¿Por qué a los chicos les gusta que les llamen papá? (+ Qué hacer y qué no hacer)
If you’re even the most casual user of social media, you’ve seen someone call a sexy male celebrity or authority figure daddy. (Maybe you’ve even used it yourself.)
En las conversaciones en línea, papá siempre se utiliza para expresar atracción sexual para un hombre que parece masculino y dominante de alguna manera.
La cultura pop ha generalizado el uso de la palabra papá, pero ¿qué ocurre en la vida real? ¿Por qué a los hombres les gusta que les llamen papi?
La vida real is a little more complicated. Even so, unless it’s clearly used as a joke, calling your hombre papá casi siempre tiene un connotación sexual.
If you’re reading this, there might be a guy in your life you’d like to call daddy or a guy who’s asked you to do so.
¿Por qué a los chicos les gusta que les llamen papá?
Usually, it’s one (or all) of the following reasons: he is a persona dominantecree que profundiza la intimidad between the two of you, and simply because it’s hot.
“Is it weird?” I hear you ask. Maybe for some people, it is. For others, it’s not much different than being called “baby.”
No one is thinking about babies when using this word in a romantic context, and most people probably don’t imply that daddy means a father figure when they use it.
Let’s see if we can find some of the reasons.
1. DOMINANCIA
Usted puede estar participando en un completo Estilo de vida BDSM o que sólo se interesan por ciertos torceduras. En cualquier caso, en tales interacciones, el socio dominante asume el liderazgo, y el pareja sumisa sigue.
It’s important to note that these practices should always benefit everyone involved. Hay quienes afirman ser una persona sexualmente dominante, pero en realidad son simplemente controladores.
There are some red flags that he’s not really a dom but actually abusive. If he disregards what you agreed upon or ignores your feelings and limits, you might want to reconsider.
Tenga siempre presente que todo lo que implique BDSM needs to obey the “safe, sane, and consensual” principle. If your guy respects that, read on.
Le da una sensación de poder
When you call him daddy, he feels that you’re relinquishing control and putting him in a position of power over you. As if you said, “You can do anything you want to me,” and it’s up to him to decide what, when, and how.
Su vida sexual isn’t indicative of other parts of your life, especially your roles in the relationship. ¿Por qué a los hombres les gusta que les llamen papá? Porque someterse a su papá dom es una forma de explorar su lado vulnerable. Puede daros a ambos concentración y alivio de las obligaciones de la vida diaria.
Le gusta cuidarte
There’s much more to being dominant than just tener el control. A good dominant always has the submissive’s well-being in mind. His main satisfaction lies in giving you what you need.
Taking care of you gives him a sense of purpose and satisfaction. If both of you are on the same page, it’s his dominance that you need. (Perhaps it’s you who likes the word daddy, and he’s willing to indulge you?)
Le gusta la responsabilidad
Ser la pareja dominante en una BDSM relationship is a huge responsibility. You’re placing your trust in him, and he’s in charge of anticipating and fulfilling your needs.
It’s no surprise that among the people interested in the lifestyle, there are more submissives. Being a good dom is not an easy task. Only people who are stable and strong enough to handle the responsibility can do it right.
2. INTIMIDAD
Nada os une más y os ayuda crear confianza como las experiencias compartidas. Cuando estas experiencias incluyen emociones exacerbadas, como en el caso del sexo aventurero, puede ser un verdadero empujón hacia la intimidad.
Hay varios aspectos por los que ser llamado papá puede acercaros más. Si te abres y mostrar vulnerabilidad by placing your trust in him, he’ll feel closer to you in return.
If he knows you count on him to satisfy you emotionally and sexually, he’ll feel even more motivated to do it.
Le hace sentirse admirado
Cuando una mujer llama papá a un hombre, él siente que ella lo aprecia. It’s a little kinky, a little filled with connotations, but most of all, it’s flattering. A daddy is someone admirable, atractivo y respetable.
Why do guys like being called daddy? The opposite of daddy, in this case, would be if you called him “boy.” Someone who’s immature, flighty, and isn’t serious.
Que le llames papá le da la seguridad de que le valoras y admiras, tanto como persona como por sus proezas sexuales.
He’s driven by his hero instinct
Who could be a bigger hero than a dad? We mentioned that daddy isn’t really connected to the concept of fatherhood. Still, we can’t completely ignore the origin of the word.
Llamarle papá despierta su instinto de héroe para proteger, proveer y cuidar, y a cambio, recibir tu respeto y aprecio.
(One thing to note, calling a man daddy in this sense has nothing to do with the harmful idea of “problemas con papá.” That term is often used to place the blame on women for some previous trauma and shame them.)
Le gusta sentir tu confianza
Un BDSM sano requiere mucha confianza. Cuando le das esa confianza otorgándole el poder de tomar decisiones por ti, la intimidad entre los dos se profundiza.
Cuando le llamas papá, le indicas que confiar en él para cuídate de ti y darte lo que necesitas. Confías en él para saber cuándo presionarte y cuándo dejarte relajar.
A veces, ser dominante es una lucha. It’s not always easy to take an assertive role and control everything. El hecho de que confíes en él para que cuide de ti te da mucho poder.
3. SEXUALIDAD
Sex is best when it’s explored with a partner you can openly communicate with. If you feel safe and secure in your partner to explore kinks and fetiches, you won’t need a sex therapist.
Tus gustos pueden cambiar y evolucionar. Lo que te gustaba ayer, puede que no te guste mañana. Lo mismo ocurre con tu pareja. Puede que se muestre reacio a probar algo que le sugiera su pareja o a expresar algunos de sus propios deseos.
