15 sinais muito claros de que está a ser preparado para falhar

Lately, do you feel that your work environment has become toxic and that someone is trying to set you up? Does someone want to see you gone from your company, and they’re trying hard to make you fail?

Well, I’m going to help you figure out whether that is really true and who that person may be. What you need to expose them are these clear signs you are being set up to fail at work.

And don’t worry, even if it’s really true, even if someone wants to see you fired, Só precisa de manter a sua auto-confiança elevada e não permitir que eles tenham controlo sobre si.

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Pay attention to these signs you are being set up, and if you notice most of them, confront the person who is trying to set you up and show them they can’t play with you.

1. You suddenly feel uncomfortable when they’re around

Tinha uma boa relação com eles, mas agora sente-se nervoso e desconfortável sempre que eles se aproximam de si? Cada vez que fazem contacto visual consigo, fica assustado?

Well, your fear and nervousness aren’t definitely for nothing. Provavelmente sente que eles estão a tramar alguma coisa e a sua voz interior diz-lhe que não se deve aproximar deles.

2. O comportamento deles está a prejudicar a sua autoestima

When someone constantly tries to put you down or makes you feel unappreciated and disrespected, it’s normal for it to affect your self-confidence. However, you shouldn’t allow that because you know it’s not up to you.

You know you aren’t a bad worker because you know how hard you try, and you also don’t have síndrome de preparação para o fracasso. Don’t ever allow anyone to make you feel like you are less than. Always be aware of your worth and everything you are.

3. Mudanças constantes na cultura da empresa

If your boss or some of the higher-ups are constantly changing the company culture rules, your doubts are probably true… They’re trying to set you up, and they’re changing those rules just to confuse you or even so they can fire you easier.

É claro que deve tentar ajustar-se e adaptar-se a estas mudanças e seguir as novas regras.

No entanto, se em algum momento tudo isto se tornar demasiado pesado para si, deve manifestar o seu descontentamento e até abandonar o seu emprego se começar a afetar a sua saúde mental.

4. Começam a passar menos tempo consigo

They can’t be conspiring against you and, at the same time, hang out with you as if nothing is happening. Of course, some people are great actors, but no one can act forever.

They’ll start spending less and less time with you because they’ll be afraid that you might figure out their real intentions.

5. Ou começam a controlar-nos

If you notice that someone is trying to micromanage you all of a sudden, even if it’s your boss or another higher-up, it could be because they are trying to sabotage you.

They’re supervising you closely either because they’re trying to find a mistake in your work or because they’re trying to figure out a way they can set you up. Either way, you shouldn’t allow them to.

Deve haver limites em tudo, mesmo na relação entre um chefe e os seus empregados.

6. Anda constantemente a pisar ovos ao pé deles

Because of their toxic behavior and constant whims, you aren’t sure how you should behave around them anymore. You don’t want to do something wrong that might cost you your job, and I completely get you.

However, what is the point in going to work every morning to a place where you don’t feel comfortable? Do you really think you’ll be able to endure it for too long?

If you feel like you need to be careful around them, then you’re probably aware that they’re plotting against you. The rest is up to you, whether you’ll allow them to set you up or you’ll pull yourself up and put an end to their lame games.

7. Estão a ser espalhados rumores sobre possíveis despedimentos

Ouviu rumores sobre a diminuição da rendibilidade da empresa e sobre a possibilidade de esta provocar alguns despedimentos? No entanto, quando pergunta a outros colegas sobre o assunto, ninguém ouviu falar de possíveis despedimentos.

It’s possible that those rumors are only being told to you because you’re being set up. Agora, tem de parar de as espalhar e continuar a fazer o seu trabalho sem falhas, tal como fez até aqui.

8. You’re being assigned work that you aren’t qualified for

If they’re trying to overwork you or give you assignments that are beyond your qualifications, it’s a clear sign you are being set up.

They want to give you those assignments or that workload because they’re waiting for you to make a mistake that will cost you losing your job. You need to talk to them or some of the other higher-ups and explain that you can’t keep doing those tasks.

Otherwise, you’ll get complete job burnout, or it’ll destroy your mental health.

9. Começa a ter más avaliações de desempenho

Todas as suas avaliações de desempenho foram boas até agora? O seu chefe e os seus superiores hierárquicos sempre o elogiaram antes?

Now, that’s changed, too, and you got a bad performance review all of a sudden. O seu chefe deu-lhe um feedback negativo sobre o seu trabalho e você sabe o quanto trabalha e sabe que os seus resultados são sempre positivos.

They may even say that your work didn’t bring them any profit lately, which would be a clear sign that they’re preparing to fire you. Don’t let their feedback affect your self-confidence. Even if they do fire you, think of it as their loss and believe that you’ll find a new job where people will appreciate your contribution.

10. Os seus caprichos constantes são simplesmente intoleráveis

Do you feel like they’re trying to drive you completely nuts with their whims and mood changes? Is it impossible to even assume what their next step will be, and you feel like you can’t deal with it anymore?

You’re probably right, and they probably want to drive you mad. Deve manter-se afastado deles tanto quanto possível. E se ele continuar com os seus caprichos e começar a sentir-se ansioso por causa disso, tem de falar com ele sobre o assunto.

