Wondering how to make him want you back? No need to look further because you’re definitely in the right place!
So, you probably broke up recently or you’ve been apart for a long time now but you still feel like you can’t move on.
No matter what you do, you still end up thinking about him.
He’s the first thing that comes to your mind when you wake up in the morning and when you go to sleep at night.
You can’t help but overthink about why you had to break up in the first place and worry about if it was just a mistake.
You see, when you fall in love with someone, it is hard to simply delete them from your mind after a break-up.
They are basically a part of you and sometimes it takes years to move on (depending on how strong your relationship was) and sometimes going back to them is inevitable.
Before diving deeper into any ‘make him want you back’ strategies, first you need to make sure if he’s worthy of coming back into your life.
If your guy has been guilty of any of the following things, you should not under any circumstances put in the effort to get him back!
· He cheated on you
· He constantly lied to you
· He constantly disrespected and underestimated you
· He verbally or physically abused you
If he’s done any of these, you should seriously think more about your wish to reunite with him.
If he’s cheated on you, the chances are that he will do it again.
If you don’t believe me, researchers claim that people who are guilty of cheating in one relationship are THREE TIMES as likely to cheat on their next partner.
If he’s lied to you, you need to ask yourself if you will ever be able to trust him again and if anything he’s ever said to you is a lie.
If he disrespected or underestimated you or verbally or physically abused you, you should immediately discard the idea of making him want you back—you’re not doing so because you really want to but because you’re still under his spell.
He made you think that you can’t function without him (which is a common thing among abusers and psychopaths) and that is why you still want him back even though he should be the last thing that ever comes to your mind.
Whatever the reason is, I cordially recommend talking to a therapist about how you feel regarding your break-up, the reasons for your break-up and why you want him back.
That way you will get more of a meaningful insight into what you should do and what is the best solution for the situation you’re in!
How to make him want you back
If you’ve strongly and wholeheartedly decided that you want him back no matter what and you feel it in your gut that it is the right thing to do, it will be my honor to be your guide!
When it comes to winning your man back, you need to remember one thing and that is your dignity.
To successfully win him back in no time, you should never, ever bring your dignity into question.
Now, what does this mean? It means that you should never beg, go out of your way to win his attention, stalk him or similar.
If you do any of this, I can guarantee you that you will never succeed in getting him back. You will only become frustrated and disappointed.
The best formula for winning him back is to make him respect you and appreciate you, so that he is dying to be with you.
You need to let him know that you’re perfectly good without him and you need to give him space to make an effort to win you and deserve to be a part of your life again! And this is how you’ll do it!
15 POWERFUL WAYS TO MAKE HIM WANT YOU BACK IN NO TIME
1. Cut all communication
If you want to win him back in record time, the first thing you need to do is cut all kinds of communication with him.
This means forgetting about Facebook messages, phone calls, texting him and any type of social media.
You need to strictly stick to the no contact rule for some time! And now you’re probably wondering why.
The main reason why you need to cut off all communication with him is to give yourself the time and space needed to process everything that happened and distance yourself in order to create the perfect environment that will draw him to you.
The moment you stop calling or texting him, he will immediately start thinking more about you and wondering about your whereabouts and mindset.
And all of this will make him instantly miss you without him even being aware of that. And missing something or someone means wanting it back, right?
2. Assess what went wrong in the relationship
Think about why the two of you broke up in the first place. Was it because of something that you did or him?
Is there anything that you could improve regarding yourself that will improve your chances of winning him back?
You need to assess what went wrong in the relationship in order to target the ‘culprit’ and devise the perfect plan that will bring him back to you.
A part of that perfect plan is thinking about how you can improve yourself.
Was he mad because of your incessant partying or too much work? Did you act irresponsibly in one way or another?
Think about it and once you realize any potential ‘errors’ of yours, start working on them to prove to him that you’ve changed.
Getting him back is not about only wanting him back and not lifting a finger to make it happen.
It’s about constant adapting and adjusting to the situation you’re in.
It’s about detecting potential errors and devising the perfect foolproof software—in this case, the relationship.
3. Apologize, if necessary
The next thing you need to think about is how you ended your relationship.
Did you yell at each other, throw things all over the place and swear that you’d never talk to him again?
Or perhaps you said something that you can’t help but regret?
If you feel like you’re guilty of any of these things, you should consider apologizing to him before proceeding to anything else.
