Porque é que os homens gostam que lhes chamem papá (+ o que fazer e o que não fazer)
If you’re even the most casual user of social media, you’ve seen someone call a sexy male celebrity or authority figure daddy. (Maybe you’ve even used it yourself.)
Nas conversas em linha, daddy é sempre utilizado para exprimir atração sexual para um homem que pareça masculino e dominante de alguma forma.
A cultura pop tornou esta utilização da palavra papá uma parte do conhecimento geral, mas e na vida real? Porque é que os homens gostam que lhes chamem papá?
Vida real is a little more complicated. Even so, unless it’s clearly used as a joke, calling your homem papá quase sempre tem um conotação sexual.
If you’re reading this, there might be a guy in your life you’d like to call daddy or a guy who’s asked you to do so.
Porque é que os homens gostam que lhes chamem papá?
Usually, it’s one (or all) of the following reasons: he is a pessoa dominante, considera que aprofunda a intimidade between the two of you, and simply because it’s hot.
“Is it weird?” I hear you ask. Maybe for some people, it is. For others, it’s not much different than being called “baby.”
No one is thinking about babies when using this word in a romantic context, and most people probably don’t imply that daddy means a father figure when they use it.
Let’s see if we can find some of the reasons.
1. DOMINÂNCIA
Pode estar a envolver-se numa Estilo de vida BDSM ou apenas se dedicar a determinados dobras. De qualquer modo, nestas interacções, o parceiro dominante assume o papel de líder, e o parceiro submisso segue.
It’s important to note that these practices should always benefit everyone involved. Há quem diga que é uma pessoa sexualmente dominante, mas, na realidade, é simplesmente controladora.
There are some red flags that he’s not really a dom but actually abusive. If he disregards what you agreed upon or ignores your feelings and limits, you might want to reconsider.
Tenha sempre em mente: tudo o que envolve BDSM needs to obey the “safe, sane, and consensual” principle. If your guy respects that, read on.
Dá-lhe uma sensação de poder
When you call him daddy, he feels that you’re relinquishing control and putting him in a position of power over you. As if you said, “You can do anything you want to me,” and it’s up to him to decide what, when, and how.
O seu vida sexual isn’t indicative of other parts of your life, especially your roles in the relationship. Porque é que os homens gostam que lhes chamem papá? Porque submeter-se ao seu papá dominador é uma forma de explorar o seu lado vulnerável. Pode dar-vos a ambos concentração e alívio das obrigações da vida quotidiana.
Ele gosta de cuidar de si
There’s much more to being dominant than just estar no controlo. A good dominant always has the submissive’s well-being in mind. His main satisfaction lies in giving you what you need.
Taking care of you gives him a sense of purpose and satisfaction. If both of you are on the same page, it’s his dominance that you need. (Perhaps it’s you who likes the word daddy, and he’s willing to indulge you?)
Gosta de assumir responsabilidades
Ser o parceiro dominante numa BDSM relationship is a huge responsibility. You’re placing your trust in him, and he’s in charge of anticipating and fulfilling your needs.
It’s no surprise that among the people interested in the lifestyle, there are more submissives. Being a good dom is not an easy task. Only people who are stable and strong enough to handle the responsibility can do it right.
2. INTIMIDADE
Nada vos aproxima mais e ajuda criar confiança como experiências partilhadas. Quando estas experiências incluem emoções intensas, como no caso do sexo aventureiro, podem ser um verdadeiro impulso para a intimidade.
Há vários aspectos que explicam por que razão ser chamado papá pode aproximar-vos. Se se abrir e mostrar a vulnerabilidade by placing your trust in him, he’ll feel closer to you in return.
If he knows you count on him to satisfy you emotionally and sexually, he’ll feel even more motivated to do it.
Fá-lo sentir-se admirado
Quando uma mulher chama papá a um homem, ele sente que ela aprecia-o. It’s a little kinky, a little filled with connotations, but most of all, it’s flattering. A daddy is someone admirável, atraente e respeitável.
Why do guys like being called daddy? The opposite of daddy, in this case, would be if you called him “boy.” Someone who’s immature, flighty, and isn’t serious.
Ser chamado de papá dá-lhe a certeza de que o valoriza e admira, tanto como pessoa como pelas suas proezas sexuais.
He’s driven by his hero instinct
Who could be a bigger hero than a dad? We mentioned that daddy isn’t really connected to the concept of fatherhood. Still, we can’t completely ignore the origin of the word.
Chamar-lhe papá desperta o seu instinto de herói para proteger, fornecer e cuidar e, em troca, receber o seu respeito e apreço.
(One thing to note, calling a man daddy in this sense has nothing to do with the harmful idea of “problemas com o papá.” That term is often used to place the blame on women for some previous trauma and shame them.)
Ele gosta de sentir a sua confiança
O BDSM saudável requer uma grande dose de confiança. Quando lhe dá essa confiança, concedendo-lhe o poder de tomar decisões por si, a intimidade entre os dois aprofunda-se.
Quando lhe chamas papá, dás a entender que confiar nele para cuidado de si e dar-vos o que precisais. Confiamos nele para saber quando nos deve pressionar e quando nos deve deixar relaxar.
Por vezes, ser dominante é uma luta. It’s not always easy to take an assertive role and control everything. O facto de confiar nele para tomar conta de si é muito fortalecedor.
3. SEXUALIDADE
Sex is best when it’s explored with a partner you can openly communicate with. If you feel safe and secure in your partner to explore kinks and fetiches, you won’t need a sex therapist.
Os seus gostos podem mudar e evoluir. O que gostou ontem, pode não gostar amanhã. O mesmo se aplica ao seu parceiro. Poderá sentir-se relutante em experimentar algo que o seu parceiro sugere ou em expressar alguns dos seus próprios desejos.
