6 Things To Consider When Your Ex Is Begging For Another Chance
He fucked things up and now he’s at your door, kneeling and begging you to give him another chance. So what do you do?
Do you open your arms immediately and hug him, thanking God that he sent him back to you? Or do you slam the door in his face, telling him to get the fuck out of your life and never come back again?
I’m sorry to tell you that in this situation, there is no right answer. You can never be sure that he’s changed and that he’ll never repeat the same mistakes again. But there is something else that you can do.
You can think about these 6 things that will help you bring about a wise decision without regretting if you decide to give him a second chance.
1. The quality of time spent together
The first thing that you should think about is how long you guys were together. Was it a year or two or just a few days or weeks?
The second thing that you need to ask yourself is whether you spent that time in constant fights or enjoyment? If you’d been fighting all the time since the beginning, the chances are that you’re never meant to be, regardless of the length of time spent together.
But if you’d been enjoying it most of the time without any serious fights, you probably found yourself in the middle of a relationship crisis that has destroyed you but which can be fixed, of course.
2. The reason for your break-up
The most important thing that you need to consider is the reason why the two of you parted. Was he cheating on you? Was it just another fight that escalated to the extent of not wanting to see each other again? Was it his annoying habits or similar?
Whatever the reason may be, weigh up all of the pros and cons in order to find the balance to your decision. And always ask yourself: Would that decision make me happy? Think only about your happiness because you owe to yourself that much.
3. Do you have trust issues?
If he’s cheated on you, you will probably have a hard time beginning to trust him again. Trust is the base of every relationship and if you’re lacking it, you will never be able to establish firm boundaries that are essential to your happiness.
Think of the reason for your break-up and ask yourself if you’ll be able to trust him again. If the answer is yes, then you should consider giving him another chance.
But if deep down in your soul you know that the answer is no, don’t bother welcoming him back into your life again and that way, you’ll be doing both of you a favor.
4. Have you already forgotten him?
Has he knocked on your door a little bit too late? Have you already moved on and forgotten that he even exists? If yes, then you shouldn’t even think about giving him another chance because if you are really in love with him, you wouldn’t have forgotten him that easily.
If two people are meant to be, they are unable to forget each other, even years after a break-up. It is because their souls are constantly reminding them of that person with whom they are supposed to be and the universe will do everything in its power to bond you again.
5. Why does he want you back?
When he starts begging you to give him a second chance, simply ask him: Why? What is the reason for you wanting a second chance? Why do you want me back?
The reasons are various. It could be because he really loves you and feels sorry about everything he’s done to you, or because he wants to manipulate you, or just because of sex.
When it comes to this, just trust your intuition and I’m sure you’ll make the right choice. Also, pay attention to his body language and other circumstances.
6. How did he tell you that he wants you back?
There’s a huge difference between texting that he misses you and wants you back and showing up saying that he’s sorry for everything and begging you to give him another chance. If he’s texted you that he wants you back and especially if he’s texted you at 3 am. and by his texting style, you know that he’s drunk as fuck, do not believe a word of his!
If he really wanted a second chance, he would have made sure to take his ass to you at a decent time and recite Shakespeare if need be. Just pay attention to this and I’m sure you’ll be able to make a wise decision as to whether you should welcome him back again or tell him to get the fuck out of your life and never come back again.
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