My whole life I used to think I needed to change for a man. Whatever I did, nothing felt good enough so I constantly tried to fit into some different standard as I thought that would make me more attractive. Oh girl, I was so wrong!
“What do you think made James put a ring on it? My looks?” – said Emily, my recently engaged friend.
“Well, I don’t know anymore! Last night I spent hours analyzing fashion magazines. It started as a mission to figure out what they like and ended as a cry session while being even more confused.” – I responded.
“Oh dear, good looks might attract a man at first, but he surely won’t stay purely because you’re hot. They are not as shallow as we think they are. It’s about how we can talk for hours without getting sick of each other, the way I stand by his side no matter what and care for him when the world puts too much burden on his shoulders.”
Our conversation was like an instant eye-opener. I decided I would focus on my other qualities and embrace my real self, my hobbies, and my passions. Ever since I embodied these traits, men naturally gravitate towards me!
Trust me when I say, he’ll be head over heels for you if you’re…
1. Confident and self-assured
Being confident is like a magic trick that can attract anyone. Seriously, for men, a self-assured woman is like a dream. I mean, it’s kinda logical, no one wants to be with someone who drags themselves down and just brings negativity.
So girl, wherever you go, carry your confidence like a crown, and walk tall and proud! If you are going to a party (or anywhere honestly) don’t doubt yourself even a tiny bit! Own that place, show them who you are, speak up, let them see you know you’re that girl!
You’ll see that men are naturally attracted to you when you stand among others and you’re not afraid to take up space.
2. Smart and not afraid to show it
Intelligence is the new sexy. Period! Sure, men can be intimidated by it as well, but it’s crazy how that somehow makes them want you even more. When a woman is beautiful, that’s cool, but imagine being both brains and beauty, now that’s something!
If you know you’re smart, have your own opinions, and have the ability to talk about any topic, that will always make you powerful and interesting in men’s eyes.
Men love a woman who can challenge their minds and make every conversation more interesting. Next time you have something smart to say, don’t hold yourself back!
3. Down-to-earth and genuine
Women sometimes confuse being confident with being too cocky. Yeah, honestly, that can look pretty unattractive.
Being self-aware is amazing but if you think you are better than everyone men will avoid you as much as they can. Always try to stay humble, especially when speaking about yourself and your qualities.
Girl you don’t need to brag about stuff, just let your actions speak for themselves! If you have the opportunity to show off your qualities, go for it, but trust me, he’ll notice that without you having to say a word.
4. Open to exploring new things
There’s something about spontaneous women that is just so cool and captivating, right? Being adventurous will always shake things up and make it so much more fun.
If he invites you to a random trip somewhere, pack your bags, girl! He wants to take you to that new place you wouldn’t usually go, get dressed, and call a taxi! And who knows, maybe you also discover a new passion along the way!
Even if it doesn’t work out well, just imagine the stories you can share! I once went bungee jumping with a guy and I screamed my lungs out! It was crazy, I still tell that story to this day!
5. Caring for your mind and body
Okay, this shouldn’t be a problem, right? We love being pampered more than anything in the world. Self-care is something we enjoy and the best thing is that men love women who take care of themselves!
And honey, it’s not always about putting cucumber slices on your eyes and that sheet mask. Caring about your mind and mental well-being is also important, maybe even more!
This is what men really appreciate, women who don’t neglect themselves, whether that be physical appearance or inside beauty. I mean this goes the other way around as well, you don’t want a man who can’t take care of himself right? Well, neither does he.
6. Nurturing as every woman should be
I know we love to care for ourselves, but nurturing others is also a part of us. So what are you waiting for? Embrace it!
No one expects you to act like his mother, but showing him kindness, taking care of him, and showing empathy when needed is what every man wishes for. They want someone who will understand the things they go through and help them get up when they fall.
Just look at the world we live in! Men are mocked for showing their emotions and feelings. So naturally, they want to feel safe with you to express their worries without being scared of judgment. So cuddle your man and show him some love too, damn it!
7. Loyal like a man to his football team
You know how men pick their favorite football club when they’re kids and literally never leave their side?
It doesn’t matter if they suck, lose a game or win the championship. Even if some other team is better, they would never leave them. They will be there through all the ups and downs.
Well, that pretty much sums up what they look for in a woman. Men want a woman who will be their biggest cheerleader.
And don’t think this only means you shouldn’t cheat on him, be there for him through thick and thin and then see what happens. You know what they say, behind every great man is an even greater woman.
8. Not about the money, money…
Now let me tell you something, in a world full of gold diggers, loving a man for more than just his possessions will automatically give you a head start. Men want to be loved for more than just the numbers in their bank account.
It doesn’t matter if he buys you an expensive necklace or just an ice cream in the park. Show the same level of happiness and gratitude!
We hate when men are attracted to us solely because of our looks, so why do you think they will want a woman who’s only after their fat wallet?
Stop stressing yourself about superficial things! Focus on the things that make you a woman. Embrace your femininity and nurturing nature. Show your confidence, don’t hide behind your insecurities! Be open to adventures and cheer him all the time. You’ll be surprised by the results!