We have been taken for granted too many times in our life and it’s finally time to stop all of that. No matter how much we adore our partner, we really do have to set certain boundaries and stop them when we see that they have started to take us for granted. Why would we want someone in our life who doesn’t even know that we are suffering? If your partner isn’t taking you out on dates anymore because he thinks that you’ll be hooked on him even when you don’t spend time together, if he thinks that you’ll stick around even if he continues playing video games all day and if he acts like he doesn’t know that you will be hurt if he doesn’t text you for days, then now is the right time to do something about it.
1. Have fun by yourself
Don’t even bother to ask him what he’s doing that night if you know that he’s going to have some lame excuse for not going out with you. Instead go out on a date with yourself. Do something that you will enjoy doing even when you know that he wouldn’t enjoy it with you. There are so many things you haven’t been able to do since you two started your relationship, so go do those things right now. Oh, and don’t forget to take a picture and post it somewhere he will see it. Let him ask himself why you didn’t even invite him.
2. Don’t answer his messages right away
Women have this urge to answer messages right away. I mean it’s polite and that’s how it’s supposed to be done if you have your phone by your hand. But now that he’s taking you for granted and he doesn’t know how hard it is for you when you have to wait a whole day before he answers, ignore the urge to text him back. Make him feel your pain. Don’t answer him. You could even leave him on ‘read’.
3. Dress more nicely
No matter how often you dress nicely, double it! Dress yourself so nice that he drools every time you walk by. Let him see what he’s losing. Men really are visual creatures and if he sees you that hot and sexy, he’ll instantly come after you. But don’t let him touch you. Physical touch is off limits until he starts appreciating your presence in his life again. I know that this sounds like manipulation but if he doesn’t see what he’s losing and that you won’t even let him touch you, he won’t realize what’s going on and he won’t be able to ‘read the signals’ you’re trying to send him.
4. Go out with your friends
Go out to parties, have fun with your girlfriends, let him see that you are able to have a wonderful life without him. Plan an all-girls weekend for your birthday and don’t allow him to go to the party. Let him know that he’s not invited. He doesn’t deserve to be there and make your special day miserable.
5. Cancel plans with him
Believe me, I know it’s hard. You want to spend more time with him because you love him but this is the best way for you to let him know that something isn’t right. If he calls you to go out, then politely tell him that you don’t want to and if you have already made plans with him, then cancel them and tell him that you have something important to do for work. Either way, it will pay off.
6. Don’t talk to him about your life
Withhold information about your life right now. At one point when you’re talking to him and he asks you about why you haven’t told him that before, choose a passive-aggressive answer like, “I saw that you were too busy to actually care.” These sentences hit the spot even though they may sound a bit rough. After all this time taking you for granted, show him that you are not OK with his behavior.
7. Talk to him
After you have decided that it is enough with the games, try the old but gold technique of talking things through. You may have tried it before all of this but now is the right time to talk about the issue. Tell him how you have been feeling lately and tell him that you aren’t happy in your relationship because he doesn’t appreciate you and what you’re doing for him. Tell him that he only takes from the relationship without giving anything and see what happens. If he says that he is going to change his behavior then give him a chance!