When you start any kind of relationship, especially an intimate one, you hope that being ghosted is the last thing that would happen to you.
But, unfortunately, it happens pretty often nowadays.
And the worst thing is that ghosted people often feel confused and disappointed because they don’t know why it happened to them.
They always think that they are the guilty ones, while, in most cases, the real guilty ones don’t even think about it.
Going through something like this can be very uncomfortable, but if you know what to do, it can be less painful.
So, here are some tips that can help you after being ghosted.
1. Don’t think you are the guilty one
Most people will immediately start thinking that they are the guilty ones, but that is not the truth.
If you are being ghosted, just know that you are the victim in the whole process.
So, don’t freak out and don’t think that something is wrong with you.
You don’t have anything to do with it. You just had bad luck to bump into someone who didn’t appreciate you and that’s it.
So, stop sweating the small stuff and move on. Trust me, the less you think about it, the easier it will be for you.
2. Don’t change yourself
You know that saying, “One man’s trash is another man’s treasure”?
If you weren’t enough for one man and he ghosted you, it doesn’t mean that something is wrong with you and that you should change.
If one man doesn’t like you just the way you are, it doesn’t mean that another man will think the same.
There is someone who will fall head over heels in love with you, with all your craziness, neediness, and your sarcastic sense of humor.
There is a man who won’t try to change even a bit about you because he will love you madly.
So, don’t change yourself for a man who doesn’t deserve you. Stay faithful to yourself no matter what others think.
If you are not ready for a change and it happens, you will miss yourself terribly.
3. Express your feelings
When you find out that you are being ghosted, you should talk about it.
You need to express your feelings and let your best friends know what is happening in your life.
If you keep it to yourself, you will just overthink and you won’t figure out why that happened to you in the end.
But when you talk it out with someone who is close to you, it will be better.
You will realize that you are not the guilty one and that you shouldn’t feel bad about it.
Also, your friends will show you how to move on and how to get over someone who didn’t even want to give himself time to get to know you better.
Because if he did, he would never have left.
4. Burn the bridges between the two of you
If you were being ghosted and if you don’t know why, the best thing you can do is to cut all ties with him.
Don’t seek any explanations because that won’t make you feel better.
It will just make the whole situation worse and you won’t get the answers you want.
If you really want to get over someone, you should try to forget all about him.
If he didn’t want to make some effort to get to know you, then you shouldn’t be desperate and chase him.
He is not the man who deserves you and you would never be truly happy with him.
So, let it go before you get hurt even more. Trust me, that is the best thing you can do for yourself.
5. Be happy because he left
Maybe you felt it from the first contact, but you didn’t want to believe it.
Maybe you felt he was never as into you as you him, but you didn’t pay attention to that.
But now, after all fell into place, everything makes sense.
Everything is crystal clear and you are mad at yourself for not cutting him out of your life earlier.
But you shouldn’t worry about that because it is never too late for the good things. If he left you, don’t cry.Instead, be happy.
Be happy because you saved yourself from pain and agony. Now that you are free again, enjoy your life and take care of your mind and body.
Do all that will help you feel better and live every day like it is your last one.
6. Don’t overthink why it happened
When you lose someone or something unexpectedly, you will probably have the urge to overthink why it happened.
You will try to find reasons, but you won’t be able to do a whole lot about it. That’s why you shouldn’t ruminate on it at all because it will be only worse.
If someone left you without any explanation, you shouldn’t be the one to chase after him and ask why he did it.
The best thing you can do in a situation like that is to actually let go of it all.
If it mattered to them, they would stick, but obviously, they don’t see themselves with you to stay and fight for what you have.
Trust me, when you accept what happened and let it all go, you will finally find the peace you deserve.
7. Move on
Moving on can be very difficult, but that is what you need to do if you want to be happy again.
Just because one man gave up on you, doesn’t mean that you are not good enough.
It just means that he was the wrong one and you should try to find someone who will look at you like you’re the apple of his eye.
When you finally move on, you will realize that you were holding onto something that wasn’t real for so long, and because of that, you couldn’t find the right one for yourself.
It will be hard in the beginning, but once you experience real happiness, you will understand that good things don’t happen overnight.
Once you move on from what was preventing you from being happy, you will give the best gift to yourself.