16 coisas para saber antes de sair com um viúvo

Dating a widower is one of the most challenging and, at the same time, rewarding things you’ll ever experience.

Will it all be moonlight and roses? No! Will this be the hardest test of your love? Yes. Will you pass it? It’s up to you.

You see, dating a widower comes with many bumps in the road, especially if you’re the first person he’s let into his life after his late spouse passed away.

Mas se o amor for verdadeiro, vocês os dois podem ultrapassar cada uma delas. Aqui está exatamente como o fazer!

7 dicas imperdíveis para namorar um viúvo

When you’re dating a man who lost his wife, you can forget almost every piece of conselhos sobre relações you’ve ever heard. Trust me: this situation is completely different and has an entirely new set of rules.

Eis algumas dicas de encontros profissionais para ter uma relação com um homem viúvo.

Estar consciente da situação

Before you start your new love with a widowed man, you have to be fully aware of what you’re getting yourself into.

Sei o que deve estar a pensar: todos nós tivemos ex, e qualquer parceiro com quem se envolva terá um passado.

After all, you’re both grown-ups, and you wouldn’t like being with someone who has absolutely no history in the dating world at all.

Bem, este é o teu erro número um: pensar que estar com um homem divorciado and a widower is the same thing. Trust me when I tell you that these two situations can’t be compared.

This might sound like a harsh truth, but the fact is that your new boyfriend probably would have never divorced his late wife. He didn’t decide to continue his life without her.

Their marriage didn’t end because they stopped loving each other, because someone found new love, or just because they chose it was better to part ways.

Therefore, you can’t expect this man’s emotions to shut off overnight.

He doesn’t hold grudges against her, he didn’t get tired of this woman, and he doesn’t resent her for anything.

I’m trying to say that she didn’t become a part of his past because of something either of them did – this was nothing more than fate.

Also, if the two of them have kids, he is the only one taking care of them now. This is especially important if we’re talking about smaller children.

The full responsibility for their upbringing is on the back of this man only. Among other things, it means that you’ll be living with them if you two plan to have a serious relationship.

So, you have to ask yourself if you’re ready for all of this. It’s okay to have second thoughts because getting involved with a widower is nothing like any of your previous relationships.

Remember one thing: it’s way more honest to back out timeously if you feel like this is too much for you than to torture both of you for years.

Deixar que ele sofra

I’ll be deadly honest with you: just because this man decided he’s ready to go out in search of new girls or made a dating profile on a dating site, it doesn’t mean that everything will be perfect for him from the start.

In fact, there will be good and bad days. I’m not referring to your relationship here only: I’m talking about his grieving process.

It doesn’t matter how long it has been since the love of his life passed away – there will still be moments when he’ll think of her and even miss her.

O que precisa de fazer é dar-lhe uma oportunidade de sofrer a perda do seu cônjuge.

No, this doesn’t mean that you should allow your entire relationship to be dedicated to her. After all, you need a fully devoted partner and not someone who will constantly cry over his deceased wife.

No entanto, por favor, tenham alguma compreensão para com este homem, especialmente em datas importantes.

Give him some space and time to visit his wife’s grave on the anniversary of her death or to see her relatives or friends on her birthday.

This isn’t a sign that he doesn’t love you. It’s not a sign that he hasn’t healed or that he lives in the past, either.

On the contrary, it is just a confirmation that you’re in a relationship with a human being – not a robot who can shut off his emotions whenever he feels like it. Trust me: this kind of behavior is completely normal.

Deve ficar contente por ele partilhar os seus sentimentos consigo. Este homem confia claramente em si o suficiente para lhe mostrar as suas vulnerabilidades.

On the other hand, if he sees that you’re bothered by his occasional grieving episodes, they won’t stop – he’ll just start hiding them from you. He’ll shut this part of himself off, and he’ll continue mourning in silence.

Consequentemente, isto criará um profundo fosso entre os dois, e isso é a última coisa que se quer conseguir.

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Ser gentil

Let’s be clear about one thing: it’s not your duty to go around reparar homens falidos. You’re in no way obligated to heal their wounds or to glue their shattered hearts back together.

This would be what I’d tell you if you got involved with a toxic manipulator who tries to justify his evil actions with his emotional unavailability. But this is not that kind of scenario.