This is why it’s crucial to establecer una comunicación abierta con la otra persona en lo que se refiere a tu vida sexual.
Some things might make you uncomfortable, and some things you might like to try. So if you’ve discussed it and both are on board with you calling him daddy, it can be a lot of fun.
Lo pone en marcha
Sex can awaken a lot of feelings in a person, uncovering issues and truths we otherwise keep hidden. But sometimes, it’s just sex.
So maybe he likes you to call him daddy just because it’s a little travieso, and he thinks it’s hot.
No deep explanations and reasons. It’s simply on la lista de encendidos. Que te llamen papi puede hacer que un hombre se sienta excitado, sin que sea algo de dominación o una perversión.
He feels like he’s seducing you
Some people use the word daddy only as a term of endearment to signify that tonight he’s the boss in bed. Others like to engage in role-play of an unequal dinámica de potencia.
Por ejemplo, un hombre mayor seduciendo a una mujer más joven or a boss with a subordinate. As long as there isn’t real power inequality and everyone is capable of deciding, what you do in private doesn’t concern anyone else.
Se siente más experimentado
We use the term “baby” much more commonly. Usually, we call our significant other “baby” to show we want to take care of them. In the same way, when you call your boyfriend or husband daddy, you’re signaling that you want to be taken care of.
El término papá implica vencimiento, and with, it experience and skill. He can feel more experienced than he is or more experienced than you, and it’s definitely an aumento de ego.
The DOS and DON’TS Of Calling A Guy Daddy
Maybe you’ve been calling your boyfriend daddy so often that it’s become second nature. Maybe you save it only for intimate moments. Maybe you can’t say it without giggling.
En cualquier caso, aquí tienes algunos consejos para mantenerte guapo y sexy y evitar situaciones incómodas.
DO
- Úsalo para ligar
Utilizar el lenguaje corporal y el tono de tu voz, puedes hacerlo juguetón o cargado. Ya sea un flirteo desenfadado o una invitación a ir más allá, utilizar un apodo cariñoso seguro que le hace vibrar de emoción. (Eso sí, asegúrate de que le gusta antes de llamarle papá por primera vez).
- Utilícelo en un texto
It’s a surefire way to make him think of you while away. Un texto tórrido para hacerle saber que su niña está deseando verle, incluso puede que tenga ganas de ponerse pervertida. Llame papá a su pareja en un texto coqueto (you can throw in a pic too), and he’ll be feeling anticipation until he meets up with you.
- Susúrrale al oído
Murmuring anything in a soft sensual voice into his ear can drive him crazy. Pair this with something that turns him on anyway, and it’s on. Increase his (and your) sexual appetite by being a little seductive and mysterious.
- Úsalo cuando las cosas empiecen a ponerse calientes
Calling your man daddy in a sexual way could be a shortcut to making him go wild. If he’s into it, it’s an immediate on-switch for raising arousal. You’re also giving him a signal that you want to engage in a specific power dynamic, so indirectly, you’re giving him the go-ahead for it.
- Bromea con él
To keep things interesting or to give him a hint that you’d like to play, sometimes a simple word can work wonders. Algunas parejas lo utilizan de forma divertida para mantener el espíritu lúdico. Lleva algún tiempo aprender cómo provocarle, but you’ll get the know-how with practice and communication.
DON’T
- Úselo en público
Most people are aware of the undertones of a guy being called daddy by a woman. Unless it’s obviously a joke, doing it in public might be a little distasteful, embarrassing, or even creepy. Besides, it’s more intimate to keep it private, something that’s just for the two of you.
- Úsalo delante de otras personas
This is related to the previous point. Always be aware that when it comes to any sexual situation, everyone involved should agree to it. If calling him daddy is a sex thing, don’t do it in front of people who haven’t consented to be a part of your play!
Por otra parte, si un poco de exhibicionismo te excitaHay lugares donde se puede hacer. (Pero investiga por tu cuenta, ejem).
- Use it when you’re not in the mood
Sometimes he wants to hear you say it, but you don’t feel like it. Don’t ever feel like you have to do it. Like with anything sexual, it’s essential that everyone is willing. Your man should respect your wishes and not insist on anything you don’t want to do.
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- Úsalo si te pide que no lo hagas
On the flip side, if he doesn’t like it, don’t use it. Maybe he simply isn’t into it, and many guys aren’t. Maybe he liked it but doesn’t anymore.
Maybe he just doesn’t want it right now. Whichever the case, I’m sure that you can find another apodo sexy together. (But skip “bae” because it’s over by now. Check Twitter for trending slang terms.)
- Use it when you’re fighting
In this situation, calling him daddy can be manipulative. It could make him feel like you’re not taking his feelings seriously. Or that you’re using your sexuality to win an argument. Regardless, it’s better to save it for good times.
Para terminar
Calling your man daddy has become commonplace in recent times. It can be flirty or sexy, sometimes even funny. In truth, it’s usually the woman who initiates it, but why do guys like being called daddy?
La razón principal es que le hace sentirse dominante, y a él le gusta. Cuidar de ti le da un sentimiento de poder y responsabilidad.
También aumenta la intimidad entre vosotros. Que le llamen papá le hace sentirse admirado y respetado. Cuando colocas tu confíe en en él, despiertas su instinto de héroe.
Sexualmente, ser llamado papá es una encender. Se siente como un experimentado seductor que puede enseñarte sus caminos (si me entiendes).
If you want to call your man daddy, closely consider how and when it’s best to do it. In certain situations, you should skip it, and some other times, it can really darle sabor a las cosas.