Many people think that if they apologize to their partner it will probably mean that they are weak. But this is not true.
Apologizing means being aware of your mistakes or words said in anger, acknowledging them and moving on.
By doing this, you will show him that you’re ready to move on with your life and forget everything that happened in your past, which will make him see that you’ve changed and he will also be suspicious about your current love life.
4. Focus on your needs
The most important thing that you should focus on is what makes you happy. What do you enjoy doing? What brings a smile to your face?
Is it a day in a spa, a long bath with scented candles, a special cake, buying lingerie or sexy clothes?
Do whatever makes you happy!
Do not spend time thinking only about him and how to make him want you back because if you do that, you will not succeed in it or it will take much more time than needed.
You need to focus on today and on your happiness instead of constantly yearning for a fake one.
As long as you’re taking good care of yourself and doing things you like, you will be ten times happier and ten times more attractive.
And your wish is to win him back, right?
Believe me, when it comes to winning him back, there’s nothing more effective than showing him that you still rock!
5. Show him that you’re happy without him
There’s nothing more frustrating or repulsive than being a person who is needy and desperate for someone.
If you show him that he’s the center of your world and you simply can’t function without him, you will never make him want you back.
Instead, you will only push him even further away.
What you need to do is show him that you don’t need him and that you’re perfectly happy without him.
You need to act like you don’t care about him, delete your photos on social media, start posting inspiring photos showing how content and happy you are and similar.
The moment he realizes that you’re actually genuinely happy without him in your life, he will want to come back to you because there’s nothing sexier than a fierce, independent woman who doesn’t need a man to make her happy.
He will literally beg you to need him and to find some space in your life for him as well because he will want to be a part of your happiness, too!
6. Work on improving yourself
I understand that you’re probably going through a tough time, barely finding the strength to wash your hair, let alone to think about putting make-up on, exercising or something else that requires more effort than the minimum.
But you need to understand that working on improving yourself is of high importance if you want to make him want you back.
You need to get in shape by hitting the gym or exercise at home (thank God there are thousands of exercises on YouTube nowadays), be careful of your diet, drink plenty of water and spend time in nature.
All of these will make you feel instantly better and it will improve you mentally and physically.
Improving yourself means investing in your happiness and well-being, which is an important part of his decision to come back to you.
I mean no one can resist a hot chick who knows how to take care of herself, right?
7. Make him jealous
I know that many of you will not agree with this one but making someone jealous is sometimes actually a great idea and it will benefit you in so many aspects.
To do it right, you need to pay attention to how you’re doing it because you don’t want to appear too evil or careless.
You want to do it in a more subtle way.
To make him feel jealous in a subtle way, consider posting photos of you and a male friend (who he doesn’t know about) on social media, which will instantly make him wonder who the hell that guy is and his hormones will be on fire.
A healthy amount of jealousy is all about being mysterious about your whereabouts and the people you’re hanging with.
To spice it up a little bit more, try flirting with other guys when your ex is present, just to let him know that you’re still in the game and to make him think that he will need to work hard if he wants to win you back because the competition is strong!
8. Take his stuff back to him
Are you still surrounded by his stuff and things that remind you of him?
If you are, you need to consider taking his stuff back to him and here is why.
Firstly, once you take his stuff back to him, you will be ten times happier because you will not constantly think only about him and dwell on your past.
Secondly, taking his stuff back to him will make him think about you more, which is exactly what you need.
It will remind him of all of those moments when he was looking for that perfect gift for you and when he was seeing you smile when you received them.
Soon, he will find himself in a labyrinth of nostalgia for the past moments spent with you, which will make him want you back in no time.
Also, he will be afraid that you’re totally over him and that is the reason why you’re returning all of his stuff to him.
9. Widen your horizons
Are there any specific hobbies or activities that you always wanted to try but somehow you didn’t? Well, now is the time to do it!
It’s time to widen your horizons and indulge in different, engaging activities that will bring a smile to your face and make you feel complete.
You can try abstract art, singing, writing or similar and you can also post it on your social media.
When he sees how passionate you are about something, he will lose his mind for you and he will want you back!
All you need to do is have fun and find some interesting things to do that will reflect your passionate side.
You need to let him know that you’re not a couch potato eating tons of ice cream and watching your favorite TV shows.