Yes, this man is crushed into pieces. I won’t lie to you: a part of him is broken beyond repair.

No entanto, nada do que aconteceu foi culpa dele. Além disso, pensaste bem nas coisas e sabias muito bem o que te esperava.

He didn’t deceive you into this relationship. Therefore, you were familiar with his entire situation.

Então, escolheu conscientemente um homem que sobreviveu à morte de um cônjuge. Bem, quando fez isso, escolheu também a sua bagagem emocional.

Therefore, you have to go especially easy on this guy. He is not like any other man you’ve met before.

He has wounds you can’t even grasp, and his pain is beyond your reach. So please, be super gentle with him.

When you two fight, pick your words carefully. Don’t dare hit him below the belt and use his loss of a spouse as a weapon against him.

Mais importante ainda: lembre-se que este homem sofre de um trauma de abandono. Quer queira admitir ou não, uma das pessoas mais importantes da vida dele abandonou-o sem querer.

So it’s natural that he’s terrified of something similar happening again.

So, please, don’t threaten to break up with him when you’re in the middle of an argument unless you really plan on doing it.

Ser curioso

There will be moments when your partner will have the desire to talk about his late spouse. Don’t see this as an attack on you or your relationship – see it as something completely normal.

If you see that he is willing to share a few details about his marriage or his wife – let him. Not only that: show curiosity.

Mostre a este homem que quer conhecer todas as partes dele, incluindo as que dizem respeito à sua falecida esposa. Confie em mim: ele precisa do seu encorajamento.

He needs to see that you’re genuinely interested in his stories and don’t feel threatened every time he mentions her.

Once again, your entire relationship shouldn’t be an elegy to this woman. But if you want for you two to create a deep bond, be prepared to hear about her, as well.

Respeitar a memória da sua falecida esposa

Just because this man’s wife is dead doesn’t mean she died from his memory, as well. Whether you like it or not, he’ll always remember her one way or another.

It doesn’t mean that he still sees her as the love of his life. He might miss her as a friend, the mother of his children, and as a life partner.

Either way, it’s your job to respect the memory he has of her without trying to erase it.

You’re not here to take this woman’s place. As much as you try, you could never fill the enormous void she left behind.

No entanto, isso significa que pode criar novas memórias sem tocar nas deles.

It doesn’t mean that you can’t build a new relationship with this man without disturbing his past relationship.

Seja honesto quanto às suas expectativas

O que é que espera desta relação? Vê um futuro com este homem? Quais são os seus principais objectivos em relação ao seu romance?

First and foremost, you have to give yourself the answers to these questions. You have to be clear about what you want and how much you’re capable of taking.

Once you get to the bottom of your desires, talk to your boyfriend honestly about them. You’re a part of this relationship as well, and, naturally, you want to know where you stand.

Please, don’t be scared to speak your mind. You have to be clear about whether you’re wasting your life with him or if you’re getting closer to something you truly want.

This is especially significant if you’re not a widow or a divorcee and, more importantly, if he has kids and you don’t. Don’t get me wrong: these differences are not signs that you two can’t make it work.

No entanto, podem ser cruciais para o vosso futuro juntos.

You don’t have to tell him about them on the primeiro encontro. Nevertheless, as soon as your romance starts to get a little more serious, it’s time for both of you to put all the cards on the table.

O mais importante é que os dois estejam na mesma página.

It doesn’t mean that all of your expectations will be realized when you talk about them – but if you have similar goals and aspirations, you’re good to go.

Considera-te com sorte

I won’t lie to you: you’re in a tricky situation. You’ll probably go through some hard times you wouldn’t experience otherwise.

No entanto, apesar de tudo isto, a verdade é que se deve considerar sortudo.

Out of all women in the dating scene (including the ones he met in person or through online dating apps), you’re the first person who managed to break the shield around this man’s heart.

You’re the only one who was strong enough to really get to him and to make him understand that he amor encontrado. O único com quem se abriu sem medo de ser magoado.

You already know that this guy is extremely fragile after everything he’s been through. But not only that: he is also incredibly careful.

He can’t afford another loss. He doesn’t plan to jump from one relationship to another, exposing himself emotionally to every girl who comes along.

Em vez disso, só dará uma oportunidade a uma mulher em quem sabe que pode confiar.