If you can’t have healthy communication with them, then you’re working in a toxic environment, and you shouldn’t stay there for too long. Of course, that is if you want to keep your sanity.

11. Eles ultrapassaram todos os seus limites há muito tempo

Como já disse, todas as relações precisam de limites se quisermos mantê-las saudáveis. Até a relação entre si e o seu chefe.

If that person has crossed all of the boundaries that you have clearly set up, it’s also a red flag they’re sabotaging you. If they don’t respect your boundaries, they don’t even respect or love you in the first place, and they definitely don’t have a good opinion of you.

If you allow them to continue behaving like that, to continue disrespecting your boundaries, they’ll destroy your self-esteem completely. And they’ll never stop with their toxic behavior.

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12. A sua comunicação com outros colegas de trabalho está a ser bloqueada

Have you noticed they’re also trying to sabotage your relationships with your colleagues? Does it feel like they’ve been forbidden from working or hanging out with you?

It’s probably because they don’t want others to help you. Remember, they’re trying to sabotage you in every possible way, and that’s why they want to block your communication with your colleagues.

Don’t blame your co-workers or yourself because of that. They’re probably forced to behave like that, and it’s really not up to you – you know who’s really to blame.

13. You’re sure that someone has been going through your private stuff

Já reparou que alguém esteve no seu escritório? Ou talvez estivessem a bisbilhotar o seu telemóvel, computador ou redes sociais?

If you have, it’s also a big sign they’re trying to set you up for something. Be careful where you leave your private things and keep your office locked when you aren’t there – if that is possible, of course.

14. You’re being accused of mistakes you didn’t make

It doesn’t matter whether you made a mistake or if it was a co-worker who was working with you on a specific project, if someone wants to sabotage you, they’ll always blame you for those mistakes.

It’s not easy to deal with their constant blaming, but understand that it’s all part of their plan. Try to prove that it’s not your mistake and keep doing your work like you have been doing it.

15. O seu instinto está simplesmente a dizer-lhe isso

Even though most people don’t quite trust their gut, in most cases, it turns out to be true. That’s why if o seu instinto is telling you that you shouldn’t trust a co-worker or your boss even because they’re trying to sabotage you in a way, you should be careful around that person.

You’re probably trying to silence your inner feelings because maybe you have a good interpersonal relationship with that person, but don’t let it blind you. Follow the signs, and if you recognize them, it’s proof your gut feeling is right after all.

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Como saber se o seu chefe o está a sabotar?

If you try really hard to prove your worth to your boss, but they still choose to remain blind to those attempts, it’s obvious that they’re trying to sabotage you. Also, if they’re always focused on finding mistakes in your work and never even think about giving you credit for your hard work, it’s a huge red flag.

Outro sinal de que o seu chefe o está a sabotar é o facto de o sobrecarregar de trabalho. They do it because they think you won’t succeed in doing all the work they give you.

And one of the most obvious signs they’re sabotaging you is if they never invite you to some important meeting or never give you the praise or the credit you deserve for your contribution to their company.

If you’ve indeed noticed that your boss is sabotaging you, you should think about quitting your job because a toxic work environment can leave long-term consequences on your mental health.

Como superar um chefe sorrateiro?

A primeira coisa que tem de fazer é tomar uma decisão final sobre se quer ficar no seu emprego atual ou demitir-se e encontrar um novo emprego.

Se, apesar de tudo, decidir ficar, tem de elaborar um plano para lidar com o seu chefe e pô-lo no seu lugar de uma vez por todas. No início, deve comportar-se normalmente, como se nada estivesse a acontecer.

Entretanto, é necessário acompanhar o seu comportamento em relação aos outros colegas e registar todos os erros que cometem.

Then, when you gather proof that they’re being unfair towards you, you should confront them. Let them know that you’ve decided to put an end to their toxic, bullying behavior. From that moment on, keep your interpersonal relationship plainly work-related.

Como é que sabe que o seu chefe é tóxico?

The truth is, most of us know if our bosses are toxic but simply decide to ignore it because we are afraid we’ll end up without a job. Unfortunately, most of us are even forced to work in a toxic environment.

For those of you who still don’t know or are wondering whether your boss might be toxic, criticizing or undermining you all the time are the first sinais de alerta para a sua toxicidade.

If you constantly work very hard to prove yourself or to gain their trust, and they still clearly show a lack of trust, trust me, it’s up to them. Their toxicity simply won’t allow them to recognize you as a good worker.

Also, if you notice that they behave differently when other people are around than when you two are alone, you should see it as a red flag that you’re dealing with a toxic boss.

Confrontá-los ou demitir-se graciosamente!

Now, if you’ve noticed these signs you are being set up to fail, you need to react immediately. Tem duas opções: reunir forças e enfrentar a pessoa que o quer ver despedido, mesmo que seja o seu patrão, ou despedir-se sozinho.

Se escolher a primeira opção, deve começar por melhorar a sua autoestima. Depois, confronte essa pessoa e diga-lhe claramente que não deve voltar a interferir no seu trabalho.

And if you think you can’t stay in that toxic environment anymore, you have every right to quit and find a new job. For a new and fresh start, write a new resume and cover letter, and hopefully, you’ll run into the right recruiter who will match you with a job in which you’ll feel more respected.