Break-ups are painful but they are especially painful if you don’t have any alone time for yourself to digest all of what you’ve been going through. It is really hard to get over someone you have to see all the time because it will significantly slow down your recovery.
But not all hope is lost. If you keep being persistent and try hard to understand why the break-up happened in the first place, you’ll be halfway to getting over them. Here are 6 steps that will help you to get over someone you have to see all the time.
1. Understand and accept things as they are
Understanding and acceptance are the key things when it comes to break-ups. If you don’t understand why the break-up happened, you will not be able to accept it. So, you have to try hard to understand what the trigger for your break-up was.
Was there lack of passion or trust? Did you lose yourself while waiting for your partner to change? Have your feelings faded away?
Whatever the reason is, you have to understand it and accept it as it is. Know that you would feel ten times worse had you stayed with them and you should see this as an opportunity to regenerate yourself and reset your priorities.
2. Enjoy life
Once you’ve understood and accepted the situation, pay attention to yourself. Enjoy life and occupy yourself with new hobbies, hang out with your favorite people, watch your favorite TV show, etc.
Whatever you choose to do, just make sure that it has nothing to do with your ex and that it doesn’t remind you of them. Occupy yourself with different things that will serve as distractions when you start thinking about them.
3. Don’t stalk them on social media
Just don’t. This is the worst thing you can do when you’re trying to get over someone. Constantly checking their updates or going through their pictures will only make things worse.
You need to focus on yourself and what you are doing instead of stalking them. I’m sure you have amazing things going on in your life and you don’t need to spend your valuable time stalking your ex on social media.
4. Don’t make them jealous
Sometimes we get so frustrated that we start doing things that we would normally never do. When you’re too occupied with the life of your ex and not on how to get over them, you will start doing things out of desperation.
Maybe you’ll post a picture of yourself with someone else and post it on your social networks so that they think you’ve met someone new. But you know that this is not true and the only thing you want to achieve with this is to make them jealous.
Don’t do that. Don’t spend your time devising how you can make them jealous or how you can make them pay for everything they’ve done to you. Stay calm and enjoy the beautiful things you still have in life and be grateful for them.
5. Appreciate your past
Learn to appreciate your past and you’ll get over them in no time. Remember that the things from the past stay there and they have nothing to do with you as a person or with the present you have today.
Break-ups happen and when it happens, know that it is not the end of the world. Your world might have changed but the outer world has stayed the same. And what you need to do is appreciate your past as it is and leave it there.
6. Keep your focus on the present
You need to keep being focused on what is going now and not on what happened before. Be open to new things and experiences and don’t mix your past with the present. You’re alive and you’re here and that’s all that matters.
You should not bother thinking about someone who was never meant to stay in your life. Keep your focus on the present and be happy about the future. And don’t forget to believe. Believe that you will succeed in getting over them, and believe me, you will.