You’ve finally found that amazing person who loves you, respects you, and takes good care of you. You should be deliriously happy but…
You’ve started feeling blue and decided that there must be something wrong with you to feel this way when you have all that you have.
Hold on… don’t jump to conclusions. It’s possible that your wonderful love is exactly what’s causing your sad, nostalgic feelings.
Things have changed for you, and you’re learning how to deal with it. Take a look at these 7 possible reasons why you’re depressed because you’re in love.
1. Dating a nice person for a change freaks you out
You’ve finally broken the awful pattern of dating toxic people, congratulations!
Now, being with someone who is nice, who treats you like you’re special, loves you, nurtures you, and is careful about what they say and do to you can feel strange.
There might have been a whole lot of chaos in your life that is suddenly missing.
Everything you’re feeling right now probably just points to the fact that you need some time to get used to the new normal because this has obviously been a huge change for you.
2. You thought that your relationship would solve all your issues
There are many people who hope that once they find their forever person and maintain a healthy relationship filled with love and respect all of their problems will simply go away.
There is absolutely no way a relationship can cure all of your feelings of sadness or emptiness, or solve your deeper issues such as low self-esteem or anxiety.
It can make a little bit of difference to be in a safe place with a person you love, but to truly solve your issues and grow, you have to work on it yourself.
3. Lack of drama bores you or you can’t get used to it
There could have been a whole lot of drama in your previous relationships and now you feel completely lost without it.
The peace you’re feeling might be confused with boredom, don’t let yourself think that way.
It’s perfectly normal for it to take some getting used to, but don’t start thinking that you need all the drama in your life to be happy.
4. Your forever person dreams have been achieved
Something preoccupied you for a certain period of time: finding your forever person. Now, when you actually have that special person in your life, you seem less excited than you should be. Why?
This doesn’t mean that the person you’ve chosen isn’t right. It simply means that reaching your goal has left you somewhat aimless. It happens whenever we reach a goal in life and it’s perfectly okay.
Your brain needs stimulation and challenge, so you should find it in other areas of your life.
5. Settling down freaks you out completely
It’s not that you’re freaked out by committing to that special someone. It’s just that settling down in general freaks you out – you just don’t like the idea.
It makes you feel like your life will suddenly get very boring.
The most important thing to remember is that your relationship doesn’t have to be like anyone else’s. It can be as exciting and thrilling as you want it to be.
The kind of life you consider less of a thrill than you need isn’t there waiting for you, it’s you who makes the decision how to live your own life.
6. You’ve lost yourself
Falling in love is amazing, but losing yourself in that love completely sucks.
If your partner is the one who controls everything in your relationship, determining its course and you’re letting him, that can’t feel very good.
You may feel like your dreams are waiting while you give everything you have to your relationship.
If you can’t remember the last time you did something you actually enjoyed, it’s time for you to change things.
Just because you’re in a loving relationship doesn’t mean you should abandon your personal interests.
7. You kind of miss being single
Now, this is absolutely normal. Just because you truly love someone doesn’t mean that a part of you doesn’t miss being single.
Firstly, people almost always feel like the grass is greener on the other side.
Secondly, it’s a possibility that you didn’t really live life to the fullest while you were single and now you’re starting to regret that.
The best way to deal with this is to realize that there’s no reason you can’t have fun and truly live life to the fullest during your relationship days as well.
Being in a committed relationship shouldn’t mean that the fun ends there. If you’re with a partner who thinks otherwise, then you might want to reconsider your relationship.
