When it comes to dating, many men make a huge mistake from the start, assuming that women are looking for perfection.

They think that women are all about searching for the perfect man and they are not eager to even give a chance to those who are not on the list.

But dear men, I’m sorry to tell you how utterly mistaken you are because none of this is true!

A woman’s mind might be complex but it is certainly not wired to seek only perfection.

Unfortunately, some men use this ‘perfection thing’ only as an excuse for being unwilling to make an effort to win their women and treat them with respect.

There are also men who think that if they want to win a woman, they have to be rich, have six cars, sixteen credit cards, Chris Hemsworth’s body and Johnny Depp’s charisma.

But the only truth is that she doesn’t need any of that.

And by pursuing fake ideals, you fail to see the bigger picture behind what a woman really wants and needs!

She doesn’t really need expensive gifts to be happy. She doesn’t really need you to look flawless to win her.

She doesn’t really want the perfect man, she wants these 8 things from you instead!

1. She wants you to give her your time

She doesn’t need any of those expensive gifts.

The only thing she wants from you is your time because to her, that is the most expensive gift you could give her.

Appreciate her time by not letting her wait for you to show up on a date and by not making excuses that you can’t make it (when you know you can).

She just wants to know that she is your priority, just as you are hers.

She wants a man who will not make her question her decision to give you her trust.

She wants a man who wants to spend time with her and who makes sure that nothing prevents him from doing so.

2. She wants you to treat her with respect

She doesn’t need you to yell from the biggest skyscraper how much you love her.

She doesn’t need you to kneel in front of her and swear your love. All she wants from you is to be treated with respect.

She wants you to treat her with respect by not letting her feel less worthy or a disappointment to you.

She wants you to simply tell her when she fucks things up instead of just yelling at her.

No, she doesn’t expect you to be perfect. Simply appreciating her existence and respecting her quirks and flaws will suffice.

3. She wants you to make an effort

No, she doesn’t need a bouquet of a hundred roses. One beautiful flower will satisfy.

She doesn’t need you to act like a wizard and perform miracles either. She just wants you to make an effort in making her feel special.

She just wants you to show her that you are willing to do things for her because you genuinely and wholeheartedly care about her.  

You don’t have to write a sonnet to praise her beauty inside out. A simple sentence accentuating that she looks beautiful today will do it.

4. She wants you to be a man of his word

If you promise something, she wants you to stick to it just as she’s keeping her promises.

She wants you to be a man of his word by not manipulating her, selling her lies or making her feel confused.

All she wants from you is to promise her that you will fight for her just as she will fight for you and if you’re really into her, this will come naturally to you.

A man of his word never lets his woman worry about his intentions.

A man of his word never makes his woman regret giving her heart or trust to him. Be that man and you will make her the happiest in the world!

5. She wants you to be there when she needs you

She is aware of the fact that you can’t be happy 24/7 and the same applies to her.

When she’s feeling alone and disappointed by the world, all she wants is for you to be there when she needs you!

All she wants and needs is for you to hug her and tell her that everything will be all right and this doesn’t cost you a dime.

She doesn’t need tons of expensive chocolate or a trip to Paris to comfort her.

All she wants from you is to give her your touch, a nice word and a big, warm hug.

6. She wants you to support her

She is not asking you to go out of your way to make her every wish come true.

All she wants from you is to support her while she’s fighting for her dreams.

She is capable of achieving everything she wants on her own and all she needs is someone to lean on when she gets tired of her own battles.

You don’t have to guide her through the storm. The only thing you need to do is hold her hand and assure her that she will make it!

7. She wants you to listen to her

When she gets home tired, she just wants you to be there and to listen to what she has to say.

She is not asking you to talk all the time if you’re not into it. She is not asking you to find solutions to her problems or to try fixing any of them.

All she wants is for you to listen to her and respect what she has to share with you and she will do the same for you.

All you need to do is just make an effort to listen to her and you will make her feel appreciated and brighten up her day.

8. She wants you to love her the way she loves you

No, she doesn’t need you to save her or mend her broken heart.

She just wants you to be ready to commit and be ready to love her the way she loves you.

She herself knows that she’s not perfect and she would never ask of you to fit the definition of perfection.

Expensive gifts, your exterior and cheap words mean nothing to her because the only thing she truly wants is your heart.

No, she doesn’t really want the perfect man, all she wants of you is to be ready to love her selflessly, unconditionally and with your whole heart, just as she does.

She Doesn't Really Want The Perfect Man, She Wants These 8 Things From You Instead!

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