Ele colocará o seu coração nas mãos de uma mulher que é suficientemente poderosa para o carregar e que tem o que é preciso para lidar com os seus demónios.

Então, ele escolheu-o para o trabalho. Viu a sua alma bondosa e confiou em si o suficiente para lhe dar a possibilidade de o magoar.

If that doesn’t make you special, I don’t know what does. Please, don’t take this privilege for granted.

Cherish the trust this man gave to you, and don’t waste it!

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5 Don’ts Of Dating A Widower

Here is a list of things you shouldn’t even think of doing while in a relationship with a widowed man. The things that will only chase him away from you and make you feel miserable.

Don’t compete with his late wife

The number one thing you shouldn’t think of doing, no matter what is to compete with your partner’s late wife. I’ll be honest with you: even if you try, you’ll lose.

This might sound harsh, but it’s only the truth. Why? The answer is pretty simple: because she is not among us anymore.

I’m sure you heard the famous Latin proverb: “De mortuis nil nisi bene; de vivis nil nisi verum.” It means, “Of the dead, (say) nothing but good; of the living (say) nothing but the truth.”

Well, the fact is that your boyfriend’s wife was just human. Even though you should, under no circumstances, think, let alone talk bad about her (after all, you have no right to do so), she had her set of flaws, just like the rest of us.

No entanto, acreditem em mim quando vos digo que he doesn’t remember her imperfeições.

No momento em que ela morreu, o seu namorado esqueceu tudo o que o irritava nela, e esqueceu cada uma das suas pequenas peculiaridades e as coisas que o deixavam louco.

Por mais maravilhoso que fosse o seu casamento, eles discutiam como qualquer outro casal. No entanto, no momento em que ela faleceu, ele esqueceu-se de cada um dos seus desentendimentos.

Em vez disso, ele só se lembra das coisas boas. Quando pensa nela, pensa em como ela era bonita, inteligente e espantosa.

Ele lembra-se de como ela o fazia sorrir ou de como cuidava dele. Lembra-se das pequenas coisas: de como ele estava feliz no dia do casamento e de como ela preparou o seu pequeno-almoço preferido.

E é assim que as coisas devem ser. Esta é a mulher que ele passou anos ao lado, e, naturalmente, ele pensa nela com carinho.

However, on the other hand, here you are – alive and well. There you are, with all of your imperfections and traits he doesn’t like.

So, if you start comparing yourself with this woman’s ghost, who do you think would win?

Don’t rush things

We’ve already discussed the importance of expressing your expectations timeously and having similar goals. Nevertheless, I didn’t point out how crucial it is for you to be patient with this man.

The worst thing you can do is rush things. I’m not talking about sealing the deal here only – I’m talking about seemingly little things every relationship consists of.

I won’t lie to you: this man will need more time than any other guy to give himself to you completely. Don’t expect him to commit to you overnight.

Most importantly: don’t expect him to let you in all the way just like that. He’s spent a lot of time grieving, and during that time, he’s built thick walls around his heart.

Por isso, vai demorar algum tempo a destruí-las. Em vez de o pressionar demasiado, faça-o passo a passo.

Trust me: if this man feels that you’re forcing him into something he is not ready for, he won’t run into your arms. Instead, he’ll get cold feet, and he’ll run away from you.

This is exceptionally important when it comes to his kids if he has any. Just because you think it’s time to meet them and become a part of their life, it doesn’t mean that you’re right.

You are not the one who makes these calls – he is. Maybe he thinks that his children are not prepared to meet his new partner just yet.

Or he isn’t sure about your relationship. After all, he can’t introduce them to every woman who enters his life without being certain that it’s the real deal.

De qualquer forma, dê-lhe a oportunidade de decidir por si próprio, sem interferir.

Don’t be too nosy

Remember how I told you to show curiosity when it comes to the topic of his late wife? Well, that doesn’t mean that you should be nosy about her and their marriage.

Embora existam pessoas que curar as suas almas by talking about their loved ones in heaven, there are also those who don’t enjoy talking about them at all.

Beware that this is an extra tricky situation. You’re this man’s new girlfriend, and he might feel uncomfortable talking to you about his late wife.

Maybe he feels like he’d be betraying her if he shared some information with you, or he just doesn’t find that subject appropriate.

Either way, it’s your job to respect his wishes instead of intruding.