You are an attractive woman and you choose to spend your time wisely by having fun while doing exciting things!
10. Wait for the perfect timing to get in touch with him
Many women out there make this fatal mistake of contacting their ex at the wrong time.
Now, to prevent this from happening, we need to make clear when the wrong time is and when the perfect time to contact him is.
The wrong time is, obviously, a day after you broke up, or even a few days or a week after you broke up. Why?
Because you both need time to come to your senses and to think about what just happened.
You need to recharge yourself and focus on other things instead of just your ex or the reason why you broke up in the first place.
The perfect timing would be at least four weeks after your break-up and after you’ve done all of the above things (had some time for yourself and worked on improving yourself).
Then you can consider getting in touch with him, asking him to go for a drink or similar.
11. Talk to his friends
If for some reason you can’t get in touch with him or you’re too anxious about it, start talking to his friends instead.
This is actually one of the most brilliant ideas when it comes to making him want you back (regardless of the circumstances).
You can simply contact his friends just to see what’s going on in their lives and in the middle of the conversation you can switch to the subject of your life or ask something about your ex.
When his friends find out that you’re doing pretty well, there’s a chance that they will want to share that info with him as well.
And when he finds out that you’re perfect on your own, he will want to contact you and see you.
His friends will be like middlemen when it comes to reuniting with him and confirming the fact that you’re living life to the fullest and that you’re genuinely happy.
12. Remind him why he fell in love with you in the first place
The trick to getting him back lies in reminding him why he fell in love with you in the first place and you can start practicing this once you get in touch with him again.
Now you’re probably wondering how one reminds his ex of the reason why he fell in love with someone?
The secret is in talking about your past together, the retelling of humorous events, doing things that he always found cute about you and similar.
For example, if he was crazy about how you bite your lip when you’re uncertain about something, you should do it more often to remind him of that.
Think about other things that he really liked about you, think about your romantic dinners and sweet memories and wait for the perfect moment to bring them to life.
When you start talking about them, his brain will instantly link all of these memories to his feelings for you and that’s how you will remind him why he fell in love with you in the first place!
13. Take things slowly
Another important thing to pay attention to if you want to make him want you back is to always take things slowly.
When you start communicating with him again or going out on a drink or two, make sure that he knows that you’re doing all of it on a friendly basis (well, pretend if you have to).
This is extremely important because you don’t want to make him think that you’re desperate to reunite with him.
This will only pressure him and it will not bring you anything good.
So, you need to take things slowly, be chill about everything and convince him that your intentions are friendly.
And believe me, soon he will start working his ass off to prove to you that he’s worthy of coming back into your life.
His male ego will not want to accept the fact that you see him only as a friend and not a potential lover.
14. Trigger his emotional buttons
By triggering his emotional buttons, I mean triggering his emotional desire for you, which will bring him back to you in no time.
If you’re wondering how to trigger his emotional buttons, don’t worry, it’s easy!
You do so by asking him for advice or a favor or asking him for help regarding something to do with your job or around the house.
When he sees that you have difficulty with something, he will not be able to reject helping you.
He will instantly start making an effort to find the perfect solution for your problem and boom!
By doing this, his emotional desire for you will be subconsciously triggered and he will instantly feel closer to you.
You will awaken his protective nature and his love for you, which are essential to making him want you back!
15. Make it a challenge for him to get you back
Another important thing to remember is to never show him that you’re still head over heels for him.
Instead, you need to make it a challenge for him to get you back! When you see that he’s trying his best to win you, do not fall for it immediately.
Always pretend that he needs to try harder to impress you because you’re not an easy catch.
Laugh at his jokes but do not overdo it, so that he doesn’t get the impression that his job of winning you back is done because it’s not!
Let him know that he will have to make a serious effort if he wants to win you over again and if he doesn’t, there are plenty of other guys who would kill to be in his place.
Think that way and I can assure you that he will beg you to come back to you sooner than you might have thought!
THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER DO IF YOU WANT TO GET HIM BACK!
Now that you’ve learned everything you need to know about how to make him want you back, it’s time to also learn about some things that you should never do if you want to win him back.
The following things are so-called ‘fatal mistakes’ that you should memorize so that you don’t ruin the game!
1. Shower him with tons of affection
No matter how crazy you are about him, never be tempted to shower him with tons of affection.
If you do, you will ruin everything. Why?
