only. Think about all those amazing things that you did with your intelligence and wit. Be proud of all those good deeds that you did when nobody was watching. And whatever you do, don’t take yourself for granted.
12. Release all shame
My dear, there is nothing you should be ashamed of. We are all human beings and we all have ups and downs so don’t let them define you. Don’t think about things that could have happened if you did some things differently because you can’t change the past. You can just leave it where it belongs and in that way, find the peace you deserve so much.
13. Release all guilt
Maybe you have been guilty of some things in your life but that shouldn’t be something you should think about all the time. So no matter how guilty you feel about anything, just release it, okay? Because if you live your whole life reminding yourself about some mistakes you made in your life, you will never be truly happy.
14. Focus on the present
Don’t live in the past and stop thinking about all those people who betrayed you even when you gave them all of your trust. Don’t think about the things that will make you feel bad. Why are you doing that to yourself? There is no point in doing so and you will never be able to change the past. Instead, focus on the present and the things that you can improve now. Trust me, once you realize you should focus on the things that are happening now, you will feel the happiness that you craved so much.
15. Stop hiding
You can hide from some things but you will never be able to run away from them. You will never escape from life and all of life’s burdens that you have put on your shoulders. So, stop hiding and stand up for yourself. Show what you’ve got to the world. Show all your talents and your intellect and be glad for doing so. In hiding, you will never be able to see your real face so stop doing anything that won’t let you express your opinions.
16. Don’t worry about what people say
You know what? People will always have something to say. In most cases, it will be bad things because that is in people’s nature. They like to gossip about people and pretend that they have perfect lives. Listen to me, nobody lives a perfect life, it is all lie, so if they offend you in any way, just ignore it. Behave like it never happened and just move on.
17. Show all your potential
Whatever you are doing, do it to your full potential. Don’t be lazy to not finish things that have to be finished on time just because you don’t like them. Even if you hate doing something, do it with all your heart and I am sure that in the future you will be proud of yourself. Be the best at what you do and I am sure that something will change in your life for the better.
18. Discover a new talent
You don’t know what you can do if you don’t try. So, go ahead, be brave and try things that you never tried before. You can’t always go with the flow and do only those things that you are familiar with. Instead, try to do something new in your life and in that way, you’ll make it a lot richer.
I know that you feel great when you are in your comfort zone but that is not what you need in your life. You also need to go out and try to live in unfamiliar conditions. You should check where your boundaries are and whatever you do, never give up. Be ready to try new things in your life and don’t be afraid that you will fail; even if you do, it is all a part of life.
20. Your word is all that you have
When all masks are taken off, your word is what remains to define you. I am not saying that people will make conclusions just because you said something once but if they have an opportunity to get to know you better, they will definitely learn something from you. So, use your words wisely and always think before you say anything.
21. Break old habits
Some old habits brought you only problems. If, for example, you did things that would only make others happy and you would feel sad, you need to break that habit and make new ones. The catch is that you can’t say ‘yes’ to others if that means saying ‘no’ to yourself. Remember that no matter how old you are, you can still change your future, so go ahead and make some positive changes.
22. Compliment others
You probably wonder why you should compliment others, right? Well, if you tell a stranger on the street that they look nice and happy today and you give them a smile, they will be extremely happy and you will feel a little bit of their happiness. It is good to make others feel good and if you continue doing this, you will see how satisfied you can be.
23. Buy yourself something nice
It could be a piece of clothing or just dinner but from time to time, do something nice for yourself. We all spend our lives serving others, never doing nice things for ourselves, so this time stop thinking about others and for a change think about yourself just for a moment. It will help you see how worthy you really are.
24. Take responsibility for your life
Whatever you do, always take responsibility for your actions and your words. If you did something wrong, work hard to make it better and never give up on your way to success. Learn from your mistakes and don’t let them happen again. If you take your life seriously and if you react smartly, you will be truly happy and you won’t have to work hard.
25. Make good decisions
I know that you often won’t know if some decisions are good or bad but try to think before you say something. In case you need to make an important decision, give yourself enough time to think about it. Try to make good calls and learn from older people; look at how they managed to solve problems in their lives and try to act just like they did. Other people’s examples can help you a lot but you also need to put in your own contribution.
You don’t need to say ‘yes’ all the time, especially to the things you don’t want to do. Remember, don’t say ‘yes’ to others if that would mean saying ‘no’ to yourself. Don’t think that you are being rude if you don’t do something that others want. Think about yourself and your needs. And don’t think that is selfish because it is not. It is just you working on yourself and it will be a long process but something definitely worth waiting for.
27. Respect yourself
If you don’t respect yourself, others won’t respect you either. Know your worth all the time and be proud of the good things that you have done. Sometimes it will be hard for you to do that but remember that you are special and amazing just the way you are and that your voice deserves to be heard. In the end, life is only about respect.
28. Have your own opinion
It is extremely important to have your own opinion because that is what you are, your opinion represents you and shows others what you think about the world and all those things that are happening around you. If someone doesn’t agree with what you have to say, just let them go because it is okay to not agree with others sometimes.
29. Don’t think about limitations
If you think that there are limitations, you will never reach your goals. But if you live driven by the thought that there are no limitations and that only the sky is the limit, you will be able to reach some things that you never thought would be possible to you. Limitations are for weak people and you are not one of them. You are much more than that and you just need to believe it.
30. Stop complaining
You won’t get anywhere if you constantly complain about things. Instead of doing that, embrace all those positive changes that happened to you and live your life to the fullest. Even if something bad happened to you, don’t sweat the small stuff and just move on. You shouldn’t live in the past so it is better to leave it where it belongs. Only in that way will you experience true happiness.
31. Love with all of your heart
This is one of the most important pieces of advice I would give to people. I don’t think that there is enough love in this world and that we all need to love harder. So, give your heart all in and don’t be afraid if it is broken. Believe it or not, broken hearts can love once they heal. So, love with all of your heart and I am sure that when you find your soulmate, you will get the same amount of love back.
32. Live your passion
Do whatever makes you happy and don’t think about what others will say. If you like something, just keep doing it and don’t explain to anyone why you do things differently from them. It is your life and you can do whatever you want to do. Just make sure that you don’t hurt anyone in the process. Having a passion is one of the most important things that keeps us moving, so make sure not to lose it.
33. Stop waiting for anything
Remember how you wanted to have kids one day when you found a job? Remember how you wanted to travel with your friends when you would get enough money for that? If you continue to wait, things will slip from your fingers, so make sure that you do them in good time. Stop waiting for anything or anyone and make yourself happy without help from anybody. If you think about it, you will see that you are everything that you need to be happy so please make sure that you believe in that as much as I believe in you.
34. Stay on the right track
I know that you will experiment with some things but whatever you do, make sure that you stay on the right track. It is totally fine to try new things and meet new people but be smart enough to decide when you need to stop doing anything that does you harm. You won’t be able to live a happy life if you do anything that makes things worse. So, be smart and do only those things that you know will have nothing to do with any bad consequences.
35. Forgive yourself
In the end, if you want to live a happy and fulfilled life, you need to forgive yourself for all the bad decisions you made and all the bad things you did. You should be able to forgive yourself for all that has been eating you alive for such a long time. If you do that, you will feel much better and you will get rid of the demons from your past. It will definitely be a whole new experience in your life.