I bet that you want to find out as much as possible about this woman. You’re eager to know who he loved so much and who was such a huge part of his life.

But I’m begging you: do not snoop around. You might not see it as being nosy but trust me – he will.

Don’t put effort into finding more about her behind his back. Don’t ask around about her life, and don’t put the pieces of the puzzle together in your head.

Deixem-na descansar em paz.

Don’t disregard your feelings

Until now, we’ve mostly been focused on your boyfriend’s feelings. I told you that you should be careful around him, advising you to be patient and understanding.

All of that is great, but it seems that you forget one thing: YOURSELF. You’re an equal partner in this romance – please never forget this.

Por isso, por favor, don’t spend all of your time being at his service. Naturally, you want attention, effort, and love as well.

Não há que ter vergonha disto. Tu amas este homem, e queres que ele também te amo.

Not to love you as a second-best, but to treat you as his girlfriend. Sometimes, you’ll be tired of this entire situation, and as harsh as this might sound, you won’t care about his late wife.

You respect her, but you just want a “normal” relationship and a chance to enjoy some time with your boyfriend without having to walk on eggshells around him. Well, that is right.

Yes, you signed up for this, but it doesn’t mean that your feelings should be disregarded in the process.

Don’t be intimidated by his late wife

The final ‘don’t’ of dating a widower is feeling threatened by his deceased spouse. I bet you know the feeling: it’s like whatever you do, it will never be enough, and you’ll never be like her.

Well, guess what: you shouldn’t try being her. You’re a woman with your own set of qualities, and you have a place in this man’s life, regardless of his late wife.

The worst thing that can happen is for this entire situation to ruin your self-esteem. This won’t only be catastrophic for your relationship but your entire being and life as well.

Podes deixar a relação, mas o teu confiança central will be permanently ruined. And you don’t need that.

You don’t need to impose some unnecessary inseguranças on yourself just because you’re threatened by some woman’s ghost – as crazy as this might sound.

I’m not saying to think poorly of this woman. I would rather advise you not to think about her at all, but I know that is utterly impossible.

Instead, I’ll just ask you not to idealize her. She wasn’t better than you, and there is no reason for you to think of yourself as not good enough only because she existed.

Confie em mim: o seu homem vai sentir isso. Ele vai sentir que tu don’t respect yourself enough, and he’ll start treating you with disrespect.

He’ll see that you don’t love yourself the way you should, and he’ll follow your lead.

If you show him that you don’t deserve much from him, he’ll give you breadcrumbs just because you settle for them – it’s as simple as that.

Believe me when I tell you that you’re worthy. Besides, despite what happened before, this guy is by your side – he chose you, and you chose him. And that’s what matters!

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4 possíveis horrores de namorar um viúvo (e como resolvê-los)

Como deve ter percebido até agora, estar com um homem viúvo não é só diversão e jogos.

Instead, you’re likely to run into numerous problems you never experienced in your previous relationships.

There are some most common issues most couples in these kinds of romances tend to face daily. I’m not here only to name them: I’m here to give you a solution to each one of them!

He hasn’t introduced you to his loved ones

Talvez o problema mais comum que as mulheres têm quando namoram um viúvo é o facto de o homem se recusar a apresentá-las aos seus entes queridos, especialmente aos filhos.

Let’s face it – in a regular relationship, this is a huge step ahead.

It is a sign that your relationship is serious and a guarantee that it’s going somewhere. You’re not some nut job who expects her boyfriend to involve her in his life right away.

No entanto, passado algum tempo, vê isto como um curso natural dos acontecimentos. Vocês os dois passaram por todas as fases do namoro, mas parece que ele a esconde de toda a gente à sua volta.

In some cases, that is exactly what he is doing: it’s not just that your widower hasn’t introduced you to his family and friends – they don’t even know that you exist.

You can be full of understanding as much as you want but come on, what woman wouldn’t be offended by this treatment? What woman wouldn’t see it as a bandeira vermelha?

The first thing that goes through your mind is that he isn’t namorar exclusivamente consigo. He’s probably seeing someone else besides you, and that’s why he is keeping you a secret.

Or is he ashamed of you? Maybe this man doesn’t see you as a good fit, or he thinks that he can do better, so he doesn’t want the people around him to look down on his choice.