Because guys are hunters by nature, which means they like the game of chasing and proving themselves to you.
And if you constantly play around him and pay him lots of attention, you will kill the game of pursuit.
He will no longer be willing to win you because he will think that he already got you and that’s the biggest mistake that many women are guilty of.
Many women think that if they show their man how compassionate and loving they are, he will fall to his knees and reciprocate.
Sadly, this is not how things work with men.
If you want to make him want you back, you will have to give him space to prove himself to you and that is how you’ll win him over.
2. Act jealous around him
Remember that no matter what happens when you’re with him or in his vicinity, never, ever act jealous around him.
If you do, he will think of you as insecure, which is not a good quality to possess.
If some other women approach him, don’t immediately become upset about it because, after all, you need to remember that you’re not back together yet and he might have chatted to or been with some other girls after you but if you show that you’re totally cool about it, he will see how chill you are and he will actually want to make you jealous.
He will want to do that because being jealous is similar to showing your affection to him as it means that you still care about him and you want him only for yourself.
And if you show that you’re totally fine with whatever he is doing at the moment, he will focus only on your indifference and you will be the only thing on his mind.
3. Beg or use pity to get him back
As I already mentioned at the beginning, the worst thing you could do is beg him or use pity to get him back.
Losing your dignity is the worst thing that could happen to you when it comes to making him want you back.
A man will never want to be interested in getting back to a woman who is not okay on her own (without him) because it gives him power over you.
If he has the ability to manage your happiness, he will not be interested in winning you back because you will not be a challenge.
Men like women who are happy on their own, who know what they want and who don’t need a man to make them happy.
And by showing him that you’re one of them, he will be more than happy to become a part of your life again.
4. Constantly call or text him
And please stay away from the incessant use of your phone and texting him.
Constantly calling or texting him will only make him think that you’re desperate and you want him back at any cost.
And being desperate is repulsive because it is the total opposite of being independent and strong.
You don’t want to show him your weakness so that he thinks he can do whatever he wants with you.
You don’t want him to think that the only thing you’re doing during the day is sitting next to your phone and waiting for him to text or call you.
You want him to know that you don’t give a damn about him (even if it is not true) and that you’re having the time of your life without him.
You need to instill into his mind the idea that you don’t need him and if he’s interested in winning you, he will have to make an effort to show you that he’s worthy of being with you.
5. Let him take advantage of you
If he claims that he wants you back but he is not proving it with his actions, you should be alarmed.
If he’s always calling you in the small hours, know that he’s only interested in a booty call and if you yourself are not interested in that, then you should let him know.
You should never let him take advantage of you, no matter how much you like or love him.
Remember to always take care of your dignity and make sure that it is intact because if he sees that he can do whatever he wants and whenever he wants, he will take advantage of you.
He will take advantage of your feelings for him only if you let him, so don’t do it! Don’t accept everything he says to you and don’t dance to his tune.
Know your boundaries and demand respect and if he’s not ready to reciprocate, then you know that you’re better off without him anyway.
6. Talk to him about the relationship and ask him about his love life
Remember never to talk to him about entering back into a relationship with you or to constantly ask questions about his love life.
The only thing you need to pay attention to is following the above ways on how to make him want you back and let him conclude on his own that he really wants you back.
Talking to him about how much you want a relationship with him or similar will make him think that you’re still head over heels about him and you’re kind of desperate without him.
You need to act friendly and let him do all the work regarding the relationship.
Also, remember never to ask him about his love life either because he will feel like you’re creeping on him or being too intrusive.
Act like you don’t give a damn about his love life and he will be more than happy to make you his priority.
7. Cause him pain by acting cold, aloof or nasty
Never cause him any kind of pain, or act cold, aloof or nasty because all of these are negative things that will result negatively as well.
I know that you’re probably mad at him and you want to kick his ass first before welcoming him back into your life but please, try to control yourself when you’re around him because you don’t want to regret any of it later.
Always keep your chill and avoid playing hard to get or playing nasty.
If he sees that you’re not in touch with yourself, you will frighten him and he will most certainly run away from you.
But if he notices how cool, calm, collected and peaceful you are, you will exhibit positive energy and he will be attracted to you.
He will want you back because of how you make him feel when he’s around you and if you succeed in creating an inviting environment, I promise you that he will come back to you in no time!