Here’s The Tough Truth: If He Loved You, He Wouldn’t Have Left You
Being left behind by the person you love the most is heartbreaking and one of the most painful things you can go through—there is no doubt about that. But what is even more devastating is accepting that the reason this person walked away from you was because he simply didn’t love you.
Because let’s face it—the last thing you want to admit is that the love you feel is unrequited, even though it is the only truth. So instead of admitting this to yourself, you keep finding justification for this guy’s actions and behavior.
Instead of accepting the truth, you continue making excuses for the fact that he walked away from you. You continue lying to yourself so you can keep on loving him and so you can keep on getting your hopes up and waiting for him to return to you, as if nothing happened.
Well, I hate to be the one to break it to you because I know this is the last thing you want to hear and something you are trying to run away from but this man doesn’t love you. I also know that deep down, you are very well aware of this painful reality but instead of looking it in the eye, you are spending all of this time silencing that little voice in your head that is telling you the harsh truth.
Don’t get me wrong—your ex might have loved you in the past or he might have had some feelings for you but it is more than obvious that he has stopped loving you, or that he doesn’t love you enough or the way you love him. Because the one who loves you doesn’t abandon you. Everything else is empty excuses.
No, he doesn’t need time to get his shit together. No, he hasn’t left you because he realized you were too good for him. No, it wasn’t the wrong timing. No, he isn’t emotionally unavailable or a commitment-phobe.
He simply doesn’t care enough to fight for your relationship. He doesn’t care enough to stay by your side through thick and thin and to do his best to resolve any issues the two of you might have.
Because when a real man loves you, he will stay by your side, no matter what happens. He will struggle next to you to make things work and he will try his hardest to overcome all the obstacles you two might find along the way.
When a man loves you, he is willing to make certain sacrifices for the sake of your relationship. He is ready to move mountains for your love and there is nothing and nobody who could stop him from doing so.
When a real man loves you, he loves you the same at your best and at your worst. He understands you and becomes your best friend and not just your lover.
This man doesn’t even think of walking away when the smallest inconvenience appears. Instead, he sees the two of you as partners in crime and he knows better than leaving his teammate behind.
When you are with a real man, he will do everything in his power to always find a reason to love you and he’ll never think you are not lovable. He’ll never compare you with other women because he could never picture himself next to anyone else except you.
For this man, leaving isn’t even an option, despite all the hardships the two of you might encounter. He knows that love needs hard work and backing out is never something he even considers doing.
But let’s face it—your ex isn’t this man and he could never have the capacity of becoming him. Instead, he was a coward who abandoned you at first glance of trouble. And that way, he showed you that he was never and never will be worthy of your love.
Yes, it’s hard getting over him but you need to understand that you are crying over someone who never deserved you. That you are putting your life on hold for someone who moved on a while ago.
And most importantly, you need to realize that you are actually lucky that you’ve gotten rid of this immature boy. That you should thank him for leaving you and for breaking your heart.
Because if he hadn’t done this, he wouldn’t have opened a path to this man who will come into your life and who will show you what true love is. He wouldn’t have made room for a man who will stay by your side through good and bad times and for a man who is meant to be your happily ever after.
A teacher. A dreamer. A writer. A woman who’s been through all of the things you are going through. A woman who’s learned on her mistakes and whose advice you can trust. A woman who is trying to find her place under the stars. A woman just like you.