This is why it’s crucial to estabelecer uma comunicação aberta com a outra pessoa no que diz respeito à vossa vida sexual.
Some things might make you uncomfortable, and some things you might like to try. So if you’ve discussed it and both are on board with you calling him daddy, it can be a lot of fun.
Isso fá-lo mexer-se
Sex can awaken a lot of feelings in a person, uncovering issues and truths we otherwise keep hidden. But sometimes, it’s just sex.
So maybe he likes you to call him daddy just because it’s a little maroto, and he thinks it’s hot.
No deep explanations and reasons. It’s simply on a lista de excitações. Ser chamado de papá pode fazer com que um homem se sinta excitado, sem que isso seja uma questão de dominação ou de perversão.
He feels like he’s seducing you
Some people use the word daddy only as a term of endearment to signify that tonight he’s the boss in bed. Others like to engage in role-play of an unequal dinâmica de potência.
Por exemplo, um homem mais velho a seduzir uma mulher mais nova or a boss with a subordinate. As long as there isn’t real power inequality and everyone is capable of deciding, what you do in private doesn’t concern anyone else.
Sente-se mais experiente
We use the term “baby” much more commonly. Usually, we call our significant other “baby” to show we want to take care of them. In the same way, when you call your boyfriend or husband daddy, you’re signaling that you want to be taken care of.
O termo papá implica maturidade, and with, it experience and skill. He can feel more experienced than he is or more experienced than you, and it’s definitely an aumento do ego.
The DOS and DON’TS Of Calling A Guy Daddy
Maybe you’ve been calling your boyfriend daddy so often that it’s become second nature. Maybe you save it only for intimate moments. Maybe you can’t say it without giggling.
Em todo o caso, aqui ficam algumas dicas sobre como manter a beleza e a sensualidade e evitar situações embaraçosas.
DO
- Utilize-o para namoriscar
Utilizar a sua linguagem corporal e o tom da sua voz, pode torná-la divertida ou carregada. Quer se trate de um namorico ligeiro ou de um convite para ir mais longe, utilizar um nome de estimação vai certamente provocar uma grande emoção. (Certifique-se apenas de que ele gosta antes de lhe chamar papá pela primeira vez).
- Utilizá-lo num texto
It’s a surefire way to make him think of you while away. Um texto picante para que ele saiba que a sua menina está ansiosa por o ver, talvez até com vontade de se excitar. Chame papá ao seu parceiro numa texto de sedução (you can throw in a pic too), and he’ll be feeling anticipation until he meets up with you.
- Sussurra-lhe ao ouvido
Murmuring anything in a soft sensual voice into his ear can drive him crazy. Pair this with something that turns him on anyway, and it’s on. Increase his (and your) sexual appetite by being a little seductive and mysterious.
- Utilize-o quando as coisas começarem a aquecer
Calling your man daddy in a sexual way could be a shortcut to making him go wild. If he’s into it, it’s an immediate on-switch for raising arousal. You’re also giving him a signal that you want to engage in a specific power dynamic, so indirectly, you’re giving him the go-ahead for it.
- Provoca-o com isso
To keep things interesting or to give him a hint that you’d like to play, sometimes a simple word can work wonders. Alguns casais utilizam-no de uma forma divertida para manter as coisas alegres. É preciso algum tempo para aprender como o provocar, but you’ll get the know-how with practice and communication.
DON’T
- Utilizá-lo em público
Most people are aware of the undertones of a guy being called daddy by a woman. Unless it’s obviously a joke, doing it in public might be a little distasteful, embarrassing, or even creepy. Besides, it’s more intimate to keep it private, something that’s just for the two of you.
- Utilizá-lo à frente de outras pessoas
This is related to the previous point. Always be aware that when it comes to any sexual situation, everyone involved should agree to it. If calling him daddy is a sex thing, don’t do it in front of people who haven’t consented to be a part of your play!
Por outro lado, se um pouco de exibicionismo excita-oMas há sítios onde isso pode ser feito. (Mas façam a vossa própria pesquisa).
- Use it when you’re not in the mood
Sometimes he wants to hear you say it, but you don’t feel like it. Don’t ever feel like you have to do it. Like with anything sexual, it’s essential that everyone is willing. Your man should respect your wishes and not insist on anything you don’t want to do.
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- Use-a se ele lhe pedir para não o fazer
On the flip side, if he doesn’t like it, don’t use it. Maybe he simply isn’t into it, and many guys aren’t. Maybe he liked it but doesn’t anymore.
Maybe he just doesn’t want it right now. Whichever the case, I’m sure that you can find another alcunha sexy together. (But skip “bae” because it’s over by now. Check Twitter for trending slang terms.)
- Use it when you’re fighting
In this situation, calling him daddy can be manipulative. It could make him feel like you’re not taking his feelings seriously. Or that you’re using your sexuality to win an argument. Regardless, it’s better to save it for good times.
No encerramento
Calling your man daddy has become commonplace in recent times. It can be flirty or sexy, sometimes even funny. In truth, it’s usually the woman who initiates it, but why do guys like being called daddy?
A principal razão é que fá-lo sentir-se dominante, e ele gosta disso. Cuidar de si dá-lhe um sentimento de poder e responsabilidade.
Também aumenta a intimidade entre vós. Ser chamado papá faz com que ele se sinta admirado e respeitado. Quando coloca o seu confiança nele, desperta o seu instinto de herói.
Sexualmente, ser chamado de papá é uma ligar. Ele sente-se como um experiente sedutor que vos possa ensinar os seus caminhos (se é que me entendem).
If you want to call your man daddy, closely consider how and when it’s best to do it. In certain situations, you should skip it, and some other times, it can really apimentar as coisas.