Bem, isto é o que eu lhe ofereceria como uma explicação válida para os seus problemas, se se tratasse de qualquer outra relação.

Nevertheless, since you’re dating a widower, neither of the provided options are necessarily true.

Como é que se resolve o problema?

Lembras-te quando te disse para não apressares as coisas? Como te aconselhei a ser paciente com este homem?

Bem, agora é a altura certa para seguir o meu conselho mais do que nunca.

I’m not here to tell you to barge in on his family gatherings uninvited. I’m not giving you a guide on how to stalk and “accidentally” run into and introduce yourself to os seus melhores amigos.

Come on, let’s come back to solid ground. You’re not a stalker, and you shouldn’t appear where you clearly are not wanted.

O que importa aqui é que o facto de o seu namorado não querer que faça parte da vida dele pode ter vários significados.

It is possible that he just doesn’t feel ready for this huge step. Or you think your relationship is more serious than he does. Maybe he is still testing the waters to see where the flow takes you two.

On the other hand, this isn’t necessarily a sign that he doesn’t love you enough. Talvez ele esteja apenas a ser muito cuidadoso e se sinta mais confortável em dar passos de bebé.

Como é que se pode saber qual delas é verdadeira? Bem, antes de mais, se tem dúvidas sobre o comportamento dele, tem de falar abertamente com ele sobre isso.

It’s not enough to throw hints that you would like to meet his loved ones. Disregard your ego and express your wishes.

Tell him that you would like to be more included in his life and that you think it’s time he introduces you to those closest to him.

Talvez ele se tenha esquecido completamente do assunto e a situação se tenha alterado depois da vossa conversa.

If this doesn’t work out, tell him that you suspect that he is hiding you from the rest of the world. Don’t accuse him of doing so (unless you have firm evidence) – just talk to him frankly about the way you feel.

I promise you that he’ll give you a valid explanation.

Animosidade dos que o rodeiam

But what happens if the man you love makes you a part of his new life, but that doesn’t go as planned? What when he introduces you to those closest to him, they end up not liking you?

Não se preocupe porque este é um cenário comum nesta situação. Esta animosidade vem normalmente dos filhos, independentemente da idade.

Look, as painful as this is, you need to understand them, especially if we’re talking about little kids.

They see you as a threat, as an evil stepmom trying to replace their mother whose loss they haven’t processed, and as a woman trying to steal their dad’s attention from them.

But it’s not unusual for others in his surroundings to dislike you without ever actually putting any effort into getting to know you.

They might feel like they’re betraying the memory of this man’s late wife if they become friends with you.

Mesmo compreendendo a situação, ela tem de ser resolvida de uma forma ou de outra. Bem, esta é a forma mais saudável de o fazer.

Como é que se resolve o problema?

Todos os conselhos sobre encontros dizem-lhe a mesma coisa: não leve estes ataques a peito.

This man’s kids, friends, or even his in-laws don’t hate you because of your traits – they hate the fact that you’re the new woman.

A sua animosidade para consigo não tem nada a ver com o seu sentido de autoestima. It shouldn’t devalue you or ruin your self-esteem.

Secondly, please, let time do its magic. Don’t go around trying to make them get to know you or begging them to love you.

They all just need time to get used to the idea of your presence. After a while, they’ll all realize what an amazing person you are.

Finally, don’t intervene in your man’s relationship with these people and don’t even think of coming between him and his kids.

What matters is that he loves you, and at the end of the day, they have no duty to like you at all – they just have to respect you and the role you have in his life.

Deixe que seja ele a resolver este problema e estabeleça um prazo para que ele comece a trabalhar nesse sentido.

However, if you get the chance to talk to his kids, please make it clear that you don’t have the intention of replacing their mother.

Instead of trying to impose authority or demand respect, offer them your friendship – that will be more than enough.

Ser o seu psicólogo

Por vezes, quando um homem vê que pode vir ter consigo com todos os problemas que tem na cabeça, começa a tirar partido da sua boa capacidade de escuta.

He doesn’t do it deliberately – he just sees you as his shoulder to cry on and the only person who will never hang up the phone on him.

Well, in your case, this can become an issue. Before you know it, you’re no longer this man’s girlfriend.

Suddenly, you’ve become his comfort, a friend who helps him heal his wounds and who is only there to give him a hand while grieving.

