So, when you first met him, you had a feeling in your gut that it will not be just one of those mediocre relationships.
He was different from everyone you’d ever been with, and he knew how to make you feel special.
He didn’t have problems with making an effort, and you thought that nothing and no one will ever separate you. You were happy together.
But later on, some things happened, and you’ve lost yourself in the process of trying to save what’s left of your relationship.
You know that you have to go separate ways because there’s no point in prolonging the pain and unhappiness.
But, you also know that this will not be as easy as it sounds.
No matter how much you fight it, you can’t help yourself wanting him back.
Everybody is trying to sell you the idea that time heals everything, and you just need to wait to forget everything that happened and move on.
But, they can’t understand that time is your mortal enemy because existing means thinking about him, about you together, and about all the happy moments you had.
No matter how much you fight it, you can’t help yourself wanting all those moments back. And you should know that this is totally normal.
There is not a single person in the whole world that succeeded in moving on and deleting their ex in a record time because it’s in our human nature to fight till the last atom and never stop believing in our dreams.
And that’s exactly what you’re doing.
You want to win your ex back because you still believe that things will change, and sometimes they do!
If you want to win your ex back, it means you still have feelings for him.
You hope that someday things will change, and you will continue writing together a new, rewritten chapter of your life.
But, you need to know that nothing will happen by chance.
If you want to win him back, you need to be willing to investigate what is the real reason and cause of your breakup and how you can improve things.
The key to reuniting with your ex is in understanding why some things happened and being willing to work on yourself and your relationship so that you don’t repeat the same mistakes and ruin the chances of getting him back.
But, before doing anything, first you need to make sure that he’s worthy of it!
The biggest mistake that you could be guilty of is blindly wanting someone back who didn’t deserve it.
Ask yourself honestly whether he is worth your fighting for him and your time that this fight will take.
Ask yourself whether you want him just because you can’t forget him or there are more, bigger reasons for it.
Once you’re one hundred percent sure that you really want him back and you wholeheartedly believe that you’re meant to be together, then consider following these 7 steps that will help you win your ex-boyfriend back:
1. Take some time away from each other first
The worst thing you could do is to sit next to your cell phone 24/7 and constantly call him or wait for him to call or text you.
If you can’t help yourself, ask someone to hide your cell phone from you so that you don’t think about contacting him all the time.
Remember that you need to give it some time—your body and heart deserve a break as well.
2. Think of the reason(s) why you broke up in the first place
You will never be able to reconnect if you don’t understand why you parted in the first place.
Think of the possible reasons why things ended up the way they did.
Think about what it is that you two have done but could have done differently and how did that affect your relationship.
Once you have insight about these things, it will be ten times easier to see the bigger picture and think rationally.
3. Talk to your mutual friends about it
If you want to win your ex-boyfriend back but you’re not quite sure about it, it is always a good idea to talk to your mutual friends regarding the matter.
Since they are not the ones who broke up with your ex, they see things differently, and their opinions will help you a lot when it comes to this.
4. Initiate contact with your ex again
If you feel it in your gut that you should definitely contact your ex (and your mutual friends approve), then you shouldn’t doubt it for a second.
But remember to contact him in a casual, chill tone because you don’t want to scare him off.
If you’re not sure how to do it, here are some great ideas on how to win your ex back via text messages: 7 Types Of Texts To Send Your Ex To Get Him Back (With Examples)
5. Turn yourself into the person he originally fell in love with
What is it that attracted him to you initially? Was he madly in love with your child spirit and being playfully stubborn?
Think of all the things that he ever complimented you on and accentuate them so that you let him know you’re still the same person he once fell in love with.
6. Prove to him that you’ve changed
Do you have some annoying habits or anything that you were guilty of doing in your relationship?
If yes, now is the right time to prove to him that you’ve changed.
You want to let him know that you are determined to be the best version of yourself and that you’re confident and feeling good in your own skin.
7. Talk to him about getting back together
And the final, but somewhat the hardest part is having a conversation with him about getting back together.
Again, the best way to do it is casually and with confidence. You don’t want to force him into anything because it will have a countereffect.
If you’ve done all of the steps above, there is nothing to worry about when it comes to this one.
All you need to do is talk to him honestly about why you think you should try again, and I’m sure that he will not be able to discard the idea of a potentially happy relationship once he sees how confident you are about it (and he will not want to lose such a great woman as you).