For a relationship to be a good one, partners need to be honest. Honesty plays an important role not only in love relationships but also in maintaining successful relationships with your friends, family and your business co-workers.
It is normal to want to share things about your life with your partner. It is normal to want to share your dreams, hopes and fears with him.
However, honesty can be tricky.
We should be honest with our partner and that goes without saying. But there are some things that we should keep to ourself.
You see, being too honest at times can end up causing unnecessary misunderstandings or we can end up hurting someone.
Keeping certain things to yourself does not mean you are being dishonest. It just means that you are being mature enough to respect your own privacy.
Here are some things that you better not share with your partner:
1. Your friends’ secrets
Secrets are called secrets for a reason. They are told in utmost privacy.
If your friends pick you to confide in, then it means they think of you as a very trustworthy person.
Do you want to betray their trust? I didn’t think so.
It is completely unnecessary to share your friends’ secrets with your partner.
He does not need to know who Sally has a crush on or that Martha had plastic surgery… Get my point?
Revealing someone’s secret is a total lack of respect for that person.
So next time you feel like sharing some secret with your man, remind yourself that it is better to keep it to yourself. After all, you sure do not want to lose a good friend.
2. Compliments you get from other guys
I know that getting compliments from other guys is a great chance to make your partner jealous.
You probably want to emphasize the fact that despite many guys wanting you, you chose him. And it is perfectly normal that you want your partner to feel that you are special.
But if you are bragging all the time about other guys complimenting you, don’t be surprised if your partner gets the idea that you are the one who is provoking other men and that you are the one enjoying it.
Talking about other men showing interest in you can evoke insecurities in your man.
He might begin to think that you will replace him with one of those men. Even worse, he might become super controlling and jealous.
3. Too many details about your past relationships
It is okay to share certain things about your past relationships with your partner but don’t go into details!
If all of a sudden you start talking about your ex and the relationship you had with him, your partner will think that you are comparing the two of them or that you haven’t gotten over your ex yet.
It will also be a red flag that you are not satisfied with the direction your current relationship is heading in.
Furthermore, if your partner happens to be a narcissist, too many details about your past relationships will come in handy and he could use them against you.
4. Rumors or jokes you hear about him
You probably have the best of intentions when telling your partner about rumors that somebody spread about him.
However, if those rumors are very mean, think twice before telling him! Your partner’s feelings may get hurt and that is the last thing you want.
The best thing to do is avoid telling him about either the rumors that have nothing to do with your relationship and the rumors that will end up hurting him.
We can see that honesty is great but having a little bit of privacy will hurt nobody.