It’s frustrating…I know. It makes you give up on everything and just leave to somewhere no one will ever find you.
It makes you want to lock yourself in your room and never come out. It makes you wonder whether you are the problem. Is it you? Are just so fucked up that no one takes you seriously?
I’m going to stop you right there. It’s not you. You are not the one to blame for the shit that is happening to you. You are not the one to blame that destiny made you nothing but a side-chick for now.
I know you’ve been living from one heartbreak to another. I know you can’t and don’t want to go through that anymore, but if you give up now, it means you’ve lost the war.
These are just life’s battles that you need to win and overcome. These are just tests until the right thing comes along.
Yeah, I know, right man? Like that exists! I know you’ve become bitter and angry, and you don’t trust anything and anyone anymore.
But, as cheesy as it sounds, it’s true. We all have someone out there for us. There is another half to every single person on this planet. You just haven’t met yours yet.
You’re still young and there is plenty of time ahead of you. There is plenty of time with hugs and kisses, of feeling loved and to love.
Stop questioning yourself and thinking it’s your fault that you can’t find someone, the kind of man you deserve.
No, you’re not fat. You’re not ugly. You’re not bad in bed. It’s not you! You’re only making yourself insecure. You’re putting such pressure on yourself.
You don’t have to be perfect to be loved.
But you have to stick up for what you believe in. The reason why you always end up being someone’s backup plan is because you won’t settle for something you don’t want.
You refuse to settle for a man who is not worthy of your love.
Finding love is not such a big deal—if you’re willing to do whatever he wants you to…if you’re willing to change for him and obey his every wish…if you’re willing to be manipulated.
You can find that kind of ‘love’ anytime you want. But finding true, selfless love is a definite challenge. And you don’t have to be sad because you are still searching.
You’re doing the right thing and one day in the future, you’ll thank yourself for not giving up. You’ll thank yourself for healing after every single heartbreak you’ve lived through. You’ll love yourself for not giving up on love.
Next time you meet someone, don’t play by their rules. Don’t go up their street because they will take advantage of you. Be honest from the start.
Tell them what you want and what you expect. They don’t have to think the same as you. They don’t have to agree on everything and that’s more than okay.
It’s better to get things out in the open than to discover skeletons in their closet when it’s too late, when you can’t avoid getting your heart broken.
You deserve to feel butterflies in your stomach when you see him. You deserve to be proud of him. You deserve to be genuinely happy without pretending to be something that you’re not.
Every time it’s not like this, just walk away. It’s not worth it.
