Let’s face it — we all want love. And not just any kind of love — we want an unconditional, once-in-a-lifetime kind of love that doesn’t fade away with time. We want to find our soulmate, our match made in heaven, the one who is destined to be ours and our forever person all in one person.
Don’t get me wrong — I am not saying that pursuit for love should be the only thing giving meaning to your existence nor that love is the only important thing in the world. I am especially not telling you that you can’t be complete on your own and that you need love to fulfill you.
But the truth is, that at some point in our life, we all want to find that special someone to share it with. Someone who will make all of our difficulties look bearable and all of our challenges solvable. Someone just to be next to us to catch us when we are about to fall and to hold our hand, telling us that everything will be OK when we lose all hope.
And you are no exception. You are not afraid of being alone and you’ve embraced your single life a while ago. You know what you want and are not a girl who is ready to settle for less so obviously, you don’t even think of finding someone so you are not alone.
Instead, you just want to find an ever-lasting connection, a man who’s love will feel like home and a man who will always try his best to always remind you what butterflies feel like.
Even though you don’t want to lower your standards (and you shouldn’t), you are not looking for a perfect man because you don’t think of yourself as perfect either. You are well aware of your imperfections and you just want someone to accept you just the way you are, without trying to change you.
You just want someone who will understand you and who will love you back, no matter what. Someone to grow old with and someone who will stay by your side through thick and thin.
But this love you are waiting for isn’t coming, as much as you keep searching for it. All you get are immature guys who don’t appreciate everything you have to offer and who don’t give you anything in return.
So naturally, you can’t help but wonder what the problem is? You see all those happy couples everywhere you look and it appears like you are the only one who can’t seem to find love.
Are you to blame? Are you destined to die alone? Are you not meant to be loved?
Well, let me tell you one thing — love will come to you. And it will happen when you least expect it. It will walk into your life when you give up on it completely and when you stop looking for it.
It will happen when you become really ready for it and when you stop racking your brain about it. Once you stop with the overthinking and once the desperation abandons you completely — thats when love will come.
One morning, when you accept that you’ll never find your special someone, true love will knock on your door and it will bring you everything you’ve expected and more. You just have to understand that nothing happens when we want it to happen.
The same is with love. Love has the perfect timing and if it still hasn’t come to you, it just means you are not prepared for it yet.
So, stop with the wait. Stop comparing yourself to others around you and stop obsessing about your relationship status.
Instead, work hard on becoming the best possible version of yourself. Give all that love you have hidden to no one else but yourself. For a change, be selfish. Focus on improving and spoiling yourself.
And, most importantly, love and respect yourself the way you expect a man to.
Instead of stressing yourself and thinking too far ahead in the future, just try going with the flow. Don’t analyze the past, don’t overthink the future and live in the present moment.
Just relax and let love find you, instead of searching for it. I guarantee you that one of these days, it will.
A teacher. A dreamer. A writer. A woman who’s been through all of the things you are going through. A woman who’s learned on her mistakes and whose advice you can trust. A woman who is trying to find her place under the stars. A woman just like you.