Has your man become distant and cold all of a sudden? Has he distanced himself to the point you can no longer get through him, and you can’t help but wonder if he’s thinking about leaving you?
I have something that will dispel or confirm all your doubts: a list of warning signs the relationship is over for him.
By the time you finish reading this article, you’ll know if your man is really over you. I’ve also added a few tips that will help you endure it all and accelerate your healing process.
27 Warning Signs The Relationship Is Over For Him
A list of the most obvious red flags and warning signs of a failing relationship:
1. He’s distancing himself
Maybe he has some personal issues, or his emotions are all mixed up, and he doesn’t know how to speak to you about it. On the other hand, it may also be because his feelings for you have changed, and he doesn’t have the guts to admit it.
My relationship advice to you is that you should try to confront him about it. Tell him that you’ve noticed he’s become distant, and you want to know what the real reason for his behavior is.
2. And, pushing you away
On the flip side, if you’ve already tried to do that and he only pushed you away and distanced himself even more, it’s clear that something is off.
Now, it’s up to you to figure out what that ‘something’ is. Is he really struggling with some other issue, or has he indeed stopped loving you?
3. The lack of trust is obvious (from both sides)
The problem is that he’s not the only one in your relationship who has trust issues – you’ve also started doubting his feelings. His suspicious behavior has brought you to the point that you no longer trust in his love.
If you don’t start working on rebuilding trust between you, sooner or later, it will make one or both of you walk away.
4. He stops reaching out on a regular basis
Is poor not even a good enough word to describe your communication? And even if you’ve tried hard to improve it, you can’t because the other side doesn’t show any interest in doing so?
I’m sorry I have to break it to you like this, but it’s a clear sign your significant other doesn’t care for you as much as you think he does (actually, he probably doesn’t care for you at all).
Although, it may also be a sign that he just isn’t ready for a committed relationship. Maybe you’ve talked about taking your relationship to the next level, and it freaked him out. These are just assumptions, and your man is the only one who knows the real reason.
5. You keep fighting, and he keeps blaming you for everything
Do you constantly fight over unimportant, little things, and you can’t find a way to put a stop to them? No matter what you do, does he always blame you for everything?
Be smart and don’t fall for those manipulations. You know you haven’t done anything wrong, and he’s the one who needs to gather the courage to break up with you directly without manipulating you.
6. No matter what you do, it’s impossible to please him
If your man has become impossible to talk to, deal with, live with… it’s more than obvious that something is bothering him.
You can try to please him and cheer him up, but it most definitely won’t work – you’ll only drive yourself crazy. What you need to do is figure out the root cause of his behavior.
Did you do something that made him angry? Does he have any personal issues like problems with his family or at work?
If you can’t figure out any possible cause for his intolerable moodiness, it’s probably because there isn’t any. He’s simply over you and can’t stand being around you.
7. He’s started spending a lot of time with his buddies…
If he’s started spending more time with his pals and going out, it’s a bad sign that his priorities have changed.
Sure, it’s completely normal to spend time with other people outside your relationship, but your partner must always come first. You should never neglect them for your friends or loved ones.
8. …While he limits spending time with you
Before, spending time with you was his priority, but, all of a sudden, that’s changed, and now, you rarely even see him. I know that feeling of being crossed off your partner’s priority list well, and, trust me, I know how awful and heartbreaking it is.
It feels like you’re chasing him all the time, and I know… You’re tired of that chase.
Then, all you have to do is stop chasing. He’s obviously running away from you and doesn’t want to be caught.
9. He’s become an expert in the art of making excuses
How do you know when a relationship is over for him? Simple answer: he starts avoiding you and becomes a high-level expert in making nonsense excuses.
He isn’t ready to call it quits just yet, and he’s keeping you as a backup. Now, it’s up to you to choose whether you’ll let him manipulate you or run him off, together with his excuses.
10. He stops being your number one support
He was the person you could talk to about anything. He was your go-to person whenever you had a problem or wanted to share some good news. He was your greatest support and number one fan.
He WAS… That’s the point. Now, he’s just a man who once loved you, a man who doesn’t have the guts to spill the beans and admit that he’s over you.
11. You constantly walk on eggshells when he’s around
When you’re in a healthy relationship, you feel comfortable around your significant other. You feel like you can talk and share everything with them because you know they will never judge you or make you feel bad because of it.
If you feel like you’re walking on eggshells, if you feel like you need to carefully choose your words with your partner, it’s a huge red flag your relationship is toxic.
Actually, it’s not important whether he loves you or not anymore. The only important thing for you is to realize the consequences that a toxic relationship may leave on you and get out of it as soon as possible.
12. The emotional disconnection
Is the reason you doubt his feelings towards you poor communication? You’ve stopped sharing your thoughts and feelings, which has led to an emotional disconnection, leading to you growing apart.