Por muito bondosa que seja e por muito que queira que ele melhore, esta abordagem à vossa relação vai arruinar a sua saúde mental.

It will make you feel miserable and unloved. Besides, this shouldn’t be your primary role in this man’s life.

Como é que se resolve o problema?

I’m trying to tell you that dating a widower isn’t equal to being his psychotherapist. Yes, you should be supportive – nobody can argue against that.

Deve apoiá-lo e ajudá-lo a curar-se, mas nunca em detrimento das suas próprias emoções e, mais importante ainda, à custa da sua saúde mental.

If this man has a hard time processing his late wife’s death, nobody can judge him for it. But in that case, he is não está preparado para uma nova relação.

If this sounds familiar, it’s time to talk to him about this problem. He may change his attitude once he realizes his mistakes.

Either way, it’s pretty obvious that he still hasn’t processed his loss. Nobody’s asking him to forget that his wife ever existed, but the trouble is that he hasn’t healed.

Nesse caso, o melhor seria pedir conselho a um profissional. Peça-lhe para fazer terapia.

Se isto for demasiado para si, acabar com ele and tell him to try and contact you when he is better. Don’t worry.

This is not a selfish thing to do. You’re just giving him time to recover, so there is no place for feelings of guilt.

If you’re single and still interested in him after he’s healed, you can always rekindle your romance. If not, you two were never almas gémeas.

Even in that case, you’ll forever remain the person who gave him the push he needed towards recovery.

Vocês os dois têm expectativas diferentes

Let’s picture a situation: O teu namorado viúvo já tem filhos. Teve um casamento e, por conseguinte, deixou essa experiência pessoal para trás.

So, now, he wants to enjoy his widowhood, as brutal this might sound. His biological clock isn’t ticking, and he doesn’t see himself getting married again anytime soon.

Maybe he doesn’t plan on having any more children. Or he doesn’t want his young kids to have a stepmom and doesn’t want to think about marriage until they’re all grown up.

On the other hand, unlike him, you’re not a young widow or a divorcee.

You can’t wait to have a family. You see yourself as a wife and a mother and don’t plan to waste years with someone who has a completely different life perspective.

Como é que se resolve o problema?

Of course, this is just one possible scenario of every widower and widow dating, and your relationship doesn’t have to go in this direction at all.

But I’m sure that you get my point and understand why you need to come clean about your expectations.

Se for esse o caso, pode encontrar um meio-termo ou separar-se. Confie em mim: permanecer nesta relação e esperar que a outra pessoa mude de atitude será completamente em vão.

It will lead you both to resentment, and you’ll just waste your precious time.

Abel Keogh

Abel Keogh é um especialista em encontros com viúvas. Fala por experiência própria, nos seus livros, Namorar um viúvo, viver com um viúvo e casar com um viúvo, dá dicas de encontros para quem sobreviveu à perda de um cônjuge mas quer voltar a namorar.

Quando é que é a altura certa para seguir em frente? Como é que se faz isso? É melhor criar um perfil num site de encontros especializado para jovens viúvos e viúvas ou sair e conhecer novas pessoas?

Como é que se apresenta o novo parceiro à família e aos amigos? Como é que se preparam os filhos pequenos para uma nova mulher nas suas vidas?

Estas e outras perguntas são respondidas nestes livros.

Apesar de se destinar principalmente aos viúvos, este livro também pode ajudar as jovens viúvas que estão de luto pela perda do seu falecido marido.

Afinal de contas, as mulheres lidam com os mesmos problemas depois de perderem um cônjuge, incluindo encontros com viúvas, sentimentos de culpa enquanto reconstroem a sua nova vida, problemas na procura de uma relação saudável e bandeiras vermelhas a evitar na cena dos encontros.

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Em conclusão:

I’ll be honest with you here: dating a widower is not easy. Besides all the issues every romantic relationship brings along, this one offers a range of other possible difficulties.

Transformar este romance numa relação saudável exigirá ainda mais paciência, tempo, esforço, devoção e, acima de tudo, amor do que o habitual.

People say that only a widowed woman and a widower can make it work. But don’t let this discourage you if you don’t fit the description because I promise you that you too can have a successful relationship.

All you have to do is follow my lead, and everything will be as perfect as possible. The only question is: “Do you think that you and your partner have what it takes to succeed?”