I know that there is this guy you love but who isn’t a part of your life any longer. You and he had special moments and made beautiful memories. You were convinced that he was the love of your life, your soulmate and your forever person. You thought that your relationship was special and something worth fighting for. And most importantly, you loved him more than anyone else in this world. And you were positive that he felt the same way.
Actually, you still love him more than anything. But it appears that he doesn’t feel the same way about you. Otherwise, he wouldn’t have left you.
Ever since he walked away from you, you’ve been spending your days waiting for him to come back to you, as if nothing had happened. You’ve spent all this time stuck in one spot, holding on to your past relationship like it is the only good thing in your life. You simply can’t face the reality and you refuse to accept that he has left you because you think that this realization would kill you spiritually. So your subconscious has developed this defense mechanism and deep down, you are not even aware that he is gone. Deep down, you look at his departure as just a break in your relationship and as something temporary. You’ve put your life on hold and you pressed pause, because you expect him to come back to you every second of the day. For your entire life, you’ve been listening to people telling you that you have to think positively if you want good things to happen to you. So here you are, being more optimistic than ever. Here you are, being sure that the love of your life will come back to you.
And with time, you lost touch with reality. You started living this parallel life in your dreams and in your head. You’ve been pretending all along that this man is still yours and you feel like you are going crazy because that isn’t happening. And whenever you think that he might not come back to you, you remember all the beautiful memories you two shared and you convince yourself that he still loves you and that he just needs time to understand that. You remember every time he swore his eternal love to you and you go back to that, hoping that your situation will change.
Well, let me tell you the last thing you want to hear. Let me tell you something that everyone around you kept telling you for months but you just wouldn’t listen. Let me tell you something that will cause you more emotional pain than this guy’s departure did. Let me tell you the truth, no matter how harsh it is and no matter how much you don’t want to hear it. Let me break your heart, for your own good. This man is gone and he doesn’t have any intention of coming back. And it’s about time you accept this. It’s time you finally face the harsh reality and admit to yourself that your hopes have been in vain.
I know this is something you have been running from all along and I am very much aware that this realization will break you into pieces. But it is something you need to accept and understand. Because it is the only truth.
Because it is the only way for you to continue living your life and for you to move on from this man who has done you so much harm.
You need to realize that you’ve spent months waiting for something that will never happen. You need to understand that you haven’t been living your life all this time—life has been passing you by. You need to understand that this guy will win if you continue doing this to yourself because he has continued being a part of you, even though he isn’t physically by your side.
I know that this is not an easy thing to admit and to accept. And I don’t expect you to do it overnight. But you need to force yourself to at least begin with your progress. Every time you think about how it would have been if he had come crawling back or what would have happened if he had stayed or every time you start hoping that he still loves you, force yourself to think about something else. Force yourself to think of all the bad things he has done to you, if that will help you. You just need to reprogram your brain into thinking differently.
And with time, trust me—you’ll succeed and you will leave this guy in the past, where he belongs.