This doesn’t mean he’s stopped loving you, but it’s definitely a sign that his feelings are changing. If you don’t find a way to connect with him soon, you’ll lose him forever.
13. You can’t even remember the last time he expressed his love for you
Okay, it’s clear by now that he has stopped showing his love for you through his actions. However, can you remember when the last time he simply told you he loved you was?
You can’t, I know because it was a long, looooong time ago. Well, you can actually see it as something positive: at least he doesn’t want to lie to you.
14. He turns your dates into ‘Netflix and chill’
The only thing that really functions in your relationship is your sex life. However, you can’t feel good about it because it makes you feel like you’re in a casual relationship.
Sex shouldn’t only make you feel physically good. It should also strengthen your intimate and emotional bond.
If your man doesn’t want to stay the night, if he always gives you some lame excuse just to leave immediately after you’ve done the deed, it’s a huge red flag he doesn’t love you.
15. The romance is long gone
He was so romantic before… He always tried to surprise you with small romantic gestures, and through those little things, you knew for sure that he loved you.
Are all those things now in the past, and you only get silence and disrespect from his side? I think things are pretty clear here. Do you really need any more red flags, or is this one red enough for you to finally leave him?
16. The spark has also faded away
When the romance dies in a romantic relationship, the spark dies with it too.
The fact is, you can love each other deeply, but if there is no spark, if you don’t work on reigniting it, you’ll eventually get sick of one another.
17. The lack of jealousy
A healthy dose of jealousy is always good for a romantic relationship. It shows that partners care for each other and are afraid to lose one another.
If your man stops showing jealousy even when he really has a reason for it, you have every right to suspect that he no longer loves you like he used to.
18. He’s no longer excited to make plans with you
Have you made any plans for the future together? Was your significant other eager to make plans and dream about the future with you? That means he was really aiming for a committed relationship with you.
However, if that has changed, if he starts avoiding those talks, it’s a warning sign that those ‘aims’ and his plans have changed. Maybe his plans have stayed the same, but one of the main characters has changed.
19. You’ve found traces of infidelity
If this is the case, then do you really need any more signs the relationship is over for him? If he could cheat on you, it’s more than obvious that he doesn’t love you.
20. Your loved ones also realize that something is off
Are you not the only one who’s noticed that your partner is acting strange? Have your friends and family also noticed?
Well, it’s possible that you’re wrong, but it’s less likely that all of you are wrong and that nothing is truly happening with your relationship.
21. He’s become abusive
If your man has become aggressive or even abusive, it’s a good sign he doesn’t love you anymore.
Well, he probably never loved you in the first place because only a coward would be able to hurt and abuse a woman he was once in love with.
Needless to say… Don’t ever allow any man to abuse you in any way, no matter how much you love him, because that is the worst and most unfair thing you can do to yourself.
22. He deeply affects your mental health
Is your significant other the reason you’ve been depressed and anxious? Well, if your partner affects your emotional and mental health, it’s one of the telltale signs the relationship is over for him.
It’s simple actually: if he cared for you, he wouldn’t allow his actions to hurt you in this way. He would never do anything to hurt you because he would feel your pain as his own.
23. He shoots down every attempt you make to save the relationship
You try and try and try to save your relationship but constantly fail. And the only reason for those failures is that he doesn’t want it to happen.
He doesn’t want to give your relationship another chance because he wants you to take separate paths.
24. He goes crazy when you mention couples therapy
If he refuses to seek help from a relationship coach, it’s a clear sign that he isn’t willing to work on fixing your relationship.
Rebuilding a romantic relationship is a two-way street. It most definitely can’t be done if only one side is ready to put effort into making things work again.
25. You simply haven’t felt loved for a long period of time
Constant fights, humiliation, him pulling away and hurting you… Even though you still don’t want to admit it to yourself, you simply feel that his heart has changed.
26. The love has weakened on your side too
You might try to fool yourself, but deep down, you know this is true. Stop blaming yourself and suppressing your feelings because it’s normal that you can’t love someone who keeps hurting you.
I know that you’ve also started thinking about ending your romantic relationship, and you have every right to do so.
Don’t stay where you’re not welcome, and don’t ever allow someone to treat you like you aren’t worthy of being loved.
27. He calls it quits
That’s it, the final and definitely most obvious sign the relationship is over for him: He finally admits that his feelings have changed and breaks up with you.
I agree that it’s something he should have done as soon as he stopped loving you. However, you should feel thankful to God because your agony has finally ended, and now you know where exactly you stand.
What To Do If Your Doubts Come True
If you’ve recognized most of these warning signs of a failing relationship, then you must think about your next steps. There are two possible scenarios, and I’m about to walk you through them.
• Give him time and space
If you’re in a long-term relationship, this may truly be only a phase. Maybe you got stuck in a rut, and it simply drained him.
If that’s the case, he’s probably confused and doesn’t know what to do next. My relationship advice to you is to leave him alone. Stop chasing him, and let him be alone with his own thoughts and emotions.
• Go no contact for a while
Most relationship experts would agree that the best thing you should do is go no contact for a while. That will give both of you time to sort out your thoughts and feelings so you can arrive at the best possible decision regarding the future of your relationship.
If he comes back, if he reaches out first, it’s a good sign that he still loves you. On the other hand, if you don’t get any response after that time, it means that he’s truly done with you.
• Then, break the silence and try to win him over again
If you miss him, and he still doesn’t reach out to you after a while, you’re allowed to break the no contact rule and reach out first.
The whole point of a healthy relationship is that couples need to have open and healthy communication. So, invite him out and start talking.
Be direct and put all your cards on the table. Open up about your feelings and all the things that are bothering you. Also, listen carefully to what he has to say and try to understand him.
• Suggest couples therapy
If you still love each other, there is no problem you can’t overcome together. As long as there is love, there’s also hope to save your relationship.
If you both want to fight for your relationship, you should seek professional help. Let a relationship coach navigate you through solving your issues and help you rebuild your relationship.
IF that doesn’t work…
If your man doesn’t come back, you simply need to accept the truth that he’s over you and focus on your healing and moving forward.
• Come to terms with the truth
Your significant other no longer wants you in their life. As hard as it is to accept it, it’s a fact, and the sooner you learn to come to terms with it, the sooner you’ll move on.
I know it’s not a great consolation, but you aren’t the first person to go through this. Many of us have been in your situation and managed to recover from it, and you will too.
• Be proud of yourself for trying
You fought and tried hard to save your relationship, and that is something you should really be proud of. If you didn’t try, you would be left with regrets forever.
There would always be that what if, and you would blame yourself for not even trying to save your relationship. This way, you’ll know it wasn’t you, and trust me: it’ll help you move on faster.
• Know when to let go
When all hope is gone, force yourself to accept your reality and move the hell on. There is no point dwelling on what could have been when it’s clear that all of it was just a dream.
This is your reality, a not-so-great one, I agree, but it’s yours, and you need to accept it and live with it.
• Now, you need to give yourself time… to heal
You gave him time to think about you and your relationship, and now it’s time to give yourself time. Don’t hurry with moving on.
Your heart is aching, and you only need to focus on healing it. If you move on before you heal, you’ll only be left with an awful burden that will prevent you from forming a healthy relationship with another man.
• Break free from grudges
Don’t hold grudges. Don’t feel regret. God will send many people on your path, and He’ll use some of them to teach you valuable lessons.
And that’s how you should look at your relationship: as a huge lesson. Now, you’re equipped with more caution for the next person who comes into your life, and you won’t allow someone else to hurt you like this ever again.
How Do You Know When A Man Is Done With The Relationship?
Of course, all couples go through rough patches, and there will be times when your man might distance himself or pull away. However, once the affection disappears, once he stops treating you as his priority, that’s when you’ll know he’s done with you for good.
Most of the time, you won’t be able to recognize him… You’ll feel that he isn’t the man you fell in love with.
He’ll start doing things behind your back. Actually, he’ll keep doing things that hurt you and won’t even bother to think about how those things make you feel.
Whether he comes clean about his (lack of) feelings or not, deep down, you’ll simply know. You may struggle to accept that he’s over you, but you’ll definitely know before he even admits it to you.
Should I Wait For Him Or Move On?
Truth to be told, you’re the only person who can answer this question correctly. Both are okay: you can wait for him IF you truly love him and think it’s all just a phase. Or, you come to terms with the truth, move on, and try to heal your broken heart as soon as possible.
The answer to this question lies in your heart. However, that doesn’t mean you should neglect yourself completely in the process of making the final decision.
Your emotions are important, but that still doesn’t mean it’s justification enough for you to stay in a relationship or fight for someone who doesn’t love you.
When Should You Let A Guy Go?
When it’s obvious that his feelings for you have disappeared. Don’t try to deceive yourself that you may change what’s in his heart because, no matter what you do, you can’t make someone love you.
As long as you honestly believe that he still loves you, you should fight for him. However, the first moment you realize the love has gone, you need to stop trying and give up on him.
Did you recognize most of these signs the relationship is over for him? Does your man’s behavior match most of these behavioral patterns above?
If your answer is yes, then, unfortunately, it’s a bad sign that you need to let go of him. Save your heart from further pain and move on.
In the end, if your man is dumb enough to leave you, you need to show him that you’re smart enough to let him go.