I thought when I finally meet the one, the timing would be perfect. I will be at my best. I will have my life sorted and figured out.
Of course, that wasn’t the case. I was so lost and wandering without any purpose. If I could describe myself at that point in two words, they would be ‘complete mess’.
I wasn’t looking for him. I wasn’t looking for love in general. I felt like I wasn’t ready for a relationship of any sort. But he came walking into my life unannounced.
He came and he stayed like he always belonged there. I guess soulmates don’t ask when is the right time—they come when they are supposed to.
What I learned about soulmates is that a soulmate is everything completely opposite of what I thought it would be.
The only thing I expected, or better said ‘wanted and hoped for’, was that instant connection. We had that. It was something I had never experienced before.
Something so strong was drawing me to him and I couldn’t explain it. But it didn’t go as smoothly as I thought.
Mostly because I was scared of love. So, I kept on running away from him. But he was determined. He wasn’t scared and he stayed.
And that’s all it took to move my walls—somebody who stays. Everything else was opposite to my beliefs.
I thought he will be someone just like me. That we’ll have similar interest. That we’ll look at the world with the same mindset, through the same eyes.
I was so off. We are complete opposites. But we fit perfectly together. We challenge each other. That’s why it’s never boring.
He has completely different interests than I do but we support each other. But there is nothing more perfect for me than to listen to him talk about his day, his plans and dreams—even though I don’t know what the hell he is talking about.
But he tells it with a spark in his eyes. He is so into it that it’s really easy to hear him out. The best thing is he likes listening to me, too, when I go on and on about my stuff.
Even the way he looks isn’t like I imagined. He is completely opposite to all the guys that I dated before.
But when you have a connection like this, looks are the last thing on your mind. Now, every time I see him, I melt because I always find something more to love about him inside and out.
I thought soulmates never fight. I thought they understand one another on a deeper level. This is where I found out that it’s not a fairytale— it’s real life. Things get messy.
We fight, and we argue and disagree. We have two very distinct personalities. In the end, we make up, because we always realize it’s not that important.
We always manage to meet each other halfway. We learn something new every time.
I thought finding a soulmate will resolve all my other problems or make them seem smaller at least.
Stupid, I know. But one can hope. Naturally, it didn’t make my problems go away but it’s easier to deal with them when you have someone who can at least hug you when you are having a bad day.
Happiness is also better when shared. I learned that I have to be happy on my own to be even happier with him.
I learned that I can be a better person, not because he forced me to change or to work harder or dream bigger but because he inspired me to do so.
I thought soulmates don’t have to work on their relationships. That everything goes smoothly. But I never worked harder on anything in my life.
We are learning from each other and about each other. We adapt. We grow together. It’s not easy but it’s worth it.
I thought that you have to be perfect to be with your soulmate. But all you have to be is you.
I found out that a soulmate is a person that makes you feel so comfortable that you are even more you when with them than on your own.
Everything I thought, I thought wrong. But it turned out so much better than I ever imagined.
