No girl wants to be perceived as too clingy or needy. The last thing she wants is to beg for your love and attention because let’s face it—that would be desperate.
That is why she’ll keep quiet about some little things she would like you to do for her. These are all the things which don’t require much effort but will help you make your girl happy.
But you are not a mind reader and you can’t know what it is that your girlfriend wants if she doesn’t say it out loud, right? Well, that’s why we are here to present you with 4 things every girlfriend secretly wants her boyfriend to do but will never ask him for.
1. To cuddle her without it having to lead to sex
Women enjoy sex the same way men do—there is no doubt about that. But sometimes, there are more intimate things a couple can do besides having sex. Sometimes, we just want to cuddle without it leading to anything more or without feeling obligated to return the favor.
Trust me—your girlfriend would like you to passionately kiss her out of nowhere. She loves to fall asleep in your arms and she loves the way she feels protected when you hold her in your arms until she falls asleep. She will enjoy you holding her hand or gently touching her hair.
She enjoys seeing you show her any form of affection because for us, that is a sign you care and that you see us as more than a sexual object. But she will probably never ask you directly to do any of these things because she is waiting for you to do them yourself.
2. To surprise her
Not all girls will expect you to buy them expensive gifts or to take them out on a fancy date. They don’t need you surprising them with a candle-lit dinner or a bubble bath every other night. They don’t need grand romantic gestures you copied from a cheesy romantic comedy.
But every girl enjoys little surprises, especially if it is something special for the two of you. We enjoy knowing that you think of us even if it’s not our birthday or anniversary. We love to know that you paid attention when we told you we liked those shoes months ago or if you remembered to get us a book by our favorite author.
Remember—the effort is what counts. Your girl will be more than happy if you just take her breakfast in bed on a Sunday morning or if you take her out to see her favorite band play live.
3. To express your feelings
It is a fact that women are known to be much more expressive about their feelings than men. But it doesn’t mean we don’t enjoy hearing our better half talk to us about their emotions.
No, she won’t think of you as less of a man if you tell her you love her. She won’t use your weak sides and vulnerabilities against you. Instead, she will be more than happy to see that you started opening up to her.
So please, don’t be afraid to express your feelings to your girlfriend. It doesn’t mean that you have to tell her how much you love her every single day or that you have to be overly romantic—just make sure she always feels loved and wanted.
4. To include her in your life
Your girl knows that you need your space. She knows that you had a life before her and she doesn’t have any intention of spending every second of her free time with you.
But it is nice when she feels that you have the need to include her in your life more. It is nice when she sees that you have the desire to take her to meet your family or to ask her to hang out with your friends from time to time. She wants to feel like a part of you and she wants to be accepted.
Of course, this is something your girl will never ask you to do because the last thing she wants is for you to feel like she is suffocating you. She doesn’t want to feel like she is forcing you to do something you don’t want to do but she’ll definitely feel emotionally neglected if you don’t put in the effort to let her in and to include her in your everyday life.
I am an English Language and Literature teacher. I am a writer. I am a daughter, a sister, a friend… But most of all, I am a woman, just like you.
A woman who has experienced the same things you’ve been going through. A woman who’s been fighting battles similar to yours. A woman who wants you to learn from her mistakes and who wants to help you empower